Have you ever met an attractive person with great qualities and wondered why they’re single? I think most of us can say yes. Now, tell the truth: have you ever thought that something must be wrong with them because they’re single or unmarried? I’ve been guilty of this too, but this mindset is not towards every single person I meet. But every now and then I wonder: they’re … [Read more...]
I’m a Rich, Young, Single Black Man, Why Can’t I Find My Mrs. Right?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a 30-year-old single man, who has done really well in life. I recently relocated from Atlanta to the D.C. area, and I am hoping to find a wife soon. I make more than $500K a year and live a fancy lifestyle. How much money I make is not really important, but I mentioned it because my lifestyle influences the kind of women that I attract. However, … [Read more...]
7 of the Most Challenging Dating Issues Facing Christian Singles
As with all dating relationships, when two imperfect people come together, there are bound to be challenges. And Christian dating is no exception. I surveyed Christian women between the ages of 25 to 55 and asked them to list the challenges of Christian dating. Here are their top 7 answers: 1. Is this the One? This is a problem everyone faces. Most women and men have a desire … [Read more...]
Aim High or Aim Low? What Advice Do You Have for a Hopeless Single?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a single female who is very close to giving up on meeting Mr. Right. Every time, I meet a man who appears to be good, things do not work out. I continue to date on a regular basis, but I do not expect much these days. I learned years ago that it does not benefit me to get my hopes up when in comes to men these days because I typically get … [Read more...]
Are Married Men Tainting Single Men Against Marriage?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a 30-year-old single woman who is tired of dealing with tired single men. I cannot seem to get a break free from meeting men who are afraid of marriage. I know that the divorce rate is high, but there has to be more to the story. I am meeting men who talk about marriage—but only in a negative manner. I am wondering if single men are lacking … [Read more...]
Should Christian Singles Try Speed Dating? My Raw and Real Experience with the Trend
Ever been speed dating? Before I turned 30, I wanted to give speed dating a try. Movies like Hitch to 40 Year Old Virgin, which featured speed dating scenes, left me curious. As a busy woman, the idea seemed alluring, but I wondered how can people go on speed dates and honestly establish a legitimate connection. If you're curious too but have always wanted to try it, don't … [Read more...]
Single Ladies Discussion on the Good, Bad and Ugly of Single Life in 2016
One of the things I enjoy doing most as a Relationship Life Coach is exploring the differences between the sexes. I recently had the opportunity to have an uncensored, unfiltered, honest Q&A session with a group of single women on dating in 2016. Let me just say that the struggle is real. I had absolutely no idea some of the dating challenges single ladies deal with … [Read more...]
No Proposal After 11 Years of Dating! How Long Should I Wait?
Hi Dr. Buckingham I'm a single 43-year-old, never-been-married women. I've been dating a 53-year-old, divorced man for the past 11 years. We grew up across the street from one another, and our mothers still live across the street from each other. Since we've been dating, he lived in another town in our state of Oklahoma. He retired three years ago and moved to Texas and … [Read more...]
3 Urban Legends that Will Block You from Real Love if You Continue to Believe Them
If you've been dating for any length of time you've probably heard things like: "You have to love yourself before you can love someone else." "A relationship can't heal you. Become whole first and then look for love." "Work on yourself before you even think about getting married." Well, what if I told you these truisms were actually urban legends that can block … [Read more...]
“Netflix and Chill” and Other Modern Dating Terms that Don’t Make Sense When It Comes to Real Love
Will you and your bae ever make something more from a Netflix and chill session or are you two just in this together for cuffing season? If that sentence didn’t make much sense, then you're right. Modern society tends to recreate the rules in dating each year and along with those changes come new terms and phrases for the things we do for love. Check out a few of these modern … [Read more...]
Should I Commit to a Man Who Has a History of Vanishing?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, Hello. I have been reading your blogs and stumbled upon one about women marrying men in prison. I'm currently in a similar situation and would like your advice and view. I'm twenty-seven with one four year old child. About three years ago, I met and fell and love with a man online. We spent time together a few times and then he VANISHED! I moved on with my … [Read more...]
How the Fear of Rejection Can Stunt Your Growth and Keep You Single
The word says that God is love and His perfect love casts out all fear. We may find ourselves in a fearful place where taking a risk in being rejected keeps us from trying. When it comes to the single life and dating, we have to take these risks every time we go out. It's one thing to try and get shot down, it's another to not try at all out of fear of being shot down. I'm … [Read more...]
The Top 3 Ways to Get High Quality Men to Approach You (Advice from a Matchmaker)
If he were interested in you, he'd approach you, right? Wrong! Men don't always think like that, sisters! If you've been confused or frustrated by the fact that high-quality men don't initiate conversations with you, let me help a sister out and share 3 tantalizing tips that will turn you into a man magnet and have men approaching you everywhere you go. 1. Your body … [Read more...]
Is the Man that You’re Dating Your Financial Match?
Michelle Singletary, columnist at The Washington Post used to have a personal finance intervention show on TVOne back in 2006 called Singletary Says. I used to wake up early Sunday mornings so I wouldn’t miss the show. I did not even care when they showed the reruns. It was that good. One of my favorite episodes was when Michelle shared how she chose her husband from another … [Read more...]
Singles, 10 Ways to go from Selfish to Selfless
It's not about you. It's not about you. It's not about you. Singles, we have the misconception we often feed, that we can be some selfish creatures. Some books and other people will tell you that being single is a stage of enlightenment and a time to only be "taking care of me" and other clichés that come with false independence. That kind of thinking fits very well with how … [Read more...]