I don’t know how many times this has happened. My husband will be talking with someone and suddenly find himself at a loss for words. He knows what he wants to say, but he’s not quite sure how to say it. Then, I will pipe in and finish the thought, phrase, or sentence for him. We look at each other, nodding in agreement that we’re both on the same page. Some who don't know us … [Read more...]
7 Characteristics of Couples that Can Talk about Anything
When I started my life and relationship coach training 10 years ago, one of the greatest lessons we learned was how to communicate. We were taught active listening, how to pay attention to body language and to be aware of what wasn’t being said. I walked away knowing quite a few things. One being, people want confirmation they've been heard, but won't always come right out and … [Read more...]
How Do You Cope with a Traumatized Spouse?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My marriage is just 9 months old. My wife is pregnant and I lost my job 6 months ago. I try doing other things to provide for the family but, it's not easy. My wife works and her salary is OK for us but I know it's my responsibility. I know she expects more from me but, I've been unable to find a job. Recently, she has been very angry. She calls me … [Read more...]
How Do You Hold on When Your Spouse is Financially Unstable?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been married for two years going on three years in September. We met at a church revival. We started dating on April 25, 2012, and got engaged on August 16, 2012. We got married on September 28, 2012. Just giving you a timeline. As I look over my life, I think back to high school. When they ask you, where do you see yourself after high school? I … [Read more...]
Do You Believe Men Actually Mature Around this Age?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, Hope you are doing well. I'm writing you for some advice. My husband and I have been together for 4 years and have been married for 8 months. We have an 8 month old and have been separated for 4 months. He has problems with everything including my sister and cousin staying with us. I have a five-bed room house and he pays all the bills. I told him that my … [Read more...]
A Strategy for Getting Your Man to Open Up Again; It Really Works
There he goes again. Straight Casper. You bring up an issue about your relationship that yall need to seriously discuss, and this bamma disappears emotionally…like the friendly ghost. Rolling his eyes. Sucking his teeth. And, you are yet again stymied by your husband’s consistent attempts to avoid conversations. But it didn’t use to be like this. You use to talk all the … [Read more...]