Congratulations, if you've decided to take the first step into the world of online dating. But first there's one thing you should know. Your profile picture means EVERYTHING. Yes, it might be true that a picture is worth 1,000 words. And in the specific case of online dating, a picture can often say more for trust, attraction, red flags and compatibility than those 1,000 … [Read more...]
Relationships
Fellas, Here are 5 Overlooked, Nontraditional Places to Find a Decent Woman
Fellas, when considering where to find a woman, I'm sure many of the traditional places come to mind. Places like a nightclub, the grocery store or church always come up when we think of places where we can meet women. While, it's true you can meet women in those places and create friendships and sometimes more, I think men should consider some venues that normally aren't … [Read more...]
Yes, Single Christian Women are Killing-it on Tinder WITHOUT Hooking-Up
Flava Flav said it best: “Don’t believe the hype.” What started out as a simple statement ended up in a huge group conversation over some wings and potato salad at a housewarming party. Debra (we’ll call her), a 27-year-old Christian woman, commented to me that her sister recommended she start online dating. This wasn’t news to her because I told Debra she should start … [Read more...]
The One Thing No One Thinks About on Their Wedding Day Happened to Me
By Tanya Barnett I was in my house the other day prepping for my kids to go to school, when I ran across a stack of our wedding day pictures. As I thumbed through each picture, I began to feel sad. I thought to myself, “I truly had no clue what I was saying ‘I do’ to.” I actually found myself speaking to each picture as if the 1999 me could hear the 2016 me. I became so … [Read more...]
3 Warning Signs Your Man Has NO Plans Whatsoever to Marry You
Ever since I wrote an article, explaining how my husband married me 11 months after we met despite originally telling me he wasn't looking for a relationship, I've had sisters tell me that my story goes against every piece of advice they've read, which encourages women not to waste their time with men who make it clear from the beginning that marriage is not on the menu. So … [Read more...]
A Man Reveals His Thoughts on What Makes a Woman Beautiful
“Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.” This old adage is ever so true, yet somewhat oversimplified. What the eyes see as beautiful is often largely shaped by the culture in which they have been socialized. And with the socialized view of beauty, we are led to worship the shallowest semblance of beauty and shun any deviation from the mainstream’s preordained archetype. … [Read more...]
5 Tips to Better Your Love Life When Sex Gets Boring in Long-Term Relationships
Is your sex life getting a little stale? Just because you've been together forever doesn't mean your sex life has to be boring and predictable. Follow these five tips from Jet magazine to get your romance back to buzzing. I use to think that being in a long-term relationship would be boring. Being with the same person, experiencing the same circle of events along with … [Read more...]
Help! My Husbands Says I’m Nagging, so How Can I Express Myself Better?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I are going through some things, and I do not know what to do. We argue on a regular basis because both of us feel invalidated. I often tell my husband that he does not listen to me, and he tells me the same thing. To be honest, I grew up in a house where my three older brothers would shut me down, so I never really learned how to … [Read more...]
How the Grief from My Mother’s Death Brought Me Closer to My Wife
Back in 2011, I lost the most important person in my life. My mother passed away from multiple sclerosis, but it was a long process before she actually succumbed. While I went through a range of emotions and challenges during the process, my wife was right by my side. I went from feeling sad, to angry, to betrayed, to happy, to not knowing what or how to feel. Being my mom’s … [Read more...]
Should Making More Money Make You the Boss in Your Home?
My husband makes more money than I do. I don’t think it means anything special. It’s just a fact. I appreciate all he does for our family, and he knows it, but his income is simply a fact. It’s been a fact since we got married. Will it always be a fact? Maybe not. If I keep hustling the way I am, probably not. There may be a moment when we sit down and I say, “Babe, looks … [Read more...]
Ladies, Are You Tailor-Made to Fit Your Man?
Ladies, we already know we are each uniquely and wonderfully made. We are so beautifully different. When we marry, we marry because of the love and beauty we see in our spouse inside and out. However, when we marry, we are not yet tailored for one another. You see my desire is to be well-suited for my husband—to fit him like a glove. In order to do this, some tailoring has … [Read more...]
Preference or Pain? Why Some Black Men Won’t Date Black Women
If a black man tells you he doesn't want to date black women in 2016, don't get offended. Why? It's because he's doing you a favor. He's saving you the time you could have wasted on someone who doesn't deserve you. A recent episode of Iyanla Fix My Life aired, showing three black men in their 20s, 30s and 40s who had different reasons why they preferred NOT to date black … [Read more...]
My Husband Stopped Being Romantic, and I’m Over It. But He Still Wants Sex
I was recently sent an email from a BMWK reader. In it, she sought help. She was feeling neglected in her marriage. Her husband had stopped displaying affection and stopped giving her attention, but he still expected intimacy. She admitted that her desire to have sex with her husband had dwindled, but that was mostly because she felt she was no longer mentally engaged. She … [Read more...]
5 Advantages and Disadvantages of Marrying Before You Turn 30
According to the Census Bureau, most Americans are marrying before they hit the 30 year mark. My husband and I got married when I was 24 and he was 27. Now, some 19 years later, I feel like we got married at a good age. We have both changed since then as individuals and as a couple. Well, I’ll say we have evolved as a couple. We have had time to really learn about ourselves … [Read more...]
Mr. and Mrs. President…The Obama Love Story in Photos
“I have never been prouder to watch the rest of America fall in love with you too as our nation’s first lady.” – Barack Obama Simply Beautiful! Right? What’s not to love about First Couple Michelle and Barack Obama’s love? Let me say this upfront, with all due respect before anyone goes in on a political rant, this is not the article for that. The article is to honor … [Read more...]