When you face marriage difficulties and you don’t know how to solve them or how you are going to get through them, you need assistance. You need someone to comfort you and guide you. That someone is the Holy Spirit, and He can help you through very difficult times in your marriage. Here’s how. Romans chapter 8, verses 26 to 27 say: In the same way, the Spirit helps us in … [Read more...]
5 Advantages and Disadvantages of Marrying Before You Turn 30
According to the Census Bureau, most Americans are marrying before they hit the 30 year mark. My husband and I got married when I was 24 and he was 27. Now, some 19 years later, I feel like we got married at a good age. We have both changed since then as individuals and as a couple. Well, I’ll say we have evolved as a couple. We have had time to really learn about ourselves … [Read more...]
A House Divided; The Do’s and Don’ts of Family Football Rivalries
Yes!!!! Football is back!!!! I’m so ready to cheer on my Cowboys!!! Luckily, my husband is a Cowboys fan, too, or else we would have some serious rivalry going on in our house. But I recognize there are couples who do indeed cheer for different teams. Most of the time, it's just a playful rivalry. But in the game of football, it's easy for emotions to go high. In these tense … [Read more...]
ABC’s of Love; 26 Steps to a Happier Marriage
Remember the rules you learned in kindergarten on how to behave and treat each other? Well, I’ve put together a similar list for married folk. Below are simple tips from A to Z that will help you have a happy relationship. Always apologize when you’re wrong. It’s the mature thing to do. Be available when your spouse needs you. Don’t put him/her on the back … [Read more...]
5 Communication Tactics that Could Destroy Your Marriage, #5 Is the Deadliest
A common complaint from married folks is lack of communication with our spouse. However, we communicate with our spouses all day every day. Talking, arguing and even the silent treatment is a form of communication. It’s not all good communication, but what we say, do, don’t say and don’t do conveys messages. According to Merriam Webster the definition of communication is … [Read more...]
Trouble Begets Trouble, So It’s Time to Get Rid of THAT Friend—And You Know It
Many of us know someone who is in a troubled marriage. You may not know how it got to that point, but you may have a front seat to the bad behavior going on in the relationship. But if you think that friend has no influence on your marriage, then think again. I want to encourage you not to allow other people’s marriage problems to infect your marriage. The bad habits and … [Read more...]
4 Reasons You Probably Need to Reset Your Marriage to its Default Settings
Does it seem like your marriage is off track and not where it should be? Do you feel like there is no communication? Do things just not feel right in your marriage? Sounds like you need to reset it to its default settings. What is the default settings? Glad you asked. Do you recall a time that your computer or laptop starts acting funky, and you don’t know what’s wrong … [Read more...]
5 Scriptures to Help You Avoid Going Off on Your Spouse
Yes, yes, yes! How many times do you feel like going off on your spouse? Do you ever find yourself asking Jesus for help restraining your tongue after your spouse does something to make your blood rise? In these situations, are you tempted to say some things—things that are not always nice? When you get to that moment, and you will have those moments, remember … [Read more...]
Think Your Marriage Can Survive a Major Illness? 7 Ways to Support a Spouse with a Chronic Health Issue
Do you recall your wedding vows? Did you mean it when you recited them? I want to take a look at one specific one, the one that says “in sickness and in health.” Many couples probably don’t think about what will happen if illness shows up, but it can be catastrophic. Chronic illness in a relationship can often place a strain on finances, communication, intimacy, emotional … [Read more...]
10 Comments That Needs to Be Eliminated from Your Marriage Right Now!
Words are powerful, and sometimes we say things we don't mean. Is it okay? No, but we're human and it happens. However, there are certain comments that should never be said in a marriage. Here are 10. "I want a divorce." Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." (Mark 10:9) If you're married, you already know at some point your marriage will become … [Read more...]
Marriage is for Grown-Ups. 5 Childish Behaviors You Should Stop Now
There will come a time in your marriage when you will find some behaviors unnecessary and maybe even a little crazy. For me personally, my husband and I are at the point where we refuse to argue over small stuff. We’ve reached the place in our marriage where we know how to avoid an argument because, well, we just don’t feel like arguing and would rather use that time for … [Read more...]
The No. 1 Thing You Need to Do When Your Marriage is in Trouble
Yes, you will go through trials and tribulations in your marriage. Any time two people live together, conflict will occur. So what are you to do when trouble doesn’t just causally knock on your door but barges in like a SWAT Team? Simple, you wait. So you’ve talked to your spouse about the situation, and nothing seems to be happening. No change. It’s as if you never … [Read more...]
12 Scriptures Every Christian Couple Should Have in Their Marriage Toolbox
With a new year ahead of us, I think it’s a good idea to resolve to get more of the Word while strengthening our marriages. I believe the following scriptures will help whenever an issue comes up or if you just need encouragement. I recommend meditating on one monthly, in any order. When you don’t know what to do about your situation. Hebrews 4:16 "Let us therefore come … [Read more...]
The Biggest Lie Men Tell Themselves to Justify Cheating
By: Debrena Jackson Gandy There’s that nauseous sensation in the pit of your stomach, then the realization finally hitting you like a blow to the gut – “I think my spouse is having an affair.” I know the feeling well because in our marriage, we experienced mutual serial infidelity. This means that both my husband and I have been on both sides of infidelity, as both the … [Read more...]
Singles: Here Are the Top 5 Advantages of Flying Solo for the Holidays
Some people think being single during the holidays is depressing. Many may feel lonely or left out because they don’t have a significant other at their side. Well I am here to tell you that just because you are single does not mean you are at a disadvantage. In fact, you have the advantage of being unattached during the holidays. I’ve listed my top 5 advantages … [Read more...]