I’ve always hated the phrase “love conquers all.” Don’t get me wrong, I am all about romance and happily ever after, but I have seem enough in my lifetime to know that love does not conquer all. Love is wonderful and magical but it isn’t enough. Have you ever heard a woman share how much she love's a man, but it's really her way of justifying his mistreatment of her. It … [Read more...]
5 Things to Consider if You Keep Going Back to Him
My friend called me just to chat. Our chat soon turned into a conversation we’ve had far too many times: Should she stay with her man despite their most recent fight? I love her, but these conversations are frustrating and exhausting. And I mean for me. I can only imagine how she must feel. Listen, I understand the complexities of it all. She loves him. They have history. … [Read more...]
3 Things to Consider if You Are Only Staying with Him for the Kids
I grew up without a dad. He was a part of my life when I was under the age of 10, but not a consistent part. Sometimes he was present, but most of the time he wasn’t. I’m not sure why my mom put up with his foolishness, but I suspect she did it for us. She didn’t want us growing up without a father. There wasn’t any indication that she was head over heels in love with him. … [Read more...]
5 Conversations You Should Never Have Through Text Messages
We all know the powerful and popular scripture found in Proverbs 18:21, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love to talk will reap the consequences.” Just about every sermon on communication references to that scripture in order to show just how impactful our words are on others when used negatively. This scripture also shows how important words are to … [Read more...]
Break-Ups: Massive Failure or Golden Opportunity and How You Can Make it Through
By: Saretha Pyant Break-ups suck!! There, I said it…it’s one of the most heart wrenching experiences one can endure because it’s a pain that heals only with time. In the midst of heartache comes depression which, depending on the length of the relationship and an individual's coping mechanism, can range from days to weeks to months. Related: After a bad break up, here are … [Read more...]
6 Steps to Break-up if Happily-Ever-After Seems Impossible
I HATE that I have to write about this unfortunate topic. For the record, I’m #TeamRelationships #TeamWorkItOut #TeamGetCounseling. Even in the worst cases of infidelity or irreconcilable differences, I’m always optimistic that a compromise can be reached. However, just because I’m #TeamRelationships, doesn’t mean that others are…specifically the ones in downward-spiraling … [Read more...]
5 Signs that Maybe It’s Time to Break Up
As human beings, we tend to hold on to what’s familiar and comfortable, even when it is hurting us. We know it’s not the right thing to do, but we also know that it can often feel like the easiest thing to do. And unfortunately, we too often let easy trump what best in our lives. We always hear people say that relationships are hard work (I know I’ve said it many times … [Read more...]
Singles: The One Thing You Should Think About Before Taking Your Ex Back
Can you imagine finally getting your life back on track? You’re exercising again, you’ve reconnected with friends and family, and you’ve even started focusing on your goals. You’re finally focusing on you and addressing the pain of your past relationships. And then you decide to take your ex back and all of the work that you have been doing slowly fades away as the two of you … [Read more...]
How to Enter, Engage and End Relationships in a Healthy Way
Grown people know that loving feelings do not justify turning off your brain. The fact that you feel love for someone does not necessarily mean that they are ready, willing and able—i.e. qualified—for a relationship with you (or vice versa). Being Grown also means that your love does not give you the power to make them so. In the Grown Zone, we measure the quality of a … [Read more...]
Single and in Love With a Memory
Nathan Hale Williams raises an excellent point in an article that looks at the way we tend to romanticize a relationship long after it has ended. We forget the heartache and all the things that went wrong in an attempt to convince ourselves that it really was right. This is particularly common amongst those of us who are single. Sometimes a run in at the supermarket or coming … [Read more...]
End of The Road: 3 Steps to Letting Go
PAY ATTENTION because it’s 2013 and class is now in session. So many people are in a very miserable place in life because they won't let go of the thing or person that made them miserable in the first place. Although I could dress this up and put in a lot of colorful words and similes and metaphors, this time I want to get straight to the point! These are 3 things I want you to … [Read more...]