There are countless reasons to end a relationship. Sometimes the road leading to a break up is long, painful and complicated. In those instances, ending things is probably best for both parties involved. But what if things aren’t that complicated and your partner just made an awful mistake? Should your relationship end because of it? It’s a tough call to make. When you love … [Read more...]
How One Harmless Joke Could Destroy Your Relationship
During my morning commute, I’m notorious for station surfing in an attempt to find a good news story or segment to listen to on the radio. Twice, I’ve landed on the Steve Harvey Morning Show. While waiting for a particular interview, I listened to Nephew Tommy’s Prank call. The two prank calls I heard were mind blowing to say the least. I couldn’t believe I was hearing … [Read more...]
Once a Cheater Always a Cheater…Not Necessarily!
A couple years ago when our story aired on OWN via the show Unfaithful: Stories of Betrayal several people would say, “You can’t love your husband, and he can’t love you if you both cheated!” Yep, that’s right, we both cheated (understand we're not proud rather transparent for educational and inspirational purposes). He cheated during our first year of marriage, and I during … [Read more...]
Beyoncé’s “Lemonade” Public Praise or Private Prison – To Tell or Not to Tell?
The day after “Lemonade” debuted I awoke to the masses wanting to quench their Lemonade thirst on my Facebook timeline! Having not been a big “B” fan I had to do some research, having missed the big HBO debut. However, I was able to locate a free trial via Tidal (which is owned by Beyoncé & Jay-Z; do you see how genius and strategic this power couple played this?). I … [Read more...]
How Often Do Happy Couples Have Sex? 5 Reasons You May Not Hit The Number!
Man, listen. I didn’t get married to only have sex once a week!!! I’m sure most men would agree that only getting sex once a week sounds asinine, that is until real life, real responsibilities, real stress and real tiredness seem to creep into our bedrooms when in long-term relationships. So the age-old question comes up: “how often should a couple have sex?” Well, CNN did a … [Read more...]
Do I Tell His Wife about Our 3-Year Affair?
As a speaker and life coach, I encounter all sorts of dilemmas. But I was recently written by a young woman, who was weighing a decision to reveal a troubling secret—a secret that would undoubtedly open the emotional flood gates for all parties involved. I understand other women may be considering the very same dilemma, so I wanted to share. I’ve paraphrased a bit of her … [Read more...]
It’s Not You, It’s Men: Rev. Run and Tyrese Discuss Why People Cheat, So Here’s What to Do About It
On this week’s episode of It’s Not You, It’s Men, Tyrese & Rev. Run discuss: Why men cheat? Prior to the start of the show, 89% of the studio audience polled admitted to being cheated on or having cheated in a relationship. This kicked off the dialogue of why men cheat. What follows are arguments and counterarguments on the topic: Men are wired that way Tyrese stated that … [Read more...]
How to Deal with Your Emotions After You’ve Discovered Your Spouse is Cheating
"Last night was well worth it” read the text from my husband’s mistress. Needless to say that is one text I will never forget! If you are anything like I was you may have just discovered that your spouse is having an affair. What should you do now? You suddenly feel shattered. You can’t catch your breath. You are furious and devastated at the same time. Okay, so what … [Read more...]
5 BIG Signs that You May Not Be as Good a Husband or Wife as You Think!
“A lot of people want to be married but not many want to be husbands and wives.” I wrote this quote on social media a while ago and it seemed that it hit home with many people. The fact that it did told me there is more to the story. The reaction told me that many people are in love with the title of husband and wife, but don’t necessarily embrace the responsibility that … [Read more...]
5 Steps Toward a Healthy Relationship After Your Spouse Has Stepped Out on You
We recently discussed the 6 Brazen Signs that Your Spouse Might be Stepping Out on You. And, sadly, the article hit home with you. Maybe you discovered your spouse cheated or is cheating. So, now what. Well, if your choice is to try to save your marriage, healing after losing trust in your spouse is a process, not a one-time “I’m so sorry, I will never do it again” … [Read more...]
The Biggest Lie Men Tell Themselves to Justify Cheating
By: Debrena Jackson Gandy There’s that nauseous sensation in the pit of your stomach, then the realization finally hitting you like a blow to the gut – “I think my spouse is having an affair.” I know the feeling well because in our marriage, we experienced mutual serial infidelity. This means that both my husband and I have been on both sides of infidelity, as both the … [Read more...]
6 Brazen Signs Your Spouse Might Be Stepping Out on You
Life has taught me that cheating doesn't have to be an automatic end to your marriage. You and your spouse relate on a number of different levels. Even though trust has been broken, you still love each other and share various aspects of life. That love, along with multiple threads that still connect you, may have been stretched almost to the breaking point. But, they can … [Read more...]
My Husband Impregnated a Hood Rat: Can Our Marriage Survive His Deception?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 20 years. We have two daughters. My husband cheated on me with someone that I believe has low standards (Hood Rat). I found out 4 years ago because she sent me a nasty letter giving me details of their sexual encounters. I was crushed! (The man) who I thought was my best friend had become my enemy, not my husband. He … [Read more...]
5 BIG Reasons Your Man May NOT Be Having Sex With You!
“I’ve been trying, but my husband hasn’t wanted to have sex with me lately and I don’t know why!” This sentiment came from many women that commented on my recent article Why Does My Man Always Want Sex? 6 BIG Things Ladies Must Know About Men and Sex!! Well I realized that sometimes this is one of the hardest things for women to understand because for some reason society has … [Read more...]
How to Keep Those Negative Memories from Torturing You After Infidelity in Your Relationship
Sometimes all it takes is a familiar fragrance in the air to arouse your nose, or a random song playing on the radio, to trigger a memory. You smile as you hear “Anniversary” by Tony! Toni! Tone! (Yep that is still a jam) and feel refreshed—unless... it happens to be the perfume worn by your spouse’s side piece, or the song that was playing when you found out about the … [Read more...]