I'm going to get straight to point. If you and your partner are having difficulty communicating, then you owe it to yourself and your marriage to try everything you can to improve the situation. I know it gets hard and frustrating sometimes....like you're beating your head up against a brick wall. But your marriage is worth fighting for. And when it seems like you've tried … [Read more...]
3 Tried and True Keys to Getting Into Your Marriage Flow
Your marriage flow is uniquely yours. No one can copy it. You can’t imitate someone else’s. Your marriage flow is stamped with the fingerprint of you and your mate. It is as unique as you are. You won’t find this definition in Webster’s dictionary. However, here is what it means to me. Marriage flow is the rhythm of your relationship. The heartbeat, the pulse that keeps you … [Read more...]
Men: At Last, the One Simple Thing that Women Really Want
Listening to music today is totally different from years ago. Romance has been replaced with role reversal, explicit sex, and stories of unhealthy relationships. Somewhere between the promiscuity and the perceived lack of good men, relationships have gone astray. Both sexes are complaining about the other and it appears that more division, than unity is taking place. In the … [Read more...]
Men: 3 Attitudes that Are Causing Stress in Your Relationships
There will be always be a certain amount of stress in all of our relationships. No two people are ever going to agree on everything. And there are also other challenges that we face in communication and intention as well. But with that being said, there are also certain attitudes that we, as men, have that cause undue stress in our relationships. So I want to offer three … [Read more...]
10 Ways to Say ‘I Love You’ Without Saying a Word
We all want to feel loved and appreciated. And when that love comes from our spouse, it’s a deeper kind of joy. If you want to keep your marriage exciting and new, you have to continue to find ways to show your love and appreciation. I do believe we have to hear the words often, but at the same time, simple expressions or actions of love can go a very long way. Here are 10 ways … [Read more...]
6 Things to Come Clean About in Your Marriage
Ahh, marriage. A partnership that has had folks scratching their heads from the very beginning. Most couples are navigating through their relationships and wondering how to get it right. They may be bumping heads or getting stuck in the same cycle over and over again, questioning why things won't change. There are a few reasons, 6 in fact, for why your relationship might be … [Read more...]
Which Pet Peeves Should You Actually Discuss in Marriage?
Effective communication eliminates confusion, brings clarity to disagreements and is needed to create relationship solutions. The better a couple is at communicating, the stronger their partnership will be. Sharing what’s bothering you, your goals for the relationship and what you need in order to feel loved, are all necessary conversations to be had. As a Love Coach, I am … [Read more...]
5 Ways You Can Talk Yourself Right Out of a Good Husband
There is power in the tongue. Through your words, you have the power to build your husband up, but you also have the power tear him down. I've seen plenty of women talk themselves right out of a good husband or boyfriend. Check out these five ways that your mouth can seriously change your relationship status from married to single. And don't worry fellas, we have five ways you … [Read more...]
5 Surprising Things You’ll Discover by Simply Observing Your Spouse
We often say communication is one of the biggest difficulties couples face. They struggle with arriving on the same page when the thoughts and forms of communication are so different. Sometimes we say certain words with our mouths, but our body language and facial expressions say something completely different. We all have to be careful about the message we're sending when … [Read more...]
Two Steps to Getting on the Same Page Again
One of the more challenging things for my relationship clients is when things simply aren’t going well. They can’t exactly put their finger on the problem, but they know that there is a disconnect somewhere in the relationship. Arguments start that would never have happened before. Long silences happen because for some reason there is nothing to say. The natural tendency is … [Read more...]
3 Difficult Marriage Conversations You Can’t Ignore, and 6 Ways to Initiate Them
Let's face it. There's no way to avoid having a difficult marriage conversation at any given time throughout your marriage. And while things like finances, communication, and spirituality, are high on the list of hot topics to discuss regularly in your marriage, there are some topics that most don't even want to think about or confront. But a real marriage requires real … [Read more...]
A Strategy for Getting Your Man to Open Up Again; It Really Works
There he goes again. Straight Casper. You bring up an issue about your relationship that yall need to seriously discuss, and this bamma disappears emotionally…like the friendly ghost. Rolling his eyes. Sucking his teeth. And, you are yet again stymied by your husband’s consistent attempts to avoid conversations. But it didn’t use to be like this. You use to talk all the … [Read more...]
20 Conversation Starting Questions for Couples Who Want to Grow Together, Not Apart
Most “get to know you” question lists are aimed at people who are dating and/or considering marrying someone; but what about after the wedding? The discovery of the personality traits and quirks that make your spouse unique should not end at the altar! To avoid growing apart over the years, it’s important that you take the time to get to know your spouse and figure out what … [Read more...]
Your Mate Is Not a Mind Reader: How to Ask for What You Want
Your mate is not a mind reader. I know it sounds funny but it is the truth. Ask for what you want. Give your mate the opportunity to step in and meet your request. How many husbands and wives have had these thoughts: She should have known what I meant after all these years. He should know what I want. It’s not as special if I have to tell him. If she had thought … [Read more...]
Smooth Talk: 7 Tips to Better Communication with Your Spouse
Lately, Hubs and I have been doing some focused work on our marriage and not unlike many couples, one of the most sticky areas for us is communication. A 2013 poll of 100 mental health professionals found that communication problems was the most common reason that couples headed for divorce. That's a pretty big deal considering that communication can be improved…if both parties … [Read more...]