I believe in affirmations and the power of words, especially when it comes to our children. As parents, we shape our children and, in many ways, help define their futures. The majority of what they learn in life comes from us. There is power in parenting, and we have to always be conscious of that. There are so many lessons I need my daughters to learn before they leave … [Read more...]
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9 Powerful Lessons You Will Learn in Queen of Katwe in Theaters Friday 9/30
Disney has a way of creating films about a specific topic but then making you reflect on how to change your own life based on the lessons learned. And let me tell you: while the Queen of Katwe is based on a true story about a Ugandan girl who becomes an international chess champion, it really is about a Ugandan girl who teaches us how to win at a game called life. Disney's … [Read more...]
Christians, Is Your Spirituality Enough to Conquer Your Dark and Troubled Past?
Dr. Buckingham, I am a 45-year-old recovering alcoholic and drug addict. I have lived a very rough life both in childhood and as an adult. I was physically abused by my father in childhood and was emotionally abused by my ex-wife. Life has not been easy for me, but I refuse to give up. I have become a very spiritual person and have learned the importance of prayer. I … [Read more...]
Mic Check – MC Lyte is Passing the Mic to the Next Generation of African American Storytellers
No one can tell our story like we can tell our story. And if we want to shape the narrative that mainstream media reports about the African American community, then we need to be the voice of that narrative. This is why we are so happy to share that the National Newspaper Publishers Association (NNPA) and Chevrolet have partnered on the first-ever “Discover the Unexpected” … [Read more...]
9 Non-Beauty, Black-Owned Subscription Boxes That’ll Have You Hype About Checking Your Mail Again
[tps_header]Since subscription hair and beauty boxes such as the uber successful Curl Box first hit the scene, the home delivery box concept has been all the rage since. It's even grown outside the hair and beauty industry. These subscription boxes and memberships give the consumers the ability to try out new trends, products, early-released merchandise and the best of any … [Read more...]
When Just Being a Good Husband Isn’t Enough: 3 Steps to Becoming a More Confident Man and Better Spouse
Husbands, What if you don't believe in yourself? It's an issue every man has wrestles with at least once in his lifetime...no matter if he admits it or not. From the alpha-male, who beams with self-confidence, to the shy introvert, who fears confrontation. When the Struggle Gets Real During a Relationship Bootcamp, a couple was doing a very strenuous activity. They were at … [Read more...]
Dear White People: Understand What Drives Our Dreams to Help You Understand Our Struggles
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am extremely troubled as a parent and elementary school teacher. Over the years, I have taught both black and white boys, and I have observed two distinct mindsets, views and dream patterns. The black boys in my class appear to be focused more on survival, and the whites appear to be focused more on thriving. I say this because we have several … [Read more...]
No Justice, No Peace? A Black Man’s Guide to Clinically Treating Your Suppressed Rage
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am 38-year-old black father who wants to comfort and educate my 13-year-old son during these difficult times, but I am struggling myself. With the recent killings of Philando Castile, Alton Sterling and the cops in Dallas [Editor's note: this letter was written prior to the shooting of Terence Crutcher ] my heart has been heavy lately, and I have been … [Read more...]
Take the First Step Now Toward Becoming a Happier YOU
Are you honestly happy with your life RIGHT NOW? If so, CONGRATULATIONS! If not, CONGRATULATIONS in advance because now is a great time to evaluate all the reasons why you are not happy. Are you lonesome? Dissatisfied? Fearful? Feeling rejected or unworthy? Angry? Harboring regrets? Take a good long look at what you’re REALLY feeling because sometimes we lie to ourselves … [Read more...]
What Kind of Christian Saint Are You? Hopefully, You’re No. 5
Hey Dr. Buckingham, I am wondering if you can share your personal thoughts about how I can grow spiritually. I have been attending church my entire life, but I do not feel like I have grown much as a saint. I am not sure if my lack of growth is associated with personal flaws or my relationships inside and outside of church. If church is the place where growth and healing takes … [Read more...]
The Key to Success for This Mom and Daughter Duo is Accountability
Would you trust your 9-year-old child to be the C.O.O. of your company? Well, mom and inventor of GaBBY Bows, Rozalynn Goodwin did. And for good reason. Daughter, Gabrielle Goodwin was not only the inspiration for the company, but the then 5-year-old was the driving force to see the company into fruition. It all started with Rozalynn's Twitter rant, in which she … [Read more...]
Sisters, We Got You: 15 Powerful Quotes to Keep You Encouraged
Women can balance a lot, but sometimes wives and moms are simply overwhelmed. Though it isn't often verbalized, it's pretty easy to let frustration set in. With all we have on our plates, it's important for us to receive encouragement and be reminded of a few things. I hope these powerful scriptures and quotes (and most of them are from women you know) will motivate you and … [Read more...]
A Writer’s Emotional and Loving Open Letter to Her Deceased Mother
Dear Mama, As I sit here on our brown comfy sofa sipping my mocha coffee, so peaceful this early in the morning or at least until Makayla’s feet hit the floor, I reflect about you. I wish you could have met her, though I’m grateful you’re her heavenly angel watching over her. Truthfully, sometimes I worry about my baby—even though we moved from Chicago and now live in … [Read more...]
I’ve Experienced a Lot of Adversity in My Life: What Can I Do to Remain Optimistic?
Hey Dr. B, I have been going through some things in my personal life, and I do not know how to move on. I work very hard to remain positive and upbeat, but I have experienced a lot of adversity in my life. I was abused as a child, abandoned by my mother who used drugs and even experienced homelessness at one time. My mind is a mess. However, I keep pushing on because God has … [Read more...]
My Dark Childhood Secret Had Adulthood Repercussions, but I Finally Found What I Lost
By Lisa D. Daniels More often than not the best way to find something you’ve lost is to retrace your steps and that is exactly what happened to me. Since I could remember, I was would shy away from speaking up for myself—whether in confrontation or just to assert my desires. I have needed to have a difficult conversation with a friend very near and dear to my heart for a … [Read more...]