On Wednesdays, we watch documentaries. My husband and I try to be selective about the amount of TV we consume, so one night a week, we set aside time to watch documentaries about the black experience. These films combine education with entertainment, and I always walk away with a new perspective of what it means to be black. But most recently, there were three documentaries … [Read more...]
The Power of Choice – How to Stop “Attracting” the Wrong Men
Physical attraction is the most immediately accessible form of attraction. When you first encounter someone, their physical appearance is all that's available for consideration without having any formal or informal interaction with them. Most often, if there is no physical attraction, there is little opportunity for any connection to take place. There is no urge for a man to … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Save Your Edges for the Winter
WINTER IS AMONG US. Now what are you going to do about your #Edges? It's been a long time coming since you had to worry about something so critical to your health. During the summertime you probably spent your days trying to perfect your wash-n-go. But just like the Sam Cooke song, A Change Gone Come, and it's in the form of Jack Frost with little to no love for edges. But … [Read more...]
Why are We Desperate for Lighter Skin?
I don’t normally write about this topic because I feel there’s already been so much said about it that I don’t need to add to the noise, but after watching this video, I just had to say something. A friend of mine posted a clip of a Cameroonian recording artist named Irene Major being interviewed recently by two talk show hosts in London. The topic of the interview was Major’s … [Read more...]
Top 5 TWA Style Videos Every Natural Should Watch
Many of our Butterflies have recently returned back to their natural hair and are ready to rock their Teeny Weeny Afros (TWA) with style. I always hear there are just not enough TWA style videos out there to keep our short hair sisters styling and profiling. Then it came to me, I needed to find the best of the best in TWA style videos. I'm talking about styling that is easy, … [Read more...]
Black Poetry Day: Image of Wings
Laying here thinking to myself, I'd rather be me than anyone else I'm running and crashing and trying to break free. I'm slipping and falling, what is wrong with me? My outward appearance seems to be the same. People still notice me and address me by my first name. But I, I, I am transforming inside of myself. I'd rather be me, more than anyone else. Fold me … [Read more...]
Can Parents Enhance Their Little Girls Self-Image?
Parents have to worry about so much. On a daily basis, parents have to worry about the safety, well-being, education, and many other factors when it comes to their children. One would have to ask, “What other factors do parents have to worry about? Well, before you create that long list, in enters self-image, another factor for parents to add to their plate of … [Read more...]
One Man Examines Why He Did Not Want His Wife to Go Natural
The natural hair explosion seems to be taking over certain parts of the United States. African American women everywhere are getting away from the relaxers and some are even letting go of their weaves. They are owning and wearing their hair in its natural state and embracing their coiled coifs and natural roots. Just turn on any television and you will see Black women and … [Read more...]
My Husband Didn’t Like My Natural Hair
Last year I was in our bathroom twisting up my hair for the night when my husband walked in and made the comment, "Why don't you wear your hair like you used to?" At first I didn't realize what he was talking about so I replied with the proverbial phrase when you haven't been listening to closely to your spouse, "What did you say honey?" Unaware of the war he was about to start … [Read more...]
Has Going Natural Affected Your Love Life?
As the wave of going [back to] wearing our natural hair sweeps the nation, we all know someone who is transitioning, has done the "big chop" (started over by cutting hair very low, sometimes nearly shaven), sporting dreadlocks or rocking a sassy 'fro - be it for health reasons, joining the movement, being fed up with hair relaxers or just sick and tired of those marathon days … [Read more...]
What’s Truly Beautiful About A Mate
From the time we are little girls, we learn that looks matter. The pretty girls are treated differently in school"“by teachers and by boys. And the same continues throughout college and even in the workforce, maybe in our own families. Outward appearance dominates our culture. It can get so bad that we begin to compare ourselves to other women and wonder why men don't find us … [Read more...]
Disney Living Challenge Week 9: Age-Appropriate Beauty
This week's challenge will talk about something that will definitely hit home if you have daughters like we do. We're talking about age appropriate beauty. Yes I already know, we're being bombarded left and right by images that are telling our children that in order to be pretty they should look like this or that. Am I the only one who was shocked to see that they make shoes … [Read more...]