It’s March and one of my favorite months of the year because it is Women’s History Month and my mama’s birthday month. In the spirit of Women’s History Month and my mother, we are honoring five trailblazers who blazed a path for all women (and humankind) to follow. With so much attention paid to high-profile women, it's easy to lose sight of lesser-known women who are … [Read more...]
10 Reasons My Mother Is Such an Extraordinary Woman
It’s Woman’s History month, and although I typically don’t need a designated month to encourage me to celebrate anything, this month does make me reflect on all the phenomenal women in my life. From friends to cousins to public figures and more, I have recently been thinking a lot about the many women who have done so much to bring me to where I am today. These are women who … [Read more...]
Would You Rather Be Wanted or Needed in a Relationship?
One of my followers on social media posed an interesting relationship question that she wanted me to answer along with other men who follow my posts on social media. She wanted to know what's on the minds of men. And in her inquiries, she asked a question that stood out to me: Is it better to be wanted or needed in a relationship? Although I answered the question some days … [Read more...]
Why Do So Many Men Choose To Be Single? PART II
In part one, we looked at the reasons why good men are single and examined reasons that were not particularly of a man's own choosing. In part two, I want to take a look at some reasons why men choose to be single for extended periods of time—and sometimes indefinitely. In response to part one of this article, I received some reader comments. One comment seemed to represent … [Read more...]
Why Are so Many Good Men Single? And Why Can’t You Find One?
Here's the first thought that comes to mind when I read this question: Why are so many good men still single? Good men are like fruit cakes during the holiday season. There's always a lot of talk about them, but no one really wants one. I was asked to respond to the question above, which was posed in a relationship group that I was invited to join on Facebook. What was … [Read more...]
3 Very Costly Relationship Mistakes that Singles Should Avoid
The tragedy of "new love" is that often it dies young, long before it reaches the "golden years." Too many couples rush into certain territories far too soon and negatively impact the direction and outcome of their relationships. We want to be strategic without being mechanical and free-flowing without being loose. Love is not a sprint. It's a long slow walk. There are … [Read more...]
Men: 6 Things About Sex, Marriage, and Dating You Would Know If You Thought Like Women
When it comes to relationships, some men often wonder what their wives or girlfriends think about, what they want, what they like, how they can please them, etc. etc. So, after hearing all that and listening to them complain that women are complicated and hard to understand, I began to wonder what men would know if they acted like men but thought like women. So I, along with … [Read more...]
Decoding the Female Language: Here’s What She’s Really Saying!
Women are not complicated. In fact, we are quite simple. Despite being fairly easy to please, we wrestle with how to communicate our needs. Often, our desperate pleas to have our wants satisfied can send us into an unstable frenzy. Our need for closeness and intimacy is mistaken for clinginess. Craving compliments is often interpreted as insecurity, and our fears are seen as … [Read more...]
Women: Stop Treating Your Man Like Another Piece Of Bling
Ok, so we're all a little selfish. Some of us more selfish than others. And, from this narcissistic position, we tend to see the world through our own worldview. We're all guilty of this. We're not capable of removing the lenses Men get married and tend to think that their new wives are their own personal sex kittens; and, by bestowing their last names upon these hopeful … [Read more...]
Singles: Don’t Ignore These Warning Flags that Let You Know it’s Time to Run
“I have a question. I have been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now and we have been out on a date once. Dating is still relatively new to me. Already, I have found that he doesn't like when women tell him no. That bothers me. He becomes upset when I can't spend time with him because sometimes, I want to hang out with my sister, but he isn't close to his family like I … [Read more...]
What Good Men Want: 3 Things That Don’t Require Sex
What is it that men really want? That is a question that ladies everywhere are searching to find an answer to or at least some sort of hint that will help them figure it out. Attempts to appeal to the interests of a significant other can be quite confusing and frustrating when you are not sure what it is that they want or need. Poor communication/miscommunication creates … [Read more...]
The 6 Biggest Myths About Sex and Side-Chicks: A Different View
Just days ago, I read an article that focused on relationships, sex, and side chicks that I found quite disturbing to put it mildly. I read articles, posts, blogs, quotes, etc. on love and relationships all the time for personal and professional reasons. Some of them are very informative, insightful, and empowering. Others perpetuate certain damnable and damaging ideologies … [Read more...]
Five Powerful Women of the Civil Rights Movement You Should Know, but Probably Don’t
Although I understand the idea behind Black History Month, I’m not a huge proponent of relegating our history to only one month of the year. We need to celebrate our heroes and sheroes year-round; however, since it is Black History Month, this is a great opportunity to go beyond the usual narrative of Martin Luther King, Jr. and Rosa Parks to highlight some of the little-known … [Read more...]
Top 11 Myths Men Believe About Women
Men and woman have very different communication styles. That is nothing new. We’ve all heard time and time again that men and women have a unique way of viewing things—a different way of being. And, you know, there really is nothing wrong with being different. Our differences allow us to bring the best out of each other if we choose to see things that way. The problem, … [Read more...]
Africa’s Version of “Sex in the City” is Changing the Narrative of the African Woman
There’s a wave of change happening. And it has everything to do with Africa...and Lupita Nyong’o...and Nollywood...and even Beyoncé and Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Over the past few years, if you’ve been paying any attention to what’s going on in the world, then you’ve probably noticed that Africa—the continent—has been getting quite a bit of play lately. And not for the reasons … [Read more...]