Yeah, you've been hitting the town with Benjamin and his friends again, hoping your husband doesn't find out. No, you're not having several sordid, lustful affairs with some guys named Benjamin, Grant, Jackson and Lincoln. The characters in question are the namesakes of the bills you keep secretly withdrawing from your savings without your husband's knowledge. Your sneaking … [Read more...]
Infidelity
Can Unwavering Loyalty Change a Cheating and Troubled Partner?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I'm a 32-year-old woman, and I've been involved with a man on and off since I was 16. We were never married. We have two children together. I would say things were great for years until we turned 25. At 25, he fell off track. He lost his job numerous times for his recreational drug use, he stopped taking care of us and we were in a financial ruin. I … [Read more...]
After the Affair; a Few Crucial Steps to Restore the Intimacy in Your Marriage After Infidelity Strikes
When you've been betrayed in your marriage, by infidelity, it's difficult to trust again. Another major obstacle is usually regaining the intimacy with your spouse. The attraction, physical connection and even self-confidence may all have been affected. For couples having this experience, there is hope. With time, communication and effort, you will love, trust and be … [Read more...]
“Men Cheat Because They’re Dogs. Women Cheat for Revenge” But Do They Really?
The quote from the title was boldly stated by a dear friend during a recent conversation on dating and marriage. I’m sure it came as a result of frustrations over the whole dating scene. While this friend shared that truth from her perspective, another shared that she will always feel like a man will cheat on her, even a potential future husband. Her comment was of course a … [Read more...]
Adulterous and Abusive Wife: Do I Have Grounds for a Divorce?
Good afternoon Dr. Buckingham, My wife and I have been married for 19 years. I will admit the marriage has been on rocky ground from day 1, with the exception of the birth of our children. My wife has been verbally abusive the majority of the marriage; she yells and screams at our kids and rarely apologizes when wrong. A few years ago, I read a text message my wife wrote to … [Read more...]
I Keep Cheating on my Wife; How Can I Make Myself Stop?
Hey Dr. Buckingham, My name is Craig, and I have cheated on my wife a few times. I really love my wife and family, but I admit I think I have a problem. My wife wants to end our marriage, but I want to do whatever it takes to save what I truly want—my marriage and family! What kind of help do I need? Thanks in advance, Craig Dear Craig, Without knowing exactly what … [Read more...]
Once a Cheater Always a Cheater…Not Necessarily!
A couple years ago when our story aired on OWN via the show Unfaithful: Stories of Betrayal several people would say, “You can’t love your husband, and he can’t love you if you both cheated!” Yep, that’s right, we both cheated (understand we're not proud rather transparent for educational and inspirational purposes). He cheated during our first year of marriage, and I during … [Read more...]
Beyoncé’s Mom Just Revealed What “Lemonade” Is Really About; Plus, 3 Missed Lyrics That Sum It All Up
Ever since Beyoncé dropped her visual album “Lemonade,” the Internet has been flooded with talk about whether or not Bey was singing about Jay Z’s infidelity. Since then, everyone has been reading into lyrics about "Becky with the good hair" and "I regret the night I put that ring on" to draw conclusions about what really went down when there's "a billion dollars on an … [Read more...]
HELP! My Daughter Just Revealed That My Husband of 17 Years Has Been Cheating On Me
Hello Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 17 years, and we have three very beautiful girls. I thought we were happy until December of this past year when my middle daughter started suspecting him of cheating while I was at work. She started following him, tracking him by his phone and watching his every move (I had no idea this was going on). In January, … [Read more...]
Beyoncé’s “Lemonade” Public Praise or Private Prison – To Tell or Not to Tell?
The day after “Lemonade” debuted I awoke to the masses wanting to quench their Lemonade thirst on my Facebook timeline! Having not been a big “B” fan I had to do some research, having missed the big HBO debut. However, I was able to locate a free trial via Tidal (which is owned by Beyoncé & Jay-Z; do you see how genius and strategic this power couple played this?). I … [Read more...]
If Jay-Z Actually Cheated on Beyoncé, It’s Because He Didn’t Do This One Thing
I don’t know if Jay-Z cheated on Beyoncé or not. We may never know the truth. But if he did…if he can’t be satisfied with one of the baddest chicks on the face of this Earth…then there’s something inherently wrong with all humanity. Right? Truth be told, I think there’s something inherently wrong with all of us. We all are inherently flawed in one way or another. I’ve … [Read more...]
I Never Knew What Betrayal Felt Like, and It Almost Ruined Me
We usually learn everything we need to know about relationships from the ones we experience around us—mostly our parents, friends, neighbors, etc. For better or worse, those experiences prepare us, usually toughening up our armor to take our own battles for love and happiness in the outside world. But for those individuals who are ill-prepared for the fight, what happens … [Read more...]
He Cheated, Lied and Even Fathered a Kid, but Now He Wants to Marry Me. Should I?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I just read a few of your articles and thought God must've sent me in your direction. I am currently dealing with infidelity in my relationship and am having a hard time getting through it. Here's my story. I've been dating my now-fiancé for 2.5 years now. We became exclusive a year ago. I just recently found out he had been cheating on me … [Read more...]
Avoiding Murky Situations: 5 Easy Steps that Will Keep You From Cheating on Your Girl
Here's the backstory. I just left the Kroger around the block from my apartment. It's currently 11:38pm. I went there to get some fruit and something to drink before sitting down to get some writing done tonight. As I walk into the store headed to the organic/natural section, this young lady is heading in my direction. She pauses for a moment and looks to her right at some … [Read more...]
Do I Tell His Wife about Our 3-Year Affair?
As a speaker and life coach, I encounter all sorts of dilemmas. But I was recently written by a young woman, who was weighing a decision to reveal a troubling secret—a secret that would undoubtedly open the emotional flood gates for all parties involved. I understand other women may be considering the very same dilemma, so I wanted to share. I’ve paraphrased a bit of her … [Read more...]