If you’re like me, you’ve seen more than your fair share of social media posts and statements about what people plan to do more or less in 2016. One of the posts that stood out to me from among the norm was: “Promote what you love instead of bashing what you hate.” Disrespecting each other on the daily in media and real life, taking large strides away from the relationship we … [Read more...]
3 Things Singles Can Learn From a Family Vacation
Singles, whether you're visiting family over the holiday weekend or taking a vacation with family before the year is out, there are some things that we can recognize while out with our family in this season of life. I recently went on vacation with family and took a few notes on what it means to be single and on vacation—with family. While each family is different, there may … [Read more...]
Singles: Are You Afraid of Your 30’s?
"You need to get on it; you're going to be 30 soon." If you're not age thirty yet or have reached that decade of your life already, you've probably heard something like that statement before. For some reason, age 30 seems to be the start and the end for many things in life for men and women. From a woman's perspective, if you're not married by 30 you have even more pressure … [Read more...]
What Should a Saved and Single Woman do While Waiting on Love?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am saved and single. I've been back in church about a year and I feel ready for a relationship. Several guys from my church have approached me but they are thirsty and have approached every other woman in the church as well. I'm ready, but no prospect or quality godly man is showing any interest. I've prayed and waited, for what seems like a long … [Read more...]
Singles: How are You “Actively Waiting” for Marriage?
I must admit that there are times when I get distracted by unnecessary things that keep me from being focused on being single. Sometimes it’s other people, TV, or my own thoughts. I realize then that I’m getting off track and need to refocus on what’s important to me in this season of singleness. When you make the decision to be single and actively wait for God’s plan to … [Read more...]
Cutting Off Your Temptation Triggers in Dating
I never really gave the thought of withholding kissing ‘til my wedding day until I began to read and hear numbers of testimonies of couples who’ve done just that. For some, kissing is a physical and intimate act that leads minds to wander to places they shouldn’t as a single. For others, kissing leads to more physical expressions of intimacy, which again is not appropriate in a … [Read more...]
Single, 4 Things That Will Help on Cold Lonely Nights
Dear Autumn, So here we are again. It’s been several months and I must say I’ve enjoyed the break away from early sunsets, grey skies, and chilled windowsills. I can admit though that I’ve missed the lattes spiced with cinnamon, pumpkin and peppermint. I can swallow my pride and say that the changing of the leaves are romantically beautiful. I can say that I’ve missed the … [Read more...]
Ladies: Do You Find It Difficult to Compliment Men?
As I've gotten older, I've learned to appreciate, not just like, a well dressed man. It's the time and attention paid to the details of his overall look, from his crown to his feet, that would make many a lady like myself wave my hands like a mother in church service. Only in my head though, because that would be weird to do it on the train at 8:19 am in the morning on the way … [Read more...]
4 Things Single Folks Just Shouldn’t Do
Last week I wrote an article for married folks highlighting a few behaviors that were unacceptable in a marriage (5 Things Married Folks Just Shouldn’t Do.) I enjoyed the comments and understood that most of the readers felt the tips were common sense. One of the responses really stood out as this individual stated that common sense wasn’t really all that common and we … [Read more...]
Are You Really Satisfied with Singleness – True or False?
Many of us who are single are quick to state that we are "not looking" or we are "happy" as singles. Is that really 100% true? Or are we sharing the strong, politically correct answer for all to hear? I currently lead my church's singles ministry. As I lead, I have made it my mantra to share with our singles how we can live productive, active lives and make progress in all … [Read more...]