There are too many married faces, smiling in public and crying behind closed doors. This may be you or a couple you know. For sure, it was me and my husband early-on in our marriage. We had just as many bad days as we did good days. Can you relate to any of these scenarios? You're leaving for work sad because of what is going on in your marriage.....but, you're happy you … [Read more...]
Why I Refuse to Let Guilt Tear Me Apart This Holiday Season
I had been living with a lot of guilt lately. It wasn't guilt because I personally did something wrong, but the guilt still robbed me of my joy and thanksgiving. Ironically, I had been feeling guilty for all the good things happening in my life recently. I wanted to rejoice that my parents and both my brothers along with their families would be with us at my brother's … [Read more...]
5 Very Vital Conversations That Couples Usually Never Have—Until It’s Too Late
This past week I came across an interview with Queen Latifah, in which she discussed her new role as a caregiver to her aging mother. Latifah shared how much her life has changed since taking on this new responsibility. It was a harsh reminder that as we mature, we will face this challenge in one way or another. Unfortunately, this reality is rarely discussed in most … [Read more...]
He Was Faithful, Driven and a Perfect Match for Me, so Why Did I End Our Relationship
The past 18 months has been a season of reconnecting with old friends who I’ve lost touch with over the years. Some encounters have been GREAT others have been to gain closure and move on. One encounter in particular was with a gentleman I use to date. After having breakfast, which turned into lunch and then an early dinner, I left open to the possibilities of rekindling our … [Read more...]
You’re Married Not Dead! 3 Important Reasons to Maintain Your Own Identity in Marriage
Somewhere in society it has been taught that once you get married you cease to exist as a person. You are one body and that is it. I tend to disagree with this thought process. Yes, you are one unit. Husband and wife have become one. However, it does not mean that you cease to exist as individuals. Each of you has been given a unique purpose that compliments one another. … [Read more...]
5 Great Books that Every Christian Wife Should Read
By: Chandra Sparks Splond Since becoming a wife in 2012, one of my goals is to learn everything there is to know about Gregory, the man with whom I will spend the rest of my life. In short, I’m working on my PhD in Gregory. I want to become an expert in anything that has to do with my husband. I want to not only understand his likes and dislikes, but I want to gain a … [Read more...]
5 Proven Ways Dating Your Spouse Can Keep Your Marriage Fresh and Alive
Things were much simpler before you got married. The cares of the day didn’t weigh down your relationship. You made time to focus on one another. You were each other’s top priority. Now, even though you are married, carry these 5 dating qualities over into your marriage and watch your marriage remain fresh and alive. When you were dating, you noticed everything good about your … [Read more...]
Your Man or Your Plan? Should Love Trump Career?
Should Love Trump Career? The answer to this question is yes. And no. Let me explain. You might be looking for me to give you a warm and fuzzy response like “follow your heart” or “love will make a way!” But I’m not going to give you that. You might be looking for me to give you an answer like “girl, get yo money! You don’t need a man.” I’m not going to give you … [Read more...]
5 Great Men of the Bible Your Husband Should Know
There are many great men in the Bible. We learn about them, study them, and even try to emulate them. We look at the great things they have done and we marvel at their obedience to God. There are awesome accounts of their actions captured in Scripture. Yes, there are great men in the Bible. However, there are also great men living and breathing today. You may be married to … [Read more...]
Does Separation Mean It’s Ok to “Get Your Groove Back” with Someone Else?
Separation in marriage can be tricky. First you must think about why you separated and how long it will last. In a previous article, Does Separation Lead to Divorce?, I shared some of the consequences of a marriage separation. Dating others is one area I think should be avoided because it can lead you places you had no intention of going. Remember, even though you are … [Read more...]
Not Doing This One Thing Will Put The Last Nail In Your Relationship Coffin
I just helped one of my clients break up with his girlfriend. Derwyn and Lisa (we’ll call them) were in a 2-year long distance relationship. They both love each other. But Derwyn’s complaint was that Lisa wasn’t showing enough commitment to their relationship. She’d text him “Good morning” every other day or so and that was basically it. All he was asking was for Lisa to … [Read more...]
God, Why Am I Still Single?
It is the question that many single women ask, either mentally or while screaming into their pillows, after they witness yet another friend becoming engaged and they're still just trying to get a good look from a good man. God, why am I still single? In Christian circles, it's not uncommon to hear someone say, “maybe God has given you the call to celibacy.” Well, before … [Read more...]
She Loves Her Some Him! Fantasia Barrino Marries Kendall Taylor
Those who really know me know that I LOVE Water.. Can you see it? How Happy I am.. This Man.. God… https://t.co/rq8Tf8TtuI — Fantasia Barrino (@TasiasWord) July 20, 2015 Her tweet says it all! Thirty-one year old American Idol winner Fantasia Barrino married her fiance, best friend, man of her dreams...her "Ken" doll, this past weekend! When you can't even cry anymore … [Read more...]
“And Two Shall Become One” What Does That Mean in Your Marriage?
Most of us have probably heard this phrase before, "And two shall become one..." Have you ever stopped to think what this phrase really means and where did it come from? What does it really mean to YOU? Is it based on your understanding of a biblical principle? Is it based on what you learned growing up or something that has been passed along from generation to generation in … [Read more...]
10 Things that Dramatically Changed After I Got Married
Hello beautiful people! I hope everyone is doing well, and being disciplined with their New Year's resolutions. We have at least one more week, until we fall off. Just kidding :). Well, I've been married for a little over 4 months now. I don't know why, but it feels like Stevie and I have been together forever. I literally can't see myself without him, ever. And whenever I … [Read more...]