Husbands and wives, has your bedroom activity fizzled? Perhaps you want more intimacy in your relationship but you just don't know how to ask for it. Or perhaps the words just never seem to come out right. You don't want to make your spouse uncomfortable, but you realize the lack of intimacy isn't healthy for your marriage. There are some other options that can quickly … [Read more...]
Relationships
Single Ladies, Stop Believing Everything You Hear on Your News Feed About Men
Two weeks ago, I celebrated my eight wedding anniversary. I can’t believe it’s already been eight years. Moreover, I can’t believe I have known my husband for more than 20 years. It’s been an amazing ride. So how have these eight years of marriage been? They’ve been pretty good. We’ve had our ups and downs, but that’s to be expected. We made it through the downs together and … [Read more...]
Dating as a Christian: Biblical Lessons from Rahab, Ruth and Mary
Before my husband and I started dating, I took a three-year dating hiatus. I think the Lord was trying to heal my heart from the relationships that didn’t honor Him. I believe He was also working on some MAJOR character deficiencies: pride, selfishness and a whole bunch of things that would have been poison to a marriage. Once we started dating, I sort of had this cloud … [Read more...]
How to Know if Your Relationship Is Ready for Marriage
I’ve always known I would one day become someone’s wife. I fantasized about weddings and thought about marriage even as a teenager. One thing I learned, as an adult, is that just desiring it doesn’t guarantee you’d be any good at such a committed relationship. Marriage is one of those life decisions that requires careful consideration. It isn’t a game or a union anyone … [Read more...]
Fellas, News Flash, These 5 Things Are a Major Turn Off
Husbands, don't just assume this article is just for singles. There are some these you can learn, too, about how to turn your woman on. Jetmag.com has the story below. There is nothing more of a turn on for a woman than a man who knows how to push her buttons. When a man knows how to turn on his woman, he can have whatever he wants—well almost anything. But, for women, … [Read more...]
The Truth About What Really Makes a Man Want to Change His Ways
Is it true, men will only change for one woman? In an August interview with Black Enterprise, Steve Harvey stated: All men can change. All men will change, but there is only one woman we are going to change for. Just one... If he ain't changin', it's 'cause you ain't the one!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLyWjkiyRL0 BMWK, what do you think? I don’t agree with … [Read more...]
Dating As a Christian: Do You Have to Be Worldly to Be Dateable?
If you're a single Christian woman, chances are you've been taught that you should wait on God to send you a mate. According to this teaching, waiting looks like going to church, volunteering, serving, giving, reading your Bible and praying for God to send your husband to you. You may have also been taught to avoid being "worldly" by dressing modestly, avoiding places where … [Read more...]
Does a Good God Want Me in a Bad Marriage?
Marriage should be a good thing, right? It's meant to bring happiness and joy. The lives of husband and wife come together to form a new perfectly imperfect union. That is the ideal. However, sometimes instead of getting ideal, we can end up in an ordeal. And in this situation, many begin to question the institution of marriage. Does a good God want me in a bad … [Read more...]
5 Comforting Tips for Women Whose Husbands Are Fat-Shaming Them
I spent a good part of my childhood hoping to lose weight. The only childhood memory I have of being thin is when I was about 4. Growing up in a home where rice, beans and fried plantains were staples was hard for a girl who loved food. Food served as my comfort for years. I have to admit that even though I am now a certified health coach, food still is my comfort. I’ve just … [Read more...]
Men, Stop Making Your Wife the Villain for Your Boys’ Sake
Fellas, you can’t blame your wife for everything! Now let me tell you why. I was having a conversation with a young man recently who expressed to me that, although he desires marriage one day, he is starting to reconsider because all of his married friends make marriage seem like a prison sentence. People are paying attention, especially other men, about jumping the … [Read more...]
Help! My Wife Goes Ballistic About Everything; and I’m Thinking of Divorce
Dr. Buckingham I have been following you on Black and Married with Kids for sometime now, and I appreciate the advice that you provide to singles and couples. I was hesitant to write you, but I broke down because I am very close to leaving the woman I swore to love forever. My wife and I have been married for 10 years, and I have been dealing with her out of control … [Read more...]
Wait! Did Alicia Keys Just Release the Blended Family Anthem? Be Prepared to Weep, Ya’ll
Over the weekend, Alicia Keys released a beautiful song about her blended family. As you may recall, Alicia Keys formed a blended family with husband, producer Swizz Beatz's, who had three kids before their marriage—one with ex-wife and singer-songwriter Mashonda. Some of the lyrics include touching declarations of love for her stepchildren: Hey I might not really be your … [Read more...]
7 Strategies to Make Your Marriage Great Again!
It seems like today, more than ever, the value of marriage has declined. Young adults and some singles seem not to desire it as much as I remember we did in the past. It also seems so easy to disregard and disrespect. The side chick is on the rise and some folks seem good with that. In some circles, it's like a badge of honor. Infidelity is almost normal in a few … [Read more...]
Major Key Alert: Wives Give Real Talk on How to Have an Exceptional Marriage
As a single lady who desires to be married, I constantly get messages on social media about dating, courtship and marriage. These messages come in the form of wedding photos, smiling faces, relevant scriptures and empowering statements, which are all fine, but sometimes you have to dig deeper. Single people who desire to be married one day should be intentional about … [Read more...]
We’re Having a Blended Family Boot Camp in Atlanta, And Here’s Why You Need to Be There!
We're excited to announce that we're having a Blended Family Boot Camp here in Atlanta, GA on November 12th. This is the first time that we are doing an event specifically for Stepfamilies and we're excited! And its' about time! As we share often, Lamar and I have a blended family which is why we are so passionate about making sure that families just like ours have the … [Read more...]