The first step to resolving any issue in a relationship is to admit that it exists in the first place. Though it might be difficult to admit you are unhappy in marriage, nothing changes if you aren’t willing to own that truth. Many couples have found themselves unhappy in marriage at some point in their relationship. And many couples have asked the question “is it time for a … [Read more...]
Relationship Burnout: Fighting for Your Relationship When There is Nothing Left
If you've heard it once, you've heard it a thousand times. Marriage is not easy. Like anything in life worth having, it takes work. But, what if you feel your work isn't being valued? Perhaps you sense your wife has lost respect for you. Or maybe your wife is constantly making decisions without communicating with you. If you feel like you're in a losing battle while fighting … [Read more...]
Married Couples: If You Smile in Public and Cry Behind Closed Doors, Read This
There are too many married faces, smiling in public and crying behind closed doors. This may be you or a couple you know. For sure, it was me and my husband early-on in our marriage. We had just as many bad days as we did good days. Can you relate to any of these scenarios? You're leaving for work sad because of what is going on in your marriage.....but, you're happy you … [Read more...]
Should You Stay or Go? Is Giving Up on Your Marriage Ever a Reasonable Option?
I hate giving up. Something about walking away just feels unnatural. If something mattered enough for me to pursue, I have to hang in there. I have to give it all I’ve got. But does that mean I won’t ever give up? No, because I have walked away from things on occasion. I think there are times where, despite our very best efforts, walking away starts to feel like the … [Read more...]
Wake-up Call: 3 Things that Are Truly Getting in the Way of Your Happy Marriage
Whenever you set goals, whether general life or career, you should envision achieving your desired outcome. It is also important, and necessary, to set an honest timetable to fulfill your dreams. Additionally, a crucial part of goal setting is being aware of possible obstacles that could affect your success. If it's for business, the challenges usually include scarcity … [Read more...]
Is Your Husband Really the Problem?
Life isn't always easy. Sometimes you think maybe I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed today, only to realize that you've been waking up on the wrong side of the bed every day for months. So of course, when that realization hits you, you start looking for someone to blame. After all, it can’t possibly be your entire fault, right? Unfortunately, you later find yourself … [Read more...]
7 Signs You’re Unhappily Married and What You Should Do About It
I consider myself a happy wife. Am I happy with my husband every single day of the week? Not at all. Is he happy with me every day? I doubt it. I mean, neither of us is perfect. But, we’ve found a way to understand each other – most of the time—and the challenges that are thrown our way on a daily basis are manageable. We do our best to keep the other happy and usually we get … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Appreciate the Relationship You Have, Before You Lose It
Do you remember that conversation in Tyler Perry’s “Why Did I Get Married” about the 80/20 rule? Simply put, it explains how cheating is this attempt to get the 20% that you may feel like you are missing from your spouse, only to find that the person you run off with is missing the 80% you originally had. Makes perfect sense, right? If you put it that way, why would anyone in … [Read more...]
Sometimes We Think We Want a Divorce, But What We Really Want Is Our Joy Back
A woman wrote me recently asking for advice about her failing marriage. Life was really taking a toll on her and her husband. They were caring for a terminally ill parent. They were growing apart after 8 ½ years, resulting in a non-existent sex life. When they did speak to each other, well, you can imagine that their words were not always kind. So, they finally had “the … [Read more...]
Don't Settle for a Mediocre Marriage
In the beginning of any relationship there is excitement, energy and effort. The primary goal focuses on impressing the other person. We usually say and do all the right things in order to maintain the original attraction. Then a few months down the line we get comfortable and our true colors are eventually revealed. We are no longer as concerned about saying and doing the … [Read more...]