I married my best friend. Not everyone gets to say that so I'm grateful. At the time my now husband proposed, we'd been dating for a year and a half. We got married four months after he popped the question. We didn't need anything too fancy, or pricey. Rather than simply prepare for a wedding together, we prepared for a lifetime together. That's what marrying your best friend … [Read more...]
Be Careful Who You Pray For in a Spouse
"I prayed for a husband, and God answered my prayer." I hear it all the time from married women; however, their tone of voice isn't as gleeful as you might imagine. They prayed for a man who will love and adore them, yet they get annoyed when he wants to show affection and be close 24/7. They call this type of man "needy." What we fail to realize is that when we pray, God has … [Read more...]
20 Text Messages to Send Your Husband on Valentine’s Day
Men like to be flirted with. They love provocative speech and they love for women to be sassy and sexy. As you plan for Valentine's Day, consider incorporating a few sexy texts to whet his appetite for you. Have fun with your texts and be creative. Be as suggestive as you want to be or get straight to your message. I want you to have fun with it and show him your sexy … [Read more...]
His Lips, Her Hips, and These Tips Keep Romance Alive When Life Takes Over
Walk past most magazine racks in the grocery store and you are bound to be inundated with headlines boasting the "latest" or "hottest" or "kinkiest" bedroom tricks for couples eager to get it on. Let's face it. Keeping the mood sensual and the marriage bed beguiling is tough to do. For some couples, the honeymoon takes a backseat as life rears its necessary head after the first … [Read more...]
Top 3 Things that 18 Years of Marriage Have Taught Me
Anniversaries are super special in my house. I would never have imagined being married to my husband for eighteen years. Real talk, my parents didn't even think my husband Don and I would remain married past the first six months. They expressed this to us more times than I can count. Why would my parents think this, let alone have the nerve to verbalize this to us? Well, the … [Read more...]
Is It Okay for Love to Be Conditional?
If I had to say what I love most about my relationship with my husband, it would be how he loves me unconditionally. He’s never made me feel like his love for me has conditions attached to it. Never makes me fee like I am constantly trying to earn his love. For that, I adore him. I have seen people I love in relationships overflowing with conditions and it breaks my heart. … [Read more...]
Why Fighting For My Marriage is the Best Thing I’ve Ever Done
A few years ago, Don and I were at a crossroad in our marriage and we had to decide if we were going to remain married even though we didn’t like each other. It was not easy to live with this question hanging over my head nor was it pretty. The realization that we did not like each other was painful, but we had no idea how to break from it. One day, we decided to have a … [Read more...]
Seven Strategies that Saved My Marriage
I’m going to be totally honest with you: sometimes, I am annoyed when folks say they want a marriage like mine and Don’s. What they don’t know is that we experienced many ups and downs in our marriage. The 'downs' seemed to last forever. We’ve experienced the difficulties of blending a family, numerous periods of unemployment, a child going to jail, alcoholism and an emotional … [Read more...]
Challenge: 30 Days of Service to Your Spouse…Can You Handle It?
Don and I decided to do a 30 Days of Service Challenge after watching the below video by Comedian Mike Goodwin. Mike decided to do something every day to serve his wife for an extended period of time - - 30 days. I thought it was going to easy to knock out. Wrong! The first few days we were enthusiastic about out-serving each other. He made me breakfast in bed on more than one … [Read more...]
Remember, Your Kids are Learning How to Love by Watching You
I have two kids and one on the way. If there is anything they have taught me, it’s how to be more mindful of how I behave and interact with others. Kids are always watching you. Even when you think they aren’t, they are. I believe it’s their way of trying to make us better people. Now don’t get me wrong; I don’t think you should change who you are because your kids are … [Read more...]
Ladies, Can You Really Help a Man Grow Up?
Many women credit themselves as being nurturers, which is a great quality for mothers. But what about as wives and girlfriends? Is the pronouncement "I'm a nurturer by nature" really a woman's appeal to rationalize babying adult males? I purposely cited adult "males" not adult "men." Adult men don't need to be nurtured. Here's why. Nurture Let's begin by defining the term … [Read more...]
Why I Refuse to Let Guilt Tear Me Apart This Holiday Season
I had been living with a lot of guilt lately. It wasn't guilt because I personally did something wrong, but the guilt still robbed me of my joy and thanksgiving. Ironically, I had been feeling guilty for all the good things happening in my life recently. I wanted to rejoice that my parents and both my brothers along with their families would be with us at my brother's … [Read more...]
How God’s Sense of Humor Healed My Blended Family; Plus, 5 Tips for YOU
Many people ask, "how did you make your blended family work?" With so many couples turning to divorce in our society, I can see how this perplexes folks. My prayer is that these five tips will help you in this journey called LIFE. 1. Pray!!!! I am so serious about this. Bringing children and a spouse together is a totally different dynamic, which can make or break a new … [Read more...]
From Your Husband with Love; 5 Things Men Wish You Knew About Marriage
Dear Current & Future Wives, Okay, so let me go ahead and get this part out of the way! I know most women reading this first thought will be like “well, here we go again, why is it always about what women need to do.” All I ask you to do is read this letter with an open heart and mind and attempt to try and understand where many men are coming from so that we can bridge … [Read more...]
Attn: Christian Singles! 2 Major Areas You Should Address Before You Start a New Relationship
It's tough being a single person dating in today's singles environment. Being a Christian single adds even more layers of complexity, considering potential conflicts in morals, values, spiritual goals, etc.. There will be lots of hits, complete misses and close calls in terms of finding ideal candidates for your heart. But my recommendation is not to just jump into dating … [Read more...]