It would take an entire book in itself to touch on every different communication style. If you Google different communication personality types, you’ll find a range of categories you can fall into that vary based on the system used or who came up with it. However, there are a few things that affect assertive communication in your marriage. They can also influence your … [Read more...]
5 Easy Tips for Talking About What’s Bothering You In Your Relationship
Quite a few of the conversations and comments that surface as a result of the articles posted here on BMWK typically focus on something a spouse is or isn't doing. This, of course, always leaves one spouse feeling frustrated and challenged on how to not only discuss it but also repair it. A number of couples struggle with knowing how to properly discuss the trials that arise in … [Read more...]
Communication: How We Went From Fussing And Fighting To Being Happily Married For 10 Years
Bad communication can trap you inside an unhappy marriage. Find out what you can do to improve communication in your marriage here! In this article: Top Unhappy Marriage Signs Our Communication Story Real Talk The A's and B's of the Four C's The 20 C’s of Effective Communication in Your Marriage How to Get Started Improving Communication in Your … [Read more...]
The Very First Thing You Should Do When You Want to Improve Communication with Your Spouse
The one thing that people often overlook, when they are trying to improve communication with their spouse, is some critical but necessary self-reflection. You see, when you are lacking in communication skills with your spouse, often times, its because the communication patterns, that were useful at one point in your life, are now outdated and just don't flow well in your … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Instantly Improve Communication with Your Spouse
I’ve been a little cranky lately. I am woman enough to admit that. I’m pregnant, I have a lot on my plate, and every time I open my eyes, it feels like someone in my family (immediate and extended) needs me for something. It’s a lot. And when I get cranky, I can also admit that my poor husband has to deal with some of that. He handles it like a champ most of time—especially … [Read more...]
Help! My Husbands Says I’m Nagging, so How Can I Express Myself Better?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I are going through some things, and I do not know what to do. We argue on a regular basis because both of us feel invalidated. I often tell my husband that he does not listen to me, and he tells me the same thing. To be honest, I grew up in a house where my three older brothers would shut me down, so I never really learned how to … [Read more...]
She Get It from Her Mama; 5 Things Your Parents Did Then That Are Killing Your Relationship Now!
“Just because you grew up that way, doesn’t mean it’s right!” Has anyone ever heard this before from your mate? If so, let’s have a very candid discussion. The more I speak to clients and the more I get feedback from my NEW BOOK , I realize that many of us are struggling in our current relationships. And we will struggle in future relationships if we continue to be prisoners … [Read more...]
You’re Married Now What? 5 Harsh Realities about Marriage!
Congratulations, you’re married! NOW is when the real work begins. Every day I see and speak to couples who are hit with a new reality once their wedding day is over. Those couples get back home from their honeymoon and then it sinks in that they are actually committed to and stuck with their mate for the rest of their lives. Once reality sets in, couples realize that … [Read more...]
7 Characteristics of Couples that Can Talk about Anything
When I started my life and relationship coach training 10 years ago, one of the greatest lessons we learned was how to communicate. We were taught active listening, how to pay attention to body language and to be aware of what wasn’t being said. I walked away knowing quite a few things. One being, people want confirmation they've been heard, but won't always come right out and … [Read more...]
My Mate Isn’t Talking To Me Again! 5 Reasons The Silent Treatment Isn’t The Way To Go!
"If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all!" I know that's what your parents taught you; but for many, saying nothing at all is taken wayyyy to far! PSA: Giving your mate the silent treatment when you are upset still doesn't solve the problem! You know the feeling, the one where two people are mad at each other and you can cut the tension between … [Read more...]
One Simple Yet Effective Way to Improve Communication in Your Marriage
Unfortunately, there is usually so much room for error and misinterpretation with relationship communication. Half listening, talking while the other partner is speaking, making up our own false conclusions, and misinterpreting the words our partners say, are just a few of those bad communication behaviors we need to remove. We constantly say it’s the most important aspect … [Read more...]
5 Easy Communication Tips to Help Keep the Peace in Your Marriage
Good communication is one of the key tools to a happy home. Communicating effectively helps to maintain peace, trust, and harmony in the home. The five tips here are pretty easy. They do take time and energy but with some effort you can master each one. [imagebrowser id=392] … [Read more...]
4 Times You BETTER Not Compare Your Wife to Your Mother!
"Baby how come your fried chicken doesn’t get as crispy and juicy like my mother's does?" I figured out when I was young to NEVER compare your WOMAN to your MOTHER. I was in my young twenties with no real frame of reference, but I got a lesson that day because my then girlfriend hit me with the “well if you don’t like it then why don’t you go get your mama to cook it … [Read more...]
Smooth Talk: 7 Tips to Better Communication with Your Spouse
Lately, Hubs and I have been doing some focused work on our marriage and not unlike many couples, one of the most sticky areas for us is communication. A 2013 poll of 100 mental health professionals found that communication problems was the most common reason that couples headed for divorce. That's a pretty big deal considering that communication can be improved…if both parties … [Read more...]
4 Bad Listening Habits that Are Impacting Your Relationship
We all have them; bad habits that is. Some influence how hard we work, others affect how neat we keep our space, yet others completely alter our relationships and marriages. The habits that affect our marriage is where I’d like to focus. Being in a relationship requires certain behaviors from both people involved. How we speak, handle our anger and show affection, all have the … [Read more...]