Dating should be fun, exciting, easy and interesting. We’ve all heard the dating horror stories, but it shouldn’t be that hard, right? We should meet someone we like, enjoy great conversations over palate-pleasing food, and slowly build an awesome relationship. And although I know it’s usually not that simple, I really think it should be. Unfortunately, so many of us are … [Read more...]
6 Examples to Pursue Your Passion & Find Your Partner
I have heard many times that singles need to be confident, have some level of success, be emotionally stable, etc. and they will attract Mr. Right or Mrs. Right. I definitely agree with those assessments, but one thing I've observed more than a few times is when someone demonstrates a passion for life or is living out their purpose, Mr. Right or Mrs. Right many times will … [Read more...]
The #1 Reason Why Christian Women are Still Single
The other day I received this question in my inbox: "What do you actually have to do as a single Christian young woman to meet your man. Wait? Or is there are something else?" With so many Christian singles hearing dating advice like “wait on the Lord,” it’s no wonder this sista is confused and looking for real answers. The messages to Christian singles are conflicting. … [Read more...]
Are the Wrong Intentions Keeping You from Getting Married?
Has this happened to you before? You hear one part of a scripture in church service and run with it? One of those common scriptures just happens to be in John 15, when Jesus was giving an excellent metaphor about vines, branches, and our discipleship. I'm sure you've heard before, "Ask whatever you wish and it will be given to you." That's what Jesus tells us, then we start … [Read more...]
Are You Really Satisfied with Singleness – True or False?
Many of us who are single are quick to state that we are "not looking" or we are "happy" as singles. Is that really 100% true? Or are we sharing the strong, politically correct answer for all to hear? I currently lead my church's singles ministry. As I lead, I have made it my mantra to share with our singles how we can live productive, active lives and make progress in all … [Read more...]
4 Reasons Why We Love Mr. or Ms. Wrong
Guys and ladies have both been hit with the epidemic of falling for the bad woman or the bad guy. Something about their mysteriousness, their attitude, swagger, and overall coolness made us swoon or find them attractive. That may have been okay for one time, but if you find yourself consistently going for the no-good smooth-talker, the gold digger, or the church-on-Sundays, … [Read more...]
Stop Waiting on a Date: 5 Activities You Can Do Alone this Spring
Springtime always gives us a sense of new birth and new beginnings in our lives. It’s a time to refresh and start anew. This is why we often do spring cleaning and de-cluttering around this time of year. It’s a time for a brand new start. Singles, springtime is a great time to find things to do which are about “doing you” rather than trying to find someone else. When Mr. … [Read more...]
Review: Paul C. Brunson’s Book, It’s Complicated (But It Doesn’t Have to Be)
If you’re single and looking for love, there is no shortage of relationship books on the market with promises to give you the perfect advice for finding the perfect mate (that often don't deliver). Paul Carrick Brunson breaks that mold with his first book, “It’s Complicated (But it Doesn’t Have to Be): A Modern Guide to Finding and Keeping Love.” Known as the Modern Day … [Read more...]
The Single Life: Not Everyone You Meet is Interested in You
Recently, I met a man at a work-related event, who was attractive, articulate and intelligent. Throughout the morning, we locked eyes--each time in an uncomfortable yet intriguing type of way. I tried to focus on the speaker, but my mind kept wandering back to this mysterious man. When the event wrapped up, I lingered near the door, giving him a chance to approach me. He got … [Read more...]
The Single Life: Reservations for One
In my twenties, I was a social butterfly. I surrounded myself with friends and rarely went out without them. Then in my thirties, I reverted back to the caterpillar stage.I spent time alone in my cocoon a.k.a. my couch. I sometimes passed on offers to hang out with friends, and instead hung out at home. I didn't feel like I was missing out if I didn't go out. If I missed a … [Read more...]
Men Need Relationship Advice Too!!
Much of the relationship advice that I hear or read now-a-days is geared towards women. I can't turn on the TV, pick up a book, or read an article on the web, without hearing someone telling women, and especially black women, what they need to do to have successful healthy relationships. And for the most part, I am happy to take what I need and to filter the rest of it. I … [Read more...]
The Single Life: The Vegan & The Carnivore – What I learned about Compromise
There once lived a boy (who will remain nameless) and a girl (that would be me) who fell madly in like. They connected on several subjects and shared common characteristics. They even had the same birthday. The two spent hours on the telephone, telling stories that dated back to their childhoods. Then..... they discussed diets. And that’s when they realized … [Read more...]
10 Things Every Single Needs To Know About Marriage
The world is filled with people who desire marriage, but have no idea what real married life entails. We often run into people who share that their parents have been married for decades but they still don't know how they overcame issues that arose. All of these issues were resolved behind bedroom doors, so their children never got to see the resolution or the process that … [Read more...]
Should You Marry Equally Yoked?
Marriage can be a source of immeasurable joy or pain, sometimes both. A marriage not only impacts the two principal players"”the husband and wife and their children, but creates a ripple effect out across everyone they know and care about, for better or worse. Psychologists, counseslors, drug companies and in some truly unfortunate cases, police officers and detectives are in … [Read more...]
3 Mistakes Singles Make with Their Money
Something for our single readers from our friends over at BlackEnterprise.com: If you're among the more than 99 million single people in the United States, it's vital for you to have your finances in order. Without a spouse to pick up the slack, you could be left in a financially vulnerable position if you were to lose your job. As we head into National Unmarried and Single … [Read more...]