The beautiful thing about marriage, at least in our culture, is that two people have mutually decided they love each other so much, they want to spend the rest of their lives together. They go into this commitment knowing that things won’t be perfect, and that times will get tough, but they feel confident that they have what it takes to stay the course and make their marriage … [Read more...]
My Spouse is A Chronic Cheater: What Should I Do?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 3 years now but he has been cheating on me even before we got married. When I was pregnant with our daughter , his ex was also pregnant from him as well. Our babies would have been a few weeks apart but she had a miscarriage. After our daughter was born, he promised that he would stop cheating and I forgave him and … [Read more...]
4 Things That Won’t Fix Your Relationship
Pay all of her bills. Give him a baby. Put a ring on it. What do all of these things have in common? They are among the popular ways that people try to fix a relationship—even when it’s obvious that it should end, or should never have begun. Another thing such relationship fixes have in common—they rarely, if ever, work. While such tactics might provide a temporary fix (for a … [Read more...]
Stepping Out of Your Marriage: 6 Reasons You May Want to Reconsider
"I won't tell your secrets...your secrets are safe with me...I will keep your secrets...just think of me as the pages in your diary!" WOW! That sounds so deep and so intimate and I'm sure in that song by Alicia Keys it was meant to be just that. Well that, my friends, sounds really good until the affair goes bad and now you're knocked back into reality. She said she wouldn't … [Read more...]
Deal with Cheating in Your Marriage; Don’t Just “Move Past It”
Marriage isn't easy and I'm sure many of you know that. It takes a lot of effort to maintain a happy home where both parties are truly getting what they need from each other. In many cases, this harmony between a couple is not being achieved which opens the door to many things such as cheating. The day you find out that your partner has cheated on you can be extremely difficult … [Read more...]
5 Things You Need to Do if You Are Thinking About Cheating
Most people don’t enter a marriage with thoughts of cheating on their mind. I’m no fool, so I also know that some people go into the partnership with no intentions of being faithful. However, I do believe that the majority of people have good intentions and they want their union to last. However, none of us are Christ. And even with the best intentions, some people find … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: I Messed Up, but How Can I Get My Wife Back?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 7 years to a wonderful woman and we have 4 children. One child is in college, one in high school and the youngest children are 5 and 4 years old. I never was good at talking much and always kept things inside. I know my wife loves me, but I don't think that she is in love with me anymore. We had a good marriage, but I let myself … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: My Husband Is Sexting with an Ex: What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been married almost 2 years come May. My husband and I have been butting heads for awhile now. I found out 5 months after we were married that he was entertaining text messages from his ex-girlfriend. It started right after we were married with a "congratulations" on Facebook and progressed into sex-texting. I found out because he slipped and hit his … [Read more...]
My Husband Cheated; Should I Divorce or Stay?
Dear Dr. Buckingham I have been married 14 years. My husband recently cheated. We have been trying to work things out but I'm angry. He tried to find fault in me, to justify his affair. He admitted that, only after I beat myself up over and over trying to find out what I did to cause it. A part of me wants to just divorce him! What should I do? Help me heal! … [Read more...]
4 Ways Married People Should Handle “Old Flames”
By Phil Stevens, A few weeks ago we shared part one of ‘Flattered’ by Marriage Pressure Points and we left you hanging, intentionally. A young wife/mother had seemingly made a decision to have lunch with a steamy old flame. We left you with a scene of her watching her very angry husband pace back and forth. What would you have done in her shoes? Checkout the full version … [Read more...]
I Was Mary Jane; Why I Settled for Being the Side Chick
For years I’ve gone back and forth about whether I should write this post, but every time I thought to put this story on paper, I changed my mind. As a writer, it’s tempting to share the shiny side, those stories where my faith, level-headedness and good-decision making skills prevail. But if I’m going to share the glowing stories about myself, I have to do the hard work of … [Read more...]
How Many Ways Are You Choosing to Cheat on Your Spouse?
That's a pretty blatant statement, I know. It's a phrase that I first heard, used by a teacher named Andy Stanley and it stuck with me. How does the phrase sit with you? What comes to mind when you hear that phrase, "Choosing to Cheat"? I'm sure it depends on where you are in life, at this moment, and your mindset towards this word and act of cheating. Anything from cheating … [Read more...]
Video: Married and Looking Up Old Flames? Think Twice!
Most people do not reach out to old flames looking for an affair – but yet this is often what happens. Old flames have a special place in our hearts. Reconnecting with them stirs up powerful and deep emotions related to desire, nostalgia and regret. Here’s the growing issue: Many of us are approaching middle age and/or in a bland marriage with an average level of happiness. … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Stay Faithful When You Start to Feel Tempted
Great relationships are such a beautiful thing. When two people are so into each other and producing so much positive energy, it is simply a wonderful sight to see. We just always have to be mindful that with good, there will come some bad. There can be many peaks and valleys, and when we don't take the right approach, this can easily lead to hurt, betrayal, and the revealing … [Read more...]
Husbands, Protect Your Marriage: Here Are the Top 9 Reasons Women Cheat
On a recent airing of the D.L. Hughley radio show, the top reasons women cheat were revealed. The list was entertaining and yet informative. Although the reasons were specific for women, I do believe they could go either way. Infidelity has damaged far too many marriages, it’s time we got real when discussing why it occurs. Yes, it’s true, a person who is prone to cheating will … [Read more...]