Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have recognized that my wife has past issues that I now have to deal with. They include being cheated on in a four year long relationship, being molested by her step dad (he went to jail and her mother didn't take her or her sister to court to testify; they let him out and he came right back into the house as the man of the house), her real father was a … [Read more...]
“Mind Your Business!” 5 Topics that May Change How You Think of Privacy in a Marriage
Is there such a thing as privacy in a marriage? I mean we hear people say things all the time like “when two become one” or “what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is yours,” but it seems like when you put that into practice sometimes it can cause a lot of chaos in a relationship or marriage. While I understand everyone wants to keep some form of independence sometimes that … [Read more...]
3 Ways Insecurities Can Harm Your Marriage
We all want to think highly of ourselves, as we should, especially when it comes to marriage. We want to know that our spouses don’t want anyone else but us. We should walk in the confidence that we have nothing to worry about when it comes to our spouse because we know we got it going on right? Well not everyone feels like this and I’m going to tell you how insecurity can harm … [Read more...]
3 Critical Relationship Mistakes to Avoid in the New Year
Most people get excited about the New Year because it’s a chance to start fresh and do better. It’s the time to think about the changes you need to make in your relationships for you to accomplish your goals in the coming year. Personally, I know there are certain mistakes I have made in my past that have slowed me down in reaching my goals. Here are three to avoid if you’re … [Read more...]
Why My Male Friends Aren’t Ruining My Marriage
“Sure, that’s fine with me. Have a good time,” is what my husband said to me after I asked if he was okay with me meeting up with an old male friend of mine for dinner. Jokingly I said, “You know, most men probably wouldn’t be okay with that.” To which he said, “I’m not most men. I’m me. And when I married you, I agreed to trust you unconditionally – that means in every … [Read more...]
4 Rules for Building Amazing Intimacy in Your Relationship
Animal attraction and unbridled passion are in abundant supply at the beginning of a relationship. The feeling of his strong embrace, the warmth of her beautiful smile, the scent of her intoxicating fragrance can instantly fill your lover with uncontrollable desire for you. However, as time progresses and life begins to creep into the relationship; intimacy starts to move … [Read more...]
I am Divorced But I am Not Invisible
by Desiree Miller You don’t know me. You think you do. I see the judgment in your eyes. I hear the rumors you spread behind my back. I know you make assumptions. But you don’t KNOW me. And honestly, I don’t think I want to know you anymore, either. Because a real friend would have offered comfort, instead of secretly criticizing. A true friend would have … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Reap What You Sow in Your Marriage
We’ve all heard the saying that, “You reap what you sow” and most may believe that it’s true. I am one of those believers. I feel that if you want something, you should give something. To me it’s a law of reciprocity. Therefore, I believe however you want your spouse to treat you, that’s how you should treat your spouse. I’ll give you five examples. [imagebrowser … [Read more...]
Changing Our Perspective Can Change Our Relationship
Our view of the world is what we hold to be true. Unfortunately our perceived truths can cause us to be judgmental, jaded, and detached. Over the course of our lives; our perceived truths provide numerous opportunities for us to accumulate a shipyard filled with the carnage from a lifetime of wrecked relationships, friendships, and partnerships. Simply put, our perceptions … [Read more...]
6 Tips on How to Trust Again After Heartbreak
I was talking to two young ladies at work and Lady A told us how she was hurt by her daughter’s father a couple of years ago. Because of his infidelity, she left him and says she is content being single forever. Lady A is only 22. I asked her if she is sure about being alone or would she ever trust another man. She flat out stated she will never let another man close to … [Read more...]
10 Things You Should Know About Marriage
You may have received a lot of advice from different people regarding marriage, whether you are single, engaged or already married. I didn’t receive a lot of advice before I got married. But I have received some wise nuggets from a few family members over that last 17 years of my marriage. I will share what I was told and some things I had to learn on my own. Keep God in … [Read more...]
5 Needs Your Man May Not Be Sharing with You
My husband is a pretty low-key dude, and I respect that. You will rarely see pictures of him on my social media networks, simply because he’s not really into social media. It’s just not his thing. His low-key attitude, however, is pretty consistent. He doesn’t say too much unless he really has something to say, and I suspect that sharing his feelings and emotions is not his … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: I Messed Up, but How Can I Get My Wife Back?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 7 years to a wonderful woman and we have 4 children. One child is in college, one in high school and the youngest children are 5 and 4 years old. I never was good at talking much and always kept things inside. I know my wife loves me, but I don't think that she is in love with me anymore. We had a good marriage, but I let myself … [Read more...]
4 Reasons You Should Keep Relationship Issues Inside Your Relationship!
I'm amazed at the amount of relationships and marriages that are being torn apart not because of infidelity or financial issues and not because of lack of communication with each other, but because of too much communication with others! Let's discuss a few reasons why you should keep your relationship issues inside of your relationship! While you may go home and kiss and make … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: I Caught My Spouse in a Lie; Should I Think the Worst?
Dr. Buckingham, My name is Christina. I have been married for 5 months however; my husband and I have been together for almost 10 years. We have a 2 year old daughter and we have lived together for almost 4 years. We have had many ups and downs over the years. A recent down happened on Valentine’s Day. My husband was off from work that day but he did not tell me. Instead, … [Read more...]