"I'm too good to you. I'm way too good to you and you take my love for granted. I just don't understand it!" So you know I was on a plane and listening to Drake's song "Too Good," and as soon as I heard this part of the chorus, it hit me. Many of us are in relationships and marriages, and we feel like we have an ungrateful spouse. We are tired of our mate taking us for granted … [Read more...]
5 Things Every Wife Needs Her Husband to Understand
If there is anything almost nine years of marriage has taught me, it’s that I can’t get my husband to read my mind. Yep, despite my best efforts, that brotha just can’t do it. Consider it a shortcoming if you must, but I realize that he’s just human. My husband is actually human. Shocking, right? After all, didn’t he get the memo that marrying me meant that he needed to … [Read more...]
5 Signs That Your New Man Doesn’t Value Your Time
When it comes to our work, we can be so protective of our time. After all, time is money and we don’t want anyone messing with our money, right? I get it. I am about my business, too, and I hate having my time wasted. But the thing is, if women can be bosses when it comes to valuing our time in business, then why do so many of us allow men to waste our time when dating? … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Uplift Your Man and Create a Marriage Overflowing with Gratitude
Last week, my mom had a seizure. It was a stressful experience for her. She has multiple health issues, and developing epilepsy after a stroke she suffered three years ago is one of them. Whenever she has a challenging day, it unfortunately turns into a challenging week and sometimes a challenging month. It’s hard for me to watch because she is my mom, and I want the best … [Read more...]
Ladies, If He Really, Truly Loves You, He’ll Do These 5 Things
I believe that love does not conquer all. And not only do I not believe it, but as a happily married woman, I have no problem sharing that belief with others. It’s not that I don’t believe in the importance or power of love, because I do. I’m actually a romantic at heart (no really, I am). The thing is, I am also a realist. And as a realist, I really can’t sit here and tell … [Read more...]
The One Undeniable Need Your Man Has That Can’t Be Ignored
A few days ago I was getting ready to clean my home while my kids lay sound asleep. It was late, so my husband was sleeping as well. I decided some company would be nice so I pulled out a DVD of The Best Man Holiday and started watching while I cleaned my floors. There’s a part in the film where Nia Long’s man is leaving town and as they say their goodbyes he tells her that … [Read more...]
9 Insanely Simple Ways to Show Your Spouse Appreciation, How Many Do You Do?
One of the top complaints often heard from married couples is feeling underappreciated. When you put in a great deal of effort to meet the needs of your spouse, hurt feelings can develop if you feel like they don’t truly recognize and appreciate what you do. Having a successful marriage and family is hard work, and although most of us don’t need anything in return for all that … [Read more...]
6 BIG Things Your Man Wants You to Know About Him
Soooo many times, women say they want to know what men really think. They say they want the "male perspective," but I'm often amazed at how when they get that perspective, they proceed to tell men why their perspective is wrong. NEWS FLASH, just because our perspective is different than yours, doesn't make our perspective WRONG! Let me clear the air with these 6 BIG things men … [Read more...]
You Know You Have A Good Spouse When…
How often do you take time to appreciate your spouse? Sometimes, those of us who are married, forget what initially attracted us to our mate. Taking for granted who we were in the beginning, the love that was evident and the excitement of just spending time together. Rarely do most individuals reflect on the blessings of marriage. Gratefulness is usually an afterthought. I … [Read more...]
The Biggest Mistakes Wives Make When Feeling Unappreciated
Imagine working a full 9 to 5, coming home to prepare dinner, assisting with homework, catering to a spouse and then preparing the family for the exact same routine the next day. You’re probably thinking, “I don’t have to imagine it, that’s my life”. For most moms and wives, this is the daily reality. Women have been holding down the family forever. It’s what we do and it … [Read more...]
4 Ways You May Be Hurting Your Man’s Feelings and Didn’t Even Know It!
PSA: MEN ARE SENSITIVE! "Everything a man does in this world is to please a woman!" From childhood, little boys gravitate towards their mothers and seek to please them. Disappointing mom would hurt a boy to his core. Well, the same things holds true in adulthood. As men, we seek to please our wives. And as masculine as we might be and as tough as we come off, our weak spots … [Read more...]
7 Little Things That Can Turn Into BIG Problems in Your Marriage
Every marriage has challenges, and even the happiest couples get on each other’s nerves sometimes. What tends to strengthen a relationship and make it last is willingness, on both parts, to work through the challenges and find a solution that both parties can be at peace with. Sometimes, though, people don’t work through the challenges. In any relationship, it is pretty common … [Read more...]
Happy Spouse’s Day!
For those of you who can’t wait to shower your spouse with some love there’s no need to wait until Valentine's Day. Tomorrow, January 26, 2013, is Spouse's Day. Not to be confused with Military Spouse Day, which is in May, Spouse's Day is a day set aside for you to show your partner that you appreciate them. Unlike other holidays or anniversaries that often have us in the … [Read more...]
4 Ways to Show Your Appreciation Daily
This past week I had the extreme pleasure of being a guest on the Michael Baisden show. The topic of discussion was "Appreciation Day". The subject mainly focused on how women should show appreciation to the men in their lives. I hadn't really considered the significance of such a topic until I was being asked to discuss it with Michael. After being presented … [Read more...]
I Love The Way My Marriage….
I love the way my marriage makes me feel secure. I have a husband who is calm, centered and free of drama. He's there, day in and day out and it gives me a rock to cling to when my world is a bit shaky. I love the way my marriage makes me feel grown. When I can sit with my husband and have a discussion about something that used to be a heated topic, I can attest to … [Read more...]