I expect my husband to mess up sometimes. Not because he’s some loser who always messes up—because that is far from true—but because he’s human. I hope he expects me to mess up too, because I will. When you enter a relationship intended to last a lifetime, there has to be an honest discussion with yourself and your spouse about what’s expected. Many marriages struggled … [Read more...]
4 Real Reasons Why Your Spouse Can’t Satisfy Your Needs
We all marry for love with hopes that our unions will last a lifetime. I know that’s why I got married. I married my husband because our love runs deep, and I truly believe we can stand the test of time. But that’s not the only reason I married him. It’s not just about love. I also married my husband because I felt like he could meet many of my needs. And I don’t just mean … [Read more...]
Will Unfulfilled Expectations Mess Up Your Marriage?
I have thought about it often: expectations in a marriage. Should you have high expectations? Should a mate assume their spouse knows them so well that they will know what to do and what not to? Is this faith and hope? Are mates being realistic? I told you, I have many thoughts on this subject. Let me set the expectation for this article. I simply want to raise a … [Read more...]
6 Revealing Signs You Are Expecting Too Much From Your Wife
A large part of what makes a marriage work is whether or not each person feels like his or her expectations are being met. Sure, it’s about love, honesty, respect, and all the other massively important issues—but expectations are a huge piece of the puzzle, too. So what happens when the expectations you have of each other are not in alignment? Well, it doesn’t mean that the … [Read more...]
Are You Disappointed in Who Your Spouse Has Become? Here’s What You Can Do About It
I’ve always been a little skeptical about people who marry potential. I think it’s great to see what someone is capable of, or what that person might become down the line, but just because you see the potential doesn’t mean they ever will. I believe the only way marrying someone for their potential works out well is if that person sees their potential, too. And it’s not … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Protect Your Relationship from the Silent Killer
By Felicia A. Garrett M.A, LPC, NCC One of the things I commonly hear when speaking with couples is how frustrated they become when their partner doesn’t meet their expectations. At first I would express empathy as that can be very frustrating to deal with. Yet I begin to find a common theme in these encounters, the other person had no knowledge of the expectation they … [Read more...]
6 Helpful Ways to Overcome Disappointment with Your Mate?
When you feel hurt over and over again, when your desires are not meet time after time, what do you do? You want someone who is glad to see you when you come home. Someone who buys you a small gift every now and then, it doesn’t have to be anything expensive. It can be a candy bar; just something that says, “I was on your mind.” A text that says I love you. Year after year … [Read more...]
5 Needs Your Spouse Can’t Meet No Matter How Hard They Try
Out of all the men in the world, I am glad I have the one I have. Sure, we have our differences, and I am certain we can get on each other’s last nerve, but when all is said and done, we bring out the best in one another. What we have works. I am grateful for that. But let’s talk a little bit more about the times when we get on each other’s last nerve. When my husband drives … [Read more...]
5 Things You Must Expect From Your Man
At an early age I realized a few things in life. One of them is that people are going to treat you the way you let them treat you. When you have low expectations, you don’t get much from folks. But when you raise the bar—showing people that you know your worth and nothing less than respect will do—well, people tend to shape up or find their way out of your life. When we … [Read more...]
3 Expectations I Have as a Husband
The impact of expectations on any relationship cannot be understated. This is doubly true of a marriage. So many marriages go south because one or both spouses are unable to adequately express what we truly expect out of the relationship and one another. Men are incredibly simple creatures - almost to a fault. It’s probably the thing that most women get frustrated most with … [Read more...]
How Couples Can Learn to Embrace Their Differences; We Did It and So Can You
Just because a couple is from the same race and country does not mean that they have the same culture. Two people of entirely different races could marry each other and literally have more in common than 2 people from the same race. According to Wikipedia: Culture is a word for people's 'way of life', meaning the way groups do things. Different groups of people may have … [Read more...]
4 Great Ways to Deal With Unmet Expectations in Marriage
Every one of us came into marriage with certain expectations. And every one of us has dealt with the disappointment of unmet expectations in marriage. It is one of those things in marriage that will happen. When it does it can make you or break you. An opportunity to develop a better marriage This year my wife and I were asked to be a part of a group of seven … [Read more...]
Women: Over-Emotional or Under-Valued?
One day I was speaking with a woman about the dating game and she had plenty to say about being disappointed by men, black men, as she is African American and they are her preference for dating. When I asked her why she cited a specific example and gave me way more detail than I asked for or expected. The following is what she explained to me: On Monday He [her current man] … [Read more...]
The Lazy Child Blues
When we think of young children, for the most part, lazy isn't usually one of the first adjectives we use to describe most of them. We picture them being energetic, running, playing and enjoying life as they should. My children seem to be full of energy when it comes to everything except school work. Something mysterious happens when it comes time for studying or finishing … [Read more...]
Wear Your Marriage Well
Did you know that people are watching and listening to the things you say and actions you take regarding your marriage? Your children, other family members and friends all get their basic views of marriage from those they know that are married. There are already such negative viewpoints on marriage, especially in our communities. What insight will your actions give others … [Read more...]