During my commute last week, I heard a song by Fantasia for the first time called When I Met You. One of the lines in the song really caused me to reflect on my marriage and who I’ve become since I got married almost 20 years ago. The line was “When I met you, I met me too.” It made me think about the growth that happens in a relationship and how much self-discovery actually … [Read more...]
5 Reasons Nagging Wears Your Marriage and Your Spouse Completely Out
When couples decide to marry, there usually is an expectation and an overall plan to be happy. What they sometimes don't anticipate are those behaviors that show up and interfere with that plan. One of the major contributors to an unhappy marriage is nagging. Nagging is the persistent complaining, faultfinding and constant observation of what isn't working or what your … [Read more...]
What Your Wife is Really Thinking, When You Get in Trouble Out of the Blue
The mind of a woman is one of the great mysteries of the world. Since the beginning of time, man has tried to understand his woman and anticipate her needs. Unfortunately, he usually ends up even more confused. Husbands, there are things you do that get a rise out of your wife and you might not be sure why. Allow me to help by sharing what your wife really thinks when you do … [Read more...]
T.I. Says His Marriage Distracted Him From His Mission? Is It a Cop Out?
I eat, sleep and breath love, romance and marriage. You can usually find me caught in a deep discussion about it or researching and finding ways to learn even more about what makes marriage work. It's what I do. So I found myself really intrigued this week as I stumbled upon rapper T.I’s quotes on why marriage isn't for him on PageSix.com Here's what he was quoted … [Read more...]
5 Surprising Ways to See Your Spouse in a New Light
Who are you married to? Now think carefully about this one before you answer. If your initial thought was to say something negative like, “I am married to a lazy, good for nothing man!” we need to talk. I've seen couples struggle with being able to see the good in their spouse, especially after experiencing marriage’s ups and downs. I understand it's difficult to be positive … [Read more...]
Healthy Black Marriages Do Exist
I stumbled across a Facebook post a couple of weeks ago and found the topic so interesting I had to write about it. The post was in response to all the praise pouring in for rap’s new super couple, Remy Ma and Papoose. It questioned why black folks were acting like we had never seen a happy black couple before. It read as follows: “My Remy and Papoose assessment: Truth be … [Read more...]
5 Signs Your Marriage is Going to Be OK
Have you ever gotten to a point in your marriage where you thought you and your spouse would never overcome a certain situation? So many marriages reach a period of time where the couple may question everything about their union. Stress, disagreements and just life can easily take us to a negative space where we begin to think our marriage just isn't working. However, I … [Read more...]
Couples: 5 Things to Do When You’re Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired
Have you ever felt like, during a disagreement with your spouse, that you've been there and done that? Maybe it has started to feel like deja vu whenever you and your spouse are at odds. Arguing over the same behaviors over and over again is tiring. It will put an unnecessary strain on your marriage and honestly what couple ever wants that? There are several reasons … [Read more...]
3 Big Reasons Why You Need a Life Outside of Your Marriage
I wear quite a few titles in my life. I am a Christian, daughter, sister, wife, mom, friend, employee and entrepreneur. At times, as you can imagine, my life feels crazy busy. There are moments when I need a break from all of it. I’ve had thoughts of getting a hotel room overnight just to unload, relax and refocus. But I know even in that quiet space I would find a way to think … [Read more...]
In a Stressful World, 5 Ways to Make Your Marriage Your Safe Haven
With all the stress and worry this world can inflict upon us, it’s important to create a space in our life where there is peace and joy. For me, this space is my home, with my family and within my marriage. I can’t imagine not having an outlet or a safe haven where I can flee the frustration of politics, my job and negative people I may encounter everyday. My marriage has … [Read more...]
Don’t Stay Mad: How Couples Can Bounce Right Back After an Argument
One thing I've learned in my marriage is the importance of being able to bounce back after a disagreement. Getting back to happy with my hubby can be a bit of a struggle whenever I allow myself to dwell in the negative space of who was right and who was wrong. I can replay certain scenarios over and over again in my head just to find evidence of how my argument made the most … [Read more...]
How to Turn an “Over the Top” Wedding into an “Over the Top” Marriage
The Knot, the leading wedding brand and marketplace, recently released the 2016 Real Weddings Study. It's the largest survey of Americans married in 2016. The results revealed the cost of weddings has spiked to $35,339 and couples are now putting a greater emphasis on the guest experience. The study, which surveyed 13,000 brides and grooms, showed the cost per guest has … [Read more...]
How to Show Your Spouse How to Love You
No one knows you better than you. You know your likes and dislikes, your joys and pains and even that quirky behavior you can't even explain sometimes. Do you ever wish others, especially your spouse, knew you that well? They could, I mean if you ever decided to share what it's really like to be you. Many of the difficulties I see couples face are merging their lives and … [Read more...]
The Real Reasons You and Your Spouse Continue to Fight Over the Same Old Thing
There are lessons to be learned in nearly every challenge we experience. But what you choose to do with those lessons is up to you. However, what I find in so many marriages is that couples are having the same disagreements over and over again because the lessons aren't quite landing and sticking as they should. It's frustrating to express what bothers you to your spouse, … [Read more...]
Don’t Let this Be You! 5 Things that Could Get You into Trouble on Valentine’s Day
In a few weeks, couples everywhere will be celebrating their love for one another. Some have already begun the planning. There will not only be acts of love, but I'm quite sure there will be some marriage proposals as well. Valentine’s Day is the ultimate day of love and typically brings out the best in us as we shower our partners with appreciation, quality time and gifts. … [Read more...]