In the previous article I shared the scripture Ephesians 5:33-Neverthless let each one of you in particular love his own wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband. From that I shared how even if we were unaware of it, women need love from their husbands whereas men need respect from their wives. I also shared what I and a few other women feel how our … [Read more...]
The Number One Thing a Married Couple Needs from Each Other, Part 1
Ephesians 5:33-Neverthless let each one of you in particular love his own wife as himself and let the wife see that she respects her husband. That is an interesting scripture about marriage that is actually what spouses really need from each other. I’m not saying husbands don’t want love and wives don’t want respect, but it seems that the priority of two complement each other. … [Read more...]
How to Show Your Husband You Respect Him (Using Only Two Words)
It’s so easy to take one another for granted in marriage. The two most effective words to prevent that from happening are: Thank You. Expressing your gratitude for the things your husband does that may feel routine or minute, is such a simple way to show how much you respect him. The word respect is defined as a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by … [Read more...]
5 Things You Must Expect From Your Man
At an early age I realized a few things in life. One of them is that people are going to treat you the way you let them treat you. When you have low expectations, you don’t get much from folks. But when you raise the bar—showing people that you know your worth and nothing less than respect will do—well, people tend to shape up or find their way out of your life. When we … [Read more...]
3 Ways My Wife and I Thrive in an Interfaith Marriage
A few years ago, I revealed to my wife that I was no longer a Christian. Through the transition in our life, she has been very supportive of my journey. Today, where we place our day to day faith, is vastly different from the day we said our vows. Here are 3 ways: Keeping Respect Paramount Unfortunately, there are too many relationships and marriages out there where the … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Reap What You Sow in Your Marriage
We’ve all heard the saying that, “You reap what you sow” and most may believe that it’s true. I am one of those believers. I feel that if you want something, you should give something. To me it’s a law of reciprocity. Therefore, I believe however you want your spouse to treat you, that’s how you should treat your spouse. I’ll give you five examples. [imagebrowser … [Read more...]
5 Things Every Father Should Share with His Sons
As we approach Father’s Day, we are often thinking about the gifts we can give our Fathers. I’m led to reflect on the gifts my father, grandfather and other father figures in my life gave to me. It’s important as a man for me to realize where my foundation comes from. In my case, it comes from those life lessons from my Dad and Grandfather. Respect My grandfather was a … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Magnify Respect in Your Relationship
Each day we find more and more reasons to develop distance in our relationships. We all are challenged for time and attention. Careers, children, hobbies, side jobs and other things are grasping for our mind-share. We can easily lose focus on those that care about us the most. We have to have time to devote our attention, focus and resources to those we cherish the most: … [Read more...]
Will You Make a Vow to Love, Honor and Obey?
Are you making plans to get married soon? Have you decided if you are going to write your own vows or recite them from the minister or Justice of the Peace? No matter what you decide, consider incorporating these three vows: love, honor and obey. Love Love is a given, I mean why else would you marry each other right? But love is not just the fluttering you feel in your … [Read more...]
Is It Ever Appropriate for Your Spouse to Compliment a Person of the Opposite Sex?
Recently, President Obama has been in the hot seat for comments that he made about California Attorney General, Kalama Harris. On last Thursday, during a Democratic National Committee fundraising lunch in Atherton, Calif., he said: "She’s brilliant and she’s dedicated, she’s tough," Obama said of the California attorney general. "She also happens to be, by far, the … [Read more...]
You Get What You Tolerate
My daughter is a lot nicer and softer than I am. At seven years old, all she wants to do is make friends and have play dates. But, as she is learning, life isn't always so nice. Some people are mean. Just this week she had a meltdown because two classmates were teasing her. So, her daddy and I stepped in to teach her how to speak up for herself. If bullies know they can pick on … [Read more...]
Marriage Will Not Work Without Respect
Usually when we discuss the key ingredients for a healthy marriage, they usually include love, trust, communication and honesty. Respect is sometimes the unspoken expectation for each individual. The reality of respect is that it means different things to different people. The husband in a marriage may not see staying out until the early morning hours as a sign of disrespect to … [Read more...]
Remember Where You Came From And Who Was With You Through It All
There was a time when my husband and I ate off of the dollar menu at McDonald's. And when we slept on a mattress on the floor. When we opted for rabbit ears instead of cable to save money for gas. When we used popsicles to cool off in the summer heat because we couldn't afford an air conditioner. We worked jobs we were over qualified for and drove cars that required too much … [Read more...]
Can Your Child Tell You Anything?
Question: Can your child tell you anything? Let me be more specific: Can your child tell you anything without you losing control? Can they trust you to listen and to respond lovingly, even while showing disapproval? Be honest now. Do you fly off the handle and start jumping to conclusions, or do you control your emotions and respond like a sane person? What if your child … [Read more...]
Is There Love and Respect in Your Marriage or Relationship?
Love and respect are two key ingredients for a successful marriage. While Lamar and I were travelling back to MD from the ATL I listened to a lot of talk radio. This drove Lamar crazy. But hey it's the driver's choice. And when you drive, then you are in charge of the radio. For me, I was a little worn out by the ATL radio and just needed a break from the music. Anyway on … [Read more...]