Trust is the cornerstone of any good relationship. If you don’t trust your man, it’s a major problem. When I decided to get married, I did it knowing that I truly trusted my man. And I mean “for real” trust, not that fake trust when you say you trust someone but you are still trying to scroll through his text messages kind of trust. I’ve honestly never had the time or energy … [Read more...]
3 Keys to Having Tough Conversations with the One You Love
One of the things I hear a lot from couples who have communication issues is that they don’t know how to have the tough conversations. We are, often, so concerned about a reaction or about someone’s feelings, that we don’t have the capacity to have a conversation in love that’s best for everyone involved. And we're so focused on how things are being said, that we never really … [Read more...]
Ladies, Here’s the One Thing at the Root of Most of Your Relationship Pain
Even the best relationships experience moments of pain. Whether you’re with Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now, pain is often inevitable. Now, not all pain is equal, so sometimes the pain is momentary and easy to get over while other times, the pain feels like too much to bear, and it lingers. But regardless of the kind of relationship you are in, I have found one thing to be … [Read more...]
Why Your Spouse Doesn’t Need You to Be Brutally Honest
Brutal honesty is overrated. And this statement is coming from someone who values honesty above all other character traits. I think your word is all you have, and once I can’t trust your word, I don’t have much to talk to you about. One of the things I appreciate most about my marriage is my ability to trust my husband. So why am I knocking the idea of being brutally honest? … [Read more...]
25 Husbands Honestly Answer “What is the One Thing You Wish You Could Say to Your Wife…but You Can’t?”
Husbands and wives get intimate with BMWK and share some of the most intimate details and private thoughts about their relationship in our He said, She said lasting love series. Alright people. It's time for some truth. Our husbands and wives get really real when they answer "What is the one thing you wish you could say to your spouse...but you can't?" Check here to … [Read more...]
25 Wives Bravely Answer “What Is the One Thing You Wish You Could Say to Your Husband…but You Can’t?”
Husbands and wives get intimate with BMWK and share some of the most intimate details and private thoughts about their relationship in our He said, She said lasting love series. Alright people. It's time for some truth. Our husbands and wives get really real when they answer "What is the one thing you wish you could say to your spouse...but you can't?" Check here to … [Read more...]
Is It Ever Okay To Go Through Your Man’s Things?
If you haven’t been there personally, you probably have a friend who has—going through her man’s phone, wallet, car—wondering if she will stumble upon some incriminating evidence that he’s doing something wrong. Sometimes the evidence is there—clear as day, begging the question, did she really need to go through his things to figure that out? And sometimes, there is nothing … [Read more...]
One Example: How a Lack of Honesty Destroyed a Relationship
Couples are often misguided into thinking that it’s better to lie to their mate rather than be honest and risk hurting their feelings. Or they justify deceitful behavior by convincing themselves that what their mate doesn’t know won’t hurt them. My work as a Relationship Life Coach coupled with the many conversations I’ve have with friends, family, and colleagues confirms … [Read more...]
4 Reasons Friendship is Important in Your Marriage
My husband and I have been married for 17 years and he still makes me laugh all the time. Sometimes I just look at him and shake my head because he is so crazy. We talk daily about everything and we know we have each other’s back. We regard each other as best friends and feel friendship is important in all marriages and below are four reasons why. [imagebrowser id=356] … [Read more...]
Why My Male Friends Aren’t Ruining My Marriage
“Sure, that’s fine with me. Have a good time,” is what my husband said to me after I asked if he was okay with me meeting up with an old male friend of mine for dinner. Jokingly I said, “You know, most men probably wouldn’t be okay with that.” To which he said, “I’m not most men. I’m me. And when I married you, I agreed to trust you unconditionally – that means in every … [Read more...]
Changing Our Perspective Can Change Our Relationship
Our view of the world is what we hold to be true. Unfortunately our perceived truths can cause us to be judgmental, jaded, and detached. Over the course of our lives; our perceived truths provide numerous opportunities for us to accumulate a shipyard filled with the carnage from a lifetime of wrecked relationships, friendships, and partnerships. Simply put, our perceptions … [Read more...]
Your Spouse is Not a Mind Reader: Tell Them How You Really Feel
This post by my colleague Troy Spry caused quite a stir here on BMWK last week! He presented several scenario based insights into how we wives can inadvertently hurt our husband’s feelings. He shared some hard truths in his post and I was positively challenged to make some improvements in my behaviors as a wife! A common theme I noticed throughout the article, however, was … [Read more...]
3 Things Women Should Be Honest About When Dating
Some of us are guilty of an innocent lie or two. One that ladies are notorious for and will often admit to is the “it was on sale” lie when coming home with a shopping bag of freshly purchased items in tow. But there are some lies that can really cost you especially when it comes to your dating life. A recent article by Essence’s Kevin Carr reveals 10 things women should never … [Read more...]
Can You Appreciate a Too Honest Spouse?
If you can't and you seem to have one, I guess you better learn to appreciate the benefits complete honesty will bring. Early on in my marriage I remember trying to duplicate my mother-in-law's tuna recipe. However, I didn't check with her first and tried to wing it; thinking how hard could making a good batch of tuna actually be. Please keep in mind, I never took great … [Read more...]
Tell the Truth, Even When It Hurts
Growing up, my dad detested lies. That was the worst thing you could do in his house. He always told me and my brothers to tell him the truth no matter what. Of course we lied, on numerous occasions. Our misbehavior displeased my father; our lies hurt him. Now that I am a wife and a mother, I understand. When we lie to our loved ones, we dishonor them. We take for granted … [Read more...]