There is someone out there right now who is about end their marriage because of this and I’m here to stop you!! As a relationship coach, I often get to see many patterns of what is going on in dating and relationships, and it’s not always good. It helps me understand that none of us are alone in our problems, and it also reminds me that unless we actively work on correcting … [Read more...]
Relationships
The 4 Dopest Things About Marriage Couples Can Sometimes Forget
Seriously, marriage is dope. I’m channeling my teenage 90s hip-hop-era lingo, but sometimes that's the word that just sums it up for me. I enjoy being married. Every day isn't always roses and sunshine, but overall, marriage is fun. There are life benefits that come with being married. For some couples who've been in it for a while, it's easy to sometimes forget and take … [Read more...]
3 Hard Lessons Learned When You’re Involved with an All-Talk, No-Action Mate
Relationships are hard work. This is obviously why couples seek out relationship coaches like me. And if you were to ask which particular challenge happens more than any other among my clients, I'd say it's when their partner's actions don't line up with their words. When actions don't align with words in a relationship that can be very problematic—and even toxic in some … [Read more...]
5 Things Insanely Happy Couples Do Without Hesitation
I was recently having a conversation with a friend, and the subject came down to the word "abundance" and what that means in a marriage. It later got me thinking about what makes me insanely happy to be married to my husband. I realized there were quite a few habits we developed in our marriage that come as second nature. We do them without hesitation and without expecting … [Read more...]
Ladies, 3 Character Flaws You Can’t Afford to Ignore When Choosing a Man
There is no perfect man or woman out there. If you are searching for the perfect one, go ahead and relax because you won’t ever find what you are looking for. But if you are looking for the right partner to spend a lifetime with, don’t give up. He’s out there. I am sure of it. I think we all have a match out there. Finding someone you love and are able to spend a lifetime … [Read more...]
Should I Stay Or Should I Go? 6 Ways to Help Decide If It’s Worth Salvaging Your Marriage After an Affair
So you’ve had the infidelity bomb dropped on you huh? Me too! And you've decided to give things another shot and work on your marriage. Me too! But, you still wonder, is taking your spouse back the right choice. Well, let me ask a couple questions. Does your spouse still withhold the truth even after the infidelity has been discovered? Is your spouse not taking the … [Read more...]
Try Again with My Ex or Move on to the Next? 3 Questions to Consider if Stuck Between Two Women
Fellas, tell me if this has happened to you? When you finally meet a lil’ shorty who's got some potential after being single for a minute. And all of a sudden when things are looking promising, your ex-girl resurfaces, talkin’ bout, “I was just thinking about you. How you doin’?” Or maybe it's a situation when you swore you were done with your ex. But your old-girl texts you … [Read more...]
Does It Matter Who Says “I Love You” First? Men or Women?
Do you remember the first time you said “I love you” to a romantic partner? Were you fearful or was it something you blurted out without thinking? Well, needless to say, those three words carry a powerful punch. They can be the start of a new chapter in your budding relationship, or they can be the end, closing the book on your relationship all together. This is likely why … [Read more...]
3 Things to Consider if You Are Only Staying with Him for the Kids
I grew up without a dad. He was a part of my life when I was under the age of 10, but not a consistent part. Sometimes he was present, but most of the time he wasn’t. I’m not sure why my mom put up with his foolishness, but I suspect she did it for us. She didn’t want us growing up without a father. There wasn’t any indication that she was head over heels in love with him. … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 3 Undeniable Signs You’re With The Right Man
"I was speechless," she told me. "I'd never had a man tell me this before. I think he's The One!" She couldn't hear me sigh, but I needed to take a deep breath before I told this sister that she was about to make a costly relationship mistake. She was getting excited about a few words a man, whom she'd just met online, was telling her, and she had already begun imagining … [Read more...]
Fakers, Haters and Deal Breakers—Keeping Outside Influences Outside of Your Blended Family
Blending a family is hard work. Trust us, we know. We've had to deal with differences in discipline on top of the common hurdles newlyweds face. But what we've found is that one of the biggest threats to your marriage and your blended family is outside forces. The people who make up these outside forces are what I like to call, "fakers," "haters" and "deal breakers." If … [Read more...]
6 Things Every Woman Eventually Learns About Relationships
In the last few years since I’ve jumped back into the dating game I’ve come to learn a few new things about my personal love journey. Some are new for me, and some I’ve had to bump my head against a few walls to learn along the way. With each lesson I’ve learned and I’ve grown, and most importantly I’ve loved. As I continue on my journey, I can’t wait to see what new lessons … [Read more...]
Wives, 4 Things You Need to Own and Stop Blaming on Your Husbands
Okay, so in last week's article I told the fellas to stop blaming their wives for everything and making them the villain. The ladies were clapping and high fiving all the way to the end of the blog. A few even tagged their men (we see you,lol). But alas, as promised, I told the ladies I had one coming for them, too! Ladies, many of you also don't even notice how bad you make … [Read more...]
Help! How Can We Ever Get Past This Affair When His Mistress Is Still Stalking Us?
Dr. Buckingham, I came across one of your posts and thought you might be able to give me sound advice. I've scoured the Internet for situations similar to mine but none quite reflect what my boyfriend and I are dealing with right now. My boyfriend and I are high school sweethearts. We broke up in college, reconnected three years ago and now have a 23-month-old daughter … [Read more...]
13 Years in a Beautiful Multicultural Marriage; How They Made it Work
Combining two cultures through the covenant of marriage is easier than you may think. To find out how this is done I interviewed my good friend Wenona Barlow. She and her husband Lenny have been married for 13 years and have four beautiful children (Three little girls, Mya 10, Nina 5, Sophia 2 and a handsome young boy, Isaac 3). After talking to Wenona on this subject of … [Read more...]