Get a Hobby
What do YOU like to do? Find a new hobby by creating a list of interests. For example, if you’re really into fashion you can start a few DIY projects and transform old clothes into new looks! If you’ve always been into photography, you can find a cheap class to take. (Don’t sleep on GROUPON- you’d be susprised all the great things you can find for cheap!) Step one is to make a list of the things that interest you and make you smile.
Get Some Girls
By now, you should have a few real friendships. Take the time to nurture those relationships, because we know exactly what’s going to happen when Mr. Right rolls up. It’s better to really build your bond with your girls NOW so that maintaining it will be a little easier once you’re in a relationship. Plus, research shows that marriages last longer when each person has strong friendships outside of the relationship. (It alleviates depending on each other for everything.)
Read a Damn Book
Smart is the new sexy! Plus, reading really opens your mind to new dimensions! A few suggestions to get you started are: Ms. Typed, The Traveler’s Gift and Think and Grow Rich. Plus, reading helps you carry a conversation. Men LOVE interesting women! Teach him something new everyday and it’ll renew his interest each time!
Become Who You Want to Be With
Instead of spending countless hours worrying about when Mr. Right is going to finally show his face, spend time becoming Mrs. Right. What are your areas of need? In what ways can you afford to improve? Take a really good look within and then take action. Create concrete goals for yourself and then come up with a real plan to achieve them. Are you finally ready to shed those last 10 pounds? Are you really ready to learn how to cook? Are you ready to forgive someone who hurt you? Are you finally ready to get rid of the baggage you’ve been carrying for the last 5 years? WHAT IS IT that you can work on NOW? Once you’ve done a self-check and created your self-improvement plan, surround yourself with like-minded women who are moving in the same direction by joining The Single Wives Club– an elite group of women determined to become their best selves.
These are just a few of the ways that I’m confidently overcoming settling season! I know my worth and I know what I’m bringing to the table. I’ll be damned if I waste my time with another loser..that’s the lesson I learned from almost marrying one! Stay strong and stick it out because settling is for suckers! Take it from me ladies…….
Koereyelle DuBose is the Single Wife [a single woman setting standards for myself and the men in my life.] She encourages all single women to recognize their true value, learn their worth and never let anyone determine their destiny. She’s living, learning and sharing her experience on her lifestyle blog, IamTheSingleWife.com . For information on joining her elite single sisterhood, visit TheSingleWivesClub.com
These are great tips after marriage too.
I almost got married twice! Girl I feel ya! WE WILL suRvive! 😉
I decided a long time ago that I would not settle and this article just reinforces that. Thanks for a different perspective on settling season, considering that the holiday season is around the corner!
Love, love this article. I also checked out the Single Wives Club. I think that is an awesome idea. I’m in DC but I plan to join as an online member. Thanks for sharing this important info!
Yeeessss!!!! This just gave me so much clarity and confidence to actually make it past this “Settling Season.”
I love the tips section, especially the “Become who you want to be with” tip. I think it is SO important to be a model of the person you want to be with. It is not fair to ask something of a mate that you can not provide yourself. Don’t settle for less, whether for your mate or yourself! Great article!