I wish we lived in a world where everyone is happily married, but in real life, I know that is far from true. Many people are unhappily married and the reasons why are plentiful. Some unhappy marriages can turn into happy ones if both parties are willing to put in the work. Others will fail even if measures are taken to save what once was. Sadly, in some cases, divorce is … [Read more...]
4 Ways to Mend Your Relationship After a Painful Experience
When you experience something painful in your marriage, you have to make a decision that you will not let the pain destroy your partnership. Getting your marriage back to a good place will be challenging, especially if your relationship was shaky before the painful experience took place. Marriage can be hard work when things are wonderful, so when the “worse” comes knocking at … [Read more...]
3 Things You Need to Do if You Want Your Marriage to Have a Fighting Chance
Sometimes, my husband gets on my last nerve. I don’t care how wonderful I think he is (and he is wonderful), he is human. He has the capacity to work my nerves. But I’m no fool. I am certain I can do the same. There is no doubt in my mind that I get on his nerves, too. And although getting on each other’s nerves is pretty common in even the happiest marriages, it does make … [Read more...]
Time Does Not Heal All Wounds…You Have To
“Time Heals all Wounds,” has got to be one of the most annoying sayings ever as far as I’m concerned. I’m not quite sure when it started, but it’s just not true. Although its origins are probably well intentioned, it really does set people up for a lifetime of pain and unresolved issues. If you are married or in a serious relationship, there is a chance you’ve been hurt … [Read more...]
3 Things to Do If You Keep Attracting the Wrong Man
Finding the right person to build a life with isn’t always easy. Sure, some people luck out and meet the right person when they are young and without much drama, but for many, dating is stressful and choosing someone who’s a right fit is often hard. And for women who feel like every time they give this love thing a try they seem to end up with a loser, dating can feel like a … [Read more...]
3 Things You Should Never Ever Say to Your Husband
After 8 years of marriage and more than 20 years of friendship, my husband and I have had our share of ups and downs. We have a good thing going, but neither of us is perfect. We’ve each made mistakes, for sure. And what keeps us together and happy is not just how we manage things when mistakes occur, but It’s also how we treat each other at all times. I always knew that I … [Read more...]
3 Things Your Real Friends Want For Your Marriage that Your So-Called Friends Don’t
There is one thing all my friends have in common. They all want to see me win in life and they especially want to see me win in my marriage. They are rooting for my family. And they want this thing I have to last for a lifetime. Their desire to see my marriage last has nothing to do with how they feel about my husband either. Sure, some of them have known him for as long as … [Read more...]
3 Signs the Winter Blues May Be Ruining Your Relationship
While this is the most wonderful time of the year for some, the holiday season can be really tough for many. Some people have painful memories connected to this time of the year, like the loss of a loved one, while some are struggling with what is often referred to as the winter blues. So what exactly are the winter blues? It depends on who you ask. Some refer to the winter … [Read more...]
3 Expectations You Should Get Rid of to Improve Your Marriage
I expect my husband to mess up sometimes. Not because he’s some loser who always messes up—because that is far from true—but because he’s human. I hope he expects me to mess up too, because I will. When you enter a relationship intended to last a lifetime, there has to be an honest discussion with yourself and your spouse about what’s expected. Many marriages struggled … [Read more...]
5 Relationship Issues You Need to Address Before the Year Ends
As we approach October, we all recognize that we are in the final quarter of the year. Sure, that means a lot to folks in the business world, but it should also mean a lot to you on a personal level. So often, we take the start of the year as a time to identify what we want to change about our lives and relationships in the coming year. Now there is nothing wrong with … [Read more...]
Want a Happier Marriage? 7 Things that Will Take Your Marriage from Stressed to Blessed
Years ago, someone told me that being happily married was overrated because marriage is not about happiness. They shared that marriage was about a partnership and building a stable family...What? That’s it? We can’t do those things and be happy? I was confused then, and I’m still confused now. Why would anyone commit to spending a lifetime with another person if you both … [Read more...]
3 Major Issues Your Spouse Could Be Hiding from You; Discover Them Before It’s Too Late
A strong marriage is built on a foundation of trust. When you don’t trust your spouse, everything else in your marriage suffers. And once trust is lost, it is hard to rebuild—not impossible, but definitely hard. And when people think of the loss of trust in a marriage, thoughts typically turn to issues around infidelity. And while infidelity is a real issue many couples … [Read more...]
4 Signs That Your Man May Deserve a Second Chance
There are countless reasons to end a relationship. Sometimes the road leading to a break up is long, painful and complicated. In those instances, ending things is probably best for both parties involved. But what if things aren’t that complicated and your partner just made an awful mistake? Should your relationship end because of it? It’s a tough call to make. When you love … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why Your Kids Need You to Do Better in Love
Romantic relationships are far more complicated than any child can ever truly understand. But the thing is, our kids are a lot smarter than most of us give them credit for. They may not understand the complexities of intimate relationships, but they are able to detect drama, negativity and unhappiness without us saying much. You see, our kids feed off of our energy. When … [Read more...]
10 Questions to Ask Yourself If Being Married is No Longer Working for You
When I decided to marry my husband, I had high expectations. They weren't unreasonable, but they were high. I still have high expectations, and I have no intentions of settling for anyone—not even the man I love with all my heart. Thankfully, I have no regrets about marrying him and what we have works for us. We are happy. But things don't always work out this way. Some of … [Read more...]