Dear Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been together for ten years and married for five. We have three children together. My husband recently had an altercation with his boss and quit. I chose to start working and let him stay home with the kids. Well, a week later, I see he searched for a girl on Facebook, and asked him about it. He got really mad and said it was a … [Read more...]
How to Overcome 6 Barriers to Forgiveness After Infidelity Threatens Your Marriage
Have you been unable to forgive your spouse for being unfaithful? Even after he or she has proven absolute re-commitment to you, you know within your heart you have been unable to forgive. Something is preventing you from forgiving. It can be one or a combination of barriers that need to be identified immediately in an effort to heal and forgive. According to our society … [Read more...]
Will Your Marriage Merely Survive Infidelity or Thrive Despite Infidelity?
Have you ever had an affair? Or perhaps your spouse or significant other has cheated on you? The semantics of who did what and why aren’t so much important for this topic of discussion. Now wait a minute, I can hear your thoughts already and I’m not saying that who, why, when, and where are not important…trust me they are! Just not today. The most important question you … [Read more...]
Is It Ever Okay To Go Through Your Man’s Things?
If you haven’t been there personally, you probably have a friend who has—going through her man’s phone, wallet, car—wondering if she will stumble upon some incriminating evidence that he’s doing something wrong. Sometimes the evidence is there—clear as day, begging the question, did she really need to go through his things to figure that out? And sometimes, there is nothing … [Read more...]
How to Survive the First 30 Days After an Affair
Wow! So you’ve just found out that your spouse or significant other has been unfaithful! Heart breaking, right? I’m sure you have a million scenarios and questions running through that head of yours. Did someone say questions? Questions like… Now what? What do you do? What will people think? What will my family say? How will my kids react? Should I get … [Read more...]
Stop “Waiting To Exhale”! Unpack The Emotional Baggage And Build Lasting Love
Are you free to love? We all say we want successful relationships. However, some people carry so much emotional baggage that it hinders them from freely loving the people in their lives. Emotional baggage is a term used to describe unresolved emotional issues, which can be detrimental to the individual. Relationships can be challenging enough without the added pressure of … [Read more...]
What is the Best Way to Cope with a Cheating Spouse?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I read your article about a lady whose husband cheated repeated times in their relationship and numerous times with one specific woman before marriage. Luckily for her she found out prior to her wedding day, unfortunately for me I found out only in the second year of my marriage… At first my husband denied it, but when I started stating the facts he … [Read more...]
3 Powerhouse Secrets to Surviving Infidelity
By: Da-Nay Macklin We live in a world of way too may secrets. You know what I mean…learn the 3 secrets to blah blah blah, discover the 5 secrets to blah blah blah, perform these 3 secrets to blah blah blah. However, your partner keeping their infidelity a secret is no small matter. Surviving that kind of betrayal is a tall order requiring us to dig way down deep. So, are … [Read more...]
3 Startling Reasons He Cheats and Why He Refuses To Stop
First, let me give a very important disclaimer. I do not support cheating by any man for any reason. It is the highest order of treason as well as an act of cowardice and selfishness. It is also a clear indication that a male is misguided in his understanding of the role that manhood requires of him when he chooses to pursue a relationship with another woman. The following … [Read more...]
Should I Stay with My Ex-Husband after He Infected Me?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am kind of embarrassed to be asking you this question and putting all my business out in the air, but I am too ashamed to say anything to my family or friends. I have been with only two men in my life and I am 38 years old. I recently went to the doctor because some weird stuff was going on with my body and I found out that I have genital herpes. I … [Read more...]
It’s Time to Come Clean! Ashley Madison Hackers Could Out 37 Million Cheaters
Hackers are at it again. It's not the first time and it won't be the last. This time their cyber attack targeted the notorious 37 million member affair website, Ashley Madison. The site has now been secured but not before the hackers, who are calling themselves Impact Team, threatened to out such customer information as profiles, sexual fantasies, names, records, and … [Read more...]
He Cheated While We Were Dating. Will He Cheat When We Get Married?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I'm not sure where to start, so I'll just go for it. I'm somewhat currently engaged to whom I thought was the man of my dreams. On March 25, 2015, he released information he'd been holding in for quite some time. He'd slept with over six different women in the three-year timeframe of our relationship. And he slept with 1 of the 6 actually on numerous … [Read more...]
Singles: 3 Reasons He Cheats, 3 Reasons She Stays
When the question, “Why do men cheat” is asked, there are various answers given. The answers run the gamut from plausible to laughable depending on whom the question is asked and how that person has been socialized, their worldview which shapes how they see the world and their place within it. It is a legitimate question asked by those who have suffered from the (forbidden) … [Read more...]
Monogamy Isn’t Natural and Neither is the Alternative
A recent article about “The New Monogamy” details shifting ideas about monogamy and how married couples are now being more open to exploring different ideas about what being faithful means. The article is just one of many shedding light on the ever-popular sentiment that monogamy isn’t “natural,” and by trying to force it, we’re ultimately doing more harm to our relationships … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why Your Spouse Cheated on You
Infidelity. It has to be one of the toughest marital problems for any couple to discuss. Trust and honesty serve as the foundation of marriage. People enter their unions believing that they can trust the person they just made a life-long commitment to. When something like infidelity happens, it shakes the foundation that the marriage stands on. Once there is a crack in your … [Read more...]