I can dish out some attitude and quite a bit of lip if I feel like it’s necessary. And sure, I can blame it on being born and raised in Brooklyn, New York; but I know darn well I would still be me if I was born and raised in Kentucky. I am who I am. What has served me well in life, however, is not my sassy attitude, but rather my ability to know when to turn it … [Read more...]
Women: Your Man Thinks These 4 Insensitive Behaviors Are a “Big Deal!”
PSA: The male emotions and ego must be handled with care. Ok, ok, ok let me back up before some of you ladies get to thinking “aww another article about how sensitive men are! Well, the truth of the matter is, that article received thousands and thousands of views because it touched on topics that many of your men wanted to tell you. However, they didn’t tell you mainly … [Read more...]
Know Your Limits: How Long Are You Going to Allow Your Mate to Disrespect You?
Several of my clients have come to me with circumstances that have a consistent theme: Their man is a guy who has a value system which is blatantly disrespectful to women and they allow their self-respect to be tested repeatedly by these guys. If a person is disrespectful toward you, that is definitely a problem within the offender. When you allow the disrespect to continue … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Ruin Your Marriage
There are many book and articles on how to have a great marriage. I've even written a few of them. So, now I'm going to do the opposite and share what I've learned about behaviors that can possibly ruin your marriage. Infidelity isn't the only thing that can ruin a marriage. There are several seemingly small things that can creep into your marriage and harm it. So, hopefully … [Read more...]
Are Celebrity Crushes Always Appropriate?
If ever you sometimes scroll through the posts on Facebook, you'll often come across a photo of a sexy, scantily clothed celebrity. They are usually just coming out of a pool, submerged in water or just sitting in their bikinis or swim trunks poolside. Sometimes the photo was taken for the fans they knew would appreciate seeing them in this state. Fans are the ones who buy … [Read more...]
Is It Ever Appropriate for Your Spouse to Compliment a Person of the Opposite Sex?
Recently, President Obama has been in the hot seat for comments that he made about California Attorney General, Kalama Harris. On last Thursday, during a Democratic National Committee fundraising lunch in Atherton, Calif., he said: "She’s brilliant and she’s dedicated, she’s tough," Obama said of the California attorney general. "She also happens to be, by far, the … [Read more...]
BMWK Anniversary Classic: Flirting, is it Harmless or Disrespectful?
All this week we'll be running classic posts in addition to our regular content to celebrate our one year anniversary on Blackandmarriedwithkids.com! Original post date: Feb. 19, 2008. Life coach Gail Blanke says that: "there's no better way to grab someone's attention.." than to flirt. In her article, Turn on the charm "“get what you want, she says: And it is a game … [Read more...]
Is There Love and Respect in Your Marriage or Relationship?
Love and respect are two key ingredients for a successful marriage. While Lamar and I were travelling back to MD from the ATL I listened to a lot of talk radio. This drove Lamar crazy. But hey it's the driver's choice. And when you drive, then you are in charge of the radio. For me, I was a little worn out by the ATL radio and just needed a break from the music. Anyway on … [Read more...]