Being Mary Jane is back, and Mary Jane Paul is still the same broken, lonely and insecure woman she has always been. The show opens with Mary Jane pledging that she is no longer using her bed to audition men for a relationship. She is declaring a fresh start in every area, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. To achieve her goal, Mary Jane hired a high priced … [Read more...]
Stop Self-Sabotaging: Here’s How to Nurture Real Authentic Relationships
Over the past year, God has put me in some very uncomfortable, yet, maturing situations. One of the hardest was having to cross paths and share the same space on a weekly basis with people I believed were out of my life for good, especially one in particular. We weren’t enemies, just old friends who parted ways, not so amicably. For the past 12 months, we had to adjust to … [Read more...]
7 Things Christian Men Say They Need from a Relationship. Are You Giving Them to Him?
In my previous article, I surveyed Christian men in order to gain clarity on why Christian men date/marry outside of the church. During that dialogue one point was consistently made. “A man needs to feel needed and valued and most women (not just Christian women) miss this point.” This very sentiment has been stated by non-Christian men as well. I believe if you surveyed … [Read more...]
6 Possible Reasons Why Christian Men No Longer Want a Church Girl
Okay, fellas, please help the ladies out. I skated around this particular question in a previous post, but I see I just need to come out and ask the question. Christian men, what do you want in a relationship? With so many pastors and leaders dating and marrying women who are not known for being “church girls”? It causes Christian women to question, what are Christian … [Read more...]
7 of the Most Challenging Dating Issues Facing Christian Singles
As with all dating relationships, when two imperfect people come together, there are bound to be challenges. And Christian dating is no exception. I surveyed Christian women between the ages of 25 to 55 and asked them to list the challenges of Christian dating. Here are their top 7 answers: 1. Is this the One? This is a problem everyone faces. Most women and men have a desire … [Read more...]
10 Super Simple Ways to End Your Dating Slump
[tps_header]We all have hit a dating slump at one time or another. Where we are dateless for a long period of time or our dates seem to be a continuation of a very bad dream. Instead of moping around and feeling sorry for yourself, choose one of the following 10 ways to get back out there, shake things up and have some fun.[/tps_header] 1. Change your hangout spot Tour … [Read more...]
The Truth About What Really Makes a Man Want to Change His Ways
Is it true, men will only change for one woman? In an August interview with Black Enterprise, Steve Harvey stated: All men can change. All men will change, but there is only one woman we are going to change for. Just one... If he ain't changin', it's 'cause you ain't the one!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLyWjkiyRL0 BMWK, what do you think? I don’t agree with … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Stay Sane While Dating a Busy Entrepreneur
Many years ago, I dated an entrepreneur. He was extremely driven and consumed with his business affairs. At the time, I felt neglected and constantly in competition with his business for his attention. Although he assured me that wasn’t the case; he had to admit his business was constantly on his mind. Needless to say, our relationship didn’t last. But now that I’m a … [Read more...]
5 Very Vital Conversations That Couples Usually Never Have—Until It’s Too Late
This past week I came across an interview with Queen Latifah, in which she discussed her new role as a caregiver to her aging mother. Latifah shared how much her life has changed since taking on this new responsibility. It was a harsh reminder that as we mature, we will face this challenge in one way or another. Unfortunately, this reality is rarely discussed in most … [Read more...]
Just Admit It! 5 Signs You Are Jealous of Your Mate’s Success
I’ve had too many conversations with individuals who have a spouse or mate who'sjealous of them. Whether it's their life, drive, opportunities and/or accolades, instead of receiving joy, praise or encouragement from their mates, they experience drama from the one they love. Don’t think it’s possible? Here are five signs that you or your significant other may be … [Read more...]
Ladies, You Say He’s Your Dream Guy, but Can You Accept Him for Who He Is?
Men and women alike have their metaphorical mate in mind. And when on the prowl, this fantasy mate is the standard that potential prospects are measured by. But have you ever thought about the cost of dating your “type”? Don’t misunderstand me, every relationship comes with a price. We all have to give and take. However, some relationships cost more than others. Here are … [Read more...]
Take Our Checklist to See If You’re Really Truly Over Your EX
Your period of mourning your previous relationship has passed. So you're ready to start dating again and meet the person of your dreams. But are you really? Here are 15 ways to determine if you are really over your ex. The thoughts of your ex don't dominate you mind or conversation. You are no longer on an emotional roller coaster regarding your ex. Your mood swings … [Read more...]
Men, You’re Grown; Why Can’t You Tell Us What You Want in a Relationship?
Note: this post is a generalization and does not represent all men or all women. I recently hosted a real talk relationship series, and there was one proverbial question, which was asked repeatedly by female attendees: What do men want? We all know that there is a divide between the sexes. However, when it comes to relationships, there is a major disconnect that hinges … [Read more...]
Do You Need a Dating Detox?
I know this post isn’t for everyone because a lot of women are enjoying the status quo. But for those who aren’t, let’s talk. Ladies, some of you are DOING TOO MUCH when it comes to your relationships. I understand that you don’t want to be alone. I understand you want to spend time with a man and not your girlfriends. I understand it’s been a while since you’ve been on a … [Read more...]
Stop Blaming the World; 8 Reasons Why You Are Still Single
Many singles are frustrated with their single status. Most don’t understand why they aren’t either meeting the right caliber of people or their relationships aren’t lasting for a longer period of time. Sound familiar? If this sounds like you, then perhaps it's time for a little introspection. Here are eight reasons why you might still be single: 1) … [Read more...]