As husbands, we might have a slight disconnect between making our women feel secure and making her feel secure in our marriages. Sometimes we believe that to have a happy wife, we must be willing to defend her from a guy that disrespects her or simply shield her from harm. While jumping in front of cars, rescuing her from a burning building, or getting up at night to see “what … [Read more...]
If God Really Told You to Lead Her, Then Here Are 2 Critical Things You Must Know How to Do
I am really intrigued with this one. When I first heard the story that Seattle Seahawks’ quarterback, Russell Wilson, has a new girlfriend, singer Ciara, it didn’t register a blip on my radar of care or concern. Then when I heard they were trying not to have sex, I was like, “Why put that out there…so if you end up having sex, then the whole world is going to judge … [Read more...]
Beyond Sexy: Loving the Woman That Lies Within Her
When a woman enters a room, even quietly, men notice almost instinctively. It’s been this way since the very first woman, Eve, entered the world. No announcement is necessary. Her very presence is the kindest disruption of space and time, commanding the attention of men everywhere who love her. In awe, men watch as if their eyes have never beheld the beauty of a woman, one of … [Read more...]
5 Things a Husband Should Do for His Wife without Her Having to Ask
As a relatively new husband, I try to do a good job at following my “honey do” list. We’re still merging lives so I’m sure there are times I fall short, but this is a work in progress in which I’m getting better daily. One thing I knew before we got married was that there were some things I would need to handle and not wait on her to ask me to do. [imagebrowser id=310] … [Read more...]
Men, Do You Properly Protect and Serve Your Wife?
There are many relationships where the woman doesn't feel secure. I think there is an instinct in many women to want to feel secure, not only in the context of the relationship, but to feel secure in their livelihood with their spouse. I have heard financial guru Dave Ramsey say that women have a “security gene” that men just don’t have—and I think there is some truth to that. … [Read more...]
Top Two Ways Men Can Provide Security for Their Women
Every woman has a need to feel secure. This need derives from a basic human need for safety, security, and stability (Maslow, 1943). To some, it’s financial security, to others it’s emotional security, and to others it’s physical security. To most, it’s ideal to have all three. For women, financial security is important in relationships. But if a man doesn’t also provide … [Read more...]
5 Reasons Marriage is Better than Shacking
Shacking up is not the same as being married. Some think the only difference is a piece of paper. But that piece of paper holds a lot of weight. It is proof that you are bound together legally and God recognizes the union. Below are five reasons marriage is better than shacking. God ordains marriage not shacking. Marriage is a covenant between you, your spouse and Him. … [Read more...]
Do You “Check In” With Your Spouse?
My family never misses an opportunity to tease my husband and me about a new app we've added to our cell phones. I don't like to call it a tracking device per say, but it does provide us with the details of each other's whereabouts, if ever we need them. We have always been the type of couple to "check in" anyway. Whenever either of us is hanging out with friends and will be … [Read more...]
I’m an Independent Woman Who Needs Her Man
Roll call. . . All the independent women please stand up. That would've been me 15 years ago. My daddy made me into an independent woman. He taught me to get my education, to carry my own money, and to leave the "knuckle-headed boys" alone because they only wanted one thing. I attended a women's college where being a strong, black, independent woman was drilled into me. The … [Read more...]