These days it seems the institution of matrimony is the most forgotten among many Christian churches. Sure there are churches that nurture marriages but many are neglecting to nurture marriages more intently. This goes hand in hand with our divorce rate of 40-50%. Right now, the institution of marriage is vulnerable to being downright demolished by a bulldozing secular … [Read more...]
5 Undeniable Signs There is Still Hope for Your Failing Marriage
Recently, I learned of a couple who, after 40 years of marriage, were struggling to keep their relationship afloat. Needless to say, I was shocked. And, while I have no intention of judging their situation, I do wonder where things went wrong. To be honest, it scared me. The good news is that they weren't just throwing in the towel. Somehow, they managed to hold a finger on the … [Read more...]
If Divorce is Not an Option, What is?
For those couples who’ve decided that divorce isn’t an option, what happens when you experience those marriage valleys? It's easy to think your current challenge will last always. You may feel the frustration and be all out of suggestions for improvements—especially within the confines of a marriage. In those moments, some couples automatically think of leaving. However, for … [Read more...]
Is Your Marriage Holding On by a Thread? Advice for Couples Survival Mode
One of my greatest passions is helping couples. I listened to God’s calling on my life nearly 10 years ago when He guided me into becoming a certified life and relationship coach. Since then, relationships and marriages have been my business. Everyone who knows me, knows how much I love the idea of love and how fascinated I am about making it work. This is the reason it … [Read more...]
9 Small Actions Causing Big Problems in Your Marriage
Do you want to help your marriage or hurt it? I’m sure you want to help it. I would hope that’s what any levelheaded person wants for their marriage. Even if you aren’t happy and you feel like your marriage is in trouble, you probably want to do whatever you can to help it—not hurt it. But sometimes, and even with the best intentions, we end up damaging our relationship with … [Read more...]
Here Are 5 Good Reasons to Stay in Your Marriage
Some things in life are worth fighting for, while others just aren’t. The decision about whether or not you should fight for something can be an easy one, but that usually isn’t the case. Usually, making that decision is tough. There’s often a lot to consider, and it can be hard to differentiate between what seems easiest and what’s actually best. So what do you do when the … [Read more...]
Wake-up Call: 3 Things that Are Truly Getting in the Way of Your Happy Marriage
Whenever you set goals, whether general life or career, you should envision achieving your desired outcome. It is also important, and necessary, to set an honest timetable to fulfill your dreams. Additionally, a crucial part of goal setting is being aware of possible obstacles that could affect your success. If it's for business, the challenges usually include scarcity … [Read more...]
Stubborn Spouse Alert! 3 Ways Being ‘Set in Your Ways’ Is Damaging Your Marriage
Have you ever taken a stand on something you felt was critical to either your personal growth, your success or even a worthy cause? Your commitment was probably unwavering. There was nothing anyone could say to change your position. Your mind was made up and you may have challenged anyone who challenged your thinking. Related: Here's how considering your spouse's point of … [Read more...]
5 Excuses You Can No Longer Use for Why Your Marriage is Broken
I could always tell when my husband and I weren’t on the same page. There would be negative energy in the air. Or we would probably dwell in separate areas of our home because we just needed our space. Whatever it was, it wasn’t a secret. Either one or both of us had said or done something to set the other one off, and it was obvious that we were off course. The same can be … [Read more...]
Are You Saving Sex for Divorce?
I encounter quite a few individuals in committed relationships who are aware of their partner’s desires and yet still struggle to meet those needs. In most cases they have heard their spouse complain time and time again about what is missing in the relationship, and for some reason they wait until the breaking point has arrived before they decide to actually do something about … [Read more...]
The Marriage Declutter Checklist for All Couples
Spring represents fresh new beginnings. It’s usually a time when the majority of us begin to declutter and spring clean our homes. We rid ourselves of the outdated to prepare for the brand-new, bright and colorful. Letting go of what’s just taking up space but not really adding any flair to the home or benefiting the family, makes sense. Typically, the items from our homes that … [Read more...]
Why Divorce Should Not Be “The New Normal”
Unfortunately, the truth is, divorce does seem to be the new normal. We're considering divorce quicker than we're looking for a solution. What happened in our marriages that made it easier to flee than to fight? It seems as though when things become more challenging than we imagined, a large majority of couples aren’t willing to do the work. Marriage is a life changing … [Read more...]
How Many Promises Have You Reneged on Since You Got Married?
Do you remember the beginning of your relationship? What was it like? I’m sure you were both excited about the newness of getting to know one another. The beginning of anything is usually exciting. In the beginning, couples are typically focused on pleasing and impressing the other. There is so much effort put into the relationship because we want it to last. We are somehow … [Read more...]
How Far Would You Go to Save Your Marriage?
Lately, each time we see or hear from crooner Robin Thicke, estranged husband of actress Paula Patton, he’s either singing passionately about his wife coming home, naming an entire album after her, or actually apologizing and verbally begging for her immediate return. Anyone who watched the BET Awards and witnessed Robin’s public plea for Paula to forgive him had to feel some … [Read more...]
Why Thinking Like a Single Person Can Benefit Your Marriage
When I was single I was excited about the idea of love and marriage. I had so many thoughts regarding my future relationship. The type of wife I would be, the city I would live in and the number of children I would have were all part of my daydreams. So when I actually started dating seriously, I brought energy, playfulness and honesty. For whoever ended up being my one and … [Read more...]