Although all marriages and relationships are not created equal, there are some fundamental rules that every happy marriage probably already follows. Contrary to popular belief, yes, happy marriages really do exist. But these marriages are intentional. There are certain do's and don'ts. They have certain bonds and rules that can't be broken. 1. Love unconditionally, even … [Read more...]
7 Signs You’re Unhappily Married and What You Should Do About It
I consider myself a happy wife. Am I happy with my husband every single day of the week? Not at all. Is he happy with me every day? I doubt it. I mean, neither of us is perfect. But, we’ve found a way to understand each other – most of the time—and the challenges that are thrown our way on a daily basis are manageable. We do our best to keep the other happy and usually we get … [Read more...]
How to Love Each Day of Your Marriage Like Springtime
“Stay with me, while we grow old and we will spend each day in spring time” – Minnie Ripperton Now, me being the hip hop lover that I am, I’ve never really paid that much attention to R&B lyrics. But the other day, I was in the car blasting Minnie Ripperton’s “Loving You" (which is EASILY one of my favorite songs EVER.) And I heard a lyric that I’ve sung countless … [Read more...]
A Phenomenal Husband, That’s Him
This year marks 20 years since I first laid eyes on my husband. Whew! I seriously can't even believe that number even as I type it. But yes, we met when I was a freshman and he was a sophomore in high school. We were chatting about it the other day and it really hit home just how long we've been in each other's lives. Twenty years sounds like a really long time, but I now truly … [Read more...]
Four Ways You Can Choose to be Happy in Your Marriage
Me: "Babe we must be doing something wrong" Her: "What do you mean?" Me: "Something just isn't right, we should be mad at each other more often and we should be fighting more....shouldn't we!?" Her: (while smiling) "We could, but that wouldn't be good for either of us now would it?" Simple concept, but the application is way more complex for some people. This is an … [Read more...]
The Happy Marriage Challenge
If more couples showed just how wonderful marriage could be, do you think it would have a positive influence on your children, families, and those you come in contact with? In a recent dinner conversation with friends we talked about how most of the things we see on TV portray marriage in a bad light. Everything from the news to the popular television shows make a mockery of … [Read more...]
Get Out of Survival Mode; 5 Things to Help Your Marriage Thrive
I’ve been married for over 5 years. That's not long by most standards, but long enough for me to realize that making our marriage last isn't about how much we love each other; it’s about our willingness to put in the work. Are we willing to give this thing our all in an effort to not just survive, but to actually thrive as partners? Sometimes when you hear people talk about … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Make Him Happy to Come Home…Every Single Day
A while back I wrote the article 5 Ways To Make Her Happy To Come Home, telling the men what they can do to put a bigger smile on the face of their special woman. Well it is only fair that I make a list for the women to read and embrace in regards to creating a happy home for their man. Some of the things are basically the same, and most can be applied to either gender. What … [Read more...]
Why Finding Your Passion Can Strengthen Your Marriage
Do you ever find yourself thinking about your life and wondering, “how did I get here?” If you are fortunate enough to have never experienced this thought, consider yourself blessed. But, if like so many people, you realize that you are in a passionless career, a dead-end job, or a situation that makes you feel unfulfilled, please know that you are not alone. Spending hour … [Read more...]
A Man Who Can Cook Is the New Modern Day Mr. Right! Beef & Broccoli Done Right!
Let me begin this post by dispelling the notion that a man who cooks is in some way feminine! On the CONTRARY, a man who can cook to many women is extremely attractive! With that said, let me just put something out there I've been saying for some years now; "A man who can cook is the new modern day Mr. Right!" To the single ladies — While wining and dining you is a sure way … [Read more...]
Sometimes We Think We Want a Divorce, But What We Really Want Is Our Joy Back
A woman wrote me recently asking for advice about her failing marriage. Life was really taking a toll on her and her husband. They were caring for a terminally ill parent. They were growing apart after 8 ½ years, resulting in a non-existent sex life. When they did speak to each other, well, you can imagine that their words were not always kind. So, they finally had “the … [Read more...]
VIDEO: Trinity UCC Married Couples Ministry Dance Shuts It Down!!!
Still one of the best viral videos ever! Watch as the Trinity UCC Married Couples Ministry shuts it down! ALSO SEE THEIR LATEST VIDEO FROM 2013: Trinity UCC Married Couples Ministry Dance Does It Again! … [Read more...]