Paula Abdul said it…Opposites Attract! Yet opposites attract, but only for so long. Many of us believe couples who are dissimilar are more likely to have a better marriage than those who are alike. I would beg to differ on this. The more diverse a couple’s wants, expectations and views are, the more likely they are to always irritate each other and argue constantly (studies … [Read more...]
These 4 ‘Selfish’ Acts Healed My Marriage and They Can Heal Yours Too
I don’t think there’s anything that can prepare you for marriage, and, as hard as it’s been for my husband and me to navigate, it’s also been the absolute best thing for me as a woman. My husband and I have been married for just over ten years now, and, just like any other marriage, it’s had its ups and downs. But about five years into our marriage, a light bulb went off in … [Read more...]
Singles: Don’t Ignore These Warning Flags that Let You Know it’s Time to Run
“I have a question. I have been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now and we have been out on a date once. Dating is still relatively new to me. Already, I have found that he doesn't like when women tell him no. That bothers me. He becomes upset when I can't spend time with him because sometimes, I want to hang out with my sister, but he isn't close to his family like I … [Read more...]
5 Signs that Poor Communication is Killing Your Relationship
Somewhere deep inside of us we understand the value of good communication. After all, communication is what allows us to have some of the great things in life such as our relationships, careers and spiritual life. Yet, many marriages fail. When couples are asked why? They often site poor communication as the main culprit. According to national statistics poor communication is … [Read more...]
Singles, 10 Ways to go from Selfish to Selfless
It's not about you. It's not about you. It's not about you. Singles, we have the misconception we often feed, that we can be some selfish creatures. Some books and other people will tell you that being single is a stage of enlightenment and a time to only be "taking care of me" and other clichés that come with false independence. That kind of thinking fits very well with how … [Read more...]
Good Communication May Exist But Selfishness Trumps All
How important is good communication to your relationship? Very…right? Researchers have put a lot of stock in couples learning and using good communication skills. John Gottman, a relationship-research legend, has published over 190 research papers and authored 40 books on marriage and divorce. He has identified 9 specific skills (4 Don’ts and 5 Do’s ) to help couples … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Ruin Your Marriage
There are many book and articles on how to have a great marriage. I've even written a few of them. So, now I'm going to do the opposite and share what I've learned about behaviors that can possibly ruin your marriage. Infidelity isn't the only thing that can ruin a marriage. There are several seemingly small things that can creep into your marriage and harm it. So, hopefully … [Read more...]