Self-Care has basically been the theme of 2020. We have needed to be more intentional and aware of our emotions than ever before. For married couples, however, we have also had to be mindful of our marriage-care. A happy married life doesn’t happen by coincidence; an investment is required. The following 5 easy marriage-care tips your relationship needs now will help you better … [Read more...]
The Happy Husband Formula: 8 Things Other Than Sex That Will Truly Make Him Happy
There's a well known saying, "happy wife, happy life." I know some men who love it. But, I also know it rubs some men the wrong way when they hear it. Sure, they want to make their women happy, but how about their happiness. A happy husband is as important to a lasting relationship as a happy wife. Unfortunately, society often reduces the man's happiness to a sweaty romp under … [Read more...]
5 Simple Things a Husband Can Do to Bring His Wife Joy
We've all heard the phrase: Happy Wife, Happy Life. And while we don't subscribe to such a basic principle of marriage in our house, that doesn't mean I don't go out of my way to put a smile on wife's face just because she's my wife. Simply put, as her husband, I want to see her happy every day. 5 Simple Things a Husband Can Do to Bring His Wife Joy In this article: … [Read more...]
The Keys To A Winning Marriage: Do You Have What It Takes?
The NFL just crowned their 2019 champion, The New England Patriots. Likewise, the NBA and NCAA will begin the playoffs to find their respective champions. Whatever teams win, everyone will race to try and figure out their winning formula. Why? Because everyone wants to be a winner and the proof is often in the pudding. There is a recipe for success and those who truly wish to … [Read more...]
20 Essential Elements for a Happy Marriage – Your Must-Have Checklist
I think lists are awesome. How would I get anything done without a list? I’ve tried and I can tell you that although things still get done, it’s a whole lot harder. I forget stuff. I don’t do things in a timely manner. And worst of all, I end up feeling a lot more stressed than I would have if I had just used a darn list. With that in mind, I hope this list of 20 elements for a … [Read more...]
6 Practices of a Marriage That Runs Like a Well-Oiled Machine
When I hear the phrase "well-oiled machine" I think of something smooth and efficient with little to no defect. But I also know it earned its reputation as a result of a lot of hard work by everyone involved with bringing the product to market. Take a BMW for instance. No matter the series, a BMW is a much-coveted vehicle that has set the standard for many others. But it didn't … [Read more...]
5 Signs You’re Married to Your Soul Mate
A soul mate is defined as "a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner." I always thought the term "soul mate" was just a cute way to define that person closest to you. But it wasn't until years into marriage and even daily, that I'm reminded that I'm truly married to my soul mate. I know without a shadow of a doubt that God hand-picked us for each … [Read more...]
At Last! The Secret To A Happy Marriage Is Revealed
I was at a restaurant not too long ago and saw an older couple. Maybe in their late 70s or early 80s, there was an air of serenity about them that bespoke decades of life and love together. They ate in comfortable silence, but somehow I just felt they were conveying something beyond words. As they walked out holding hands, I couldn't help but wonder. What's their secret? We … [Read more...]
4 Healthy Ways to Change Your Marriage in 2018
Well, 2017 is almost outta here! It's been one heck of a year. When it comes to a fulfilling relationship with your spouse, 2017 either knocked your socks off or left you wanting. If you're one of the lucky ones, you and your spouse took on the world like Bonnie and Clyde. You were in this life together. Your relationship was untouchable and everyone around you knew it. Your … [Read more...]
Top 3 Things that 18 Years of Marriage Have Taught Me
Anniversaries are super special in my house. I would never have imagined being married to my husband for eighteen years. Real talk, my parents didn't even think my husband Don and I would remain married past the first six months. They expressed this to us more times than I can count. Why would my parents think this, let alone have the nerve to verbalize this to us? Well, the … [Read more...]
How to Stay Together When Your Family and Friends Want You to Divorce
For years, my husband Don and I had an extremely rocky marriage. During those tumultuous years, I confided in a lot of girlfriends. I told them everything he did and did not do. I was painting a picture of him that had them not speaking to him or wanting to be around him. When things were at their worst, I ran my mouth. Straight up. I even convinced myself that I was going … [Read more...]
Why Fighting For My Marriage is the Best Thing I’ve Ever Done
A few years ago, Don and I were at a crossroad in our marriage and we had to decide if we were going to remain married even though we didn’t like each other. It was not easy to live with this question hanging over my head nor was it pretty. The realization that we did not like each other was painful, but we had no idea how to break from it. One day, we decided to have a … [Read more...]
Healthy Black Marriages Do Exist
I stumbled across a Facebook post a couple of weeks ago and found the topic so interesting I had to write about it. The post was in response to all the praise pouring in for rap’s new super couple, Remy Ma and Papoose. It questioned why black folks were acting like we had never seen a happy black couple before. It read as follows: “My Remy and Papoose assessment: Truth be … [Read more...]
Seven Strategies that Saved My Marriage
I’m going to be totally honest with you: sometimes, I am annoyed when folks say they want a marriage like mine and Don’s. What they don’t know is that we experienced many ups and downs in our marriage. The 'downs' seemed to last forever. We’ve experienced the difficulties of blending a family, numerous periods of unemployment, a child going to jail, alcoholism and an emotional … [Read more...]
The 7 Morning Habits of Very Happy Couples
"Man they must have woken up on the wrong side of the bed this morning!" This is what we say when we encounter folks at work or elsewhere early in the AM that are already in bad moods. If this happens every now and then, it’s not a big deal, but the real trouble starts when those days are the norm for those people. How you start your day has a big impact on how you finish your … [Read more...]