If there is once thing I know for sure, it’s the fact that every couple has to experience change. Even if your relationship is happy and healthy, change will occur. It’s inevitable. But change is not a bad thing. Change is a natural part of life. What determines your level of happiness and success is not your ability to avoid change, but your ability to manage it. What do … [Read more...]
15 Signs You are Single-Handedly Sabotaging Your Marriage
Everyone always talks about how hard it is to build and sustain a healthy, happy relationship. And I agree. And no, it’s not all hard work. I have plenty of fun with my husband and I cherish all of those good times. But, I can definitely acknowledge that it’s not always fun and games. Sometimes it’s challenging as hell. But we all make decisions, every day, that can … [Read more...]
2 Raw Reasons Why He May Never Be the Man You Want Him to Be
Don't you just wish your man would just be more outgoing? Or do you want your woman to be more of a social butterfly? But can you really change him or her? Several of the people I know in relationships have something they want their mate to change. Women often think they can initiate or motivate the change. When men are looking for change in their mate, they tell them what … [Read more...]
Why I Refuse to Let Guilt Tear Me Apart This Holiday Season
I had been living with a lot of guilt lately. It wasn't guilt because I personally did something wrong, but the guilt still robbed me of my joy and thanksgiving. Ironically, I had been feeling guilty for all the good things happening in my life recently. I wanted to rejoice that my parents and both my brothers along with their families would be with us at my brother's … [Read more...]
The Truth About What Really Makes a Man Want to Change His Ways
Is it true, men will only change for one woman? In an August interview with Black Enterprise, Steve Harvey stated: All men can change. All men will change, but there is only one woman we are going to change for. Just one... If he ain't changin', it's 'cause you ain't the one!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vLyWjkiyRL0 BMWK, what do you think? I don’t agree with … [Read more...]
3 Truths You Need to Accept if You Want Your Man to Change
Isn’t it funny how we always want people to change? Yet, we sometimes struggle with changing the simplest things about ourselves, like what time we wake up or what we do when a family member tries to start drama. And I’m guilty of it, too. I have wasted countless hours figuring out how to get someone to change, wondering why he or she won’t change, praying for him or her to … [Read more...]
Ladies, Grow a Backbone; 5 Things a Woman Should Never Change for Her Man
I’d be lying if I told you I didn’t make compromises in my marriage. I find it hard to believe that any marriage can last without compromises. When you commit to spending the rest of your life with another person, doing what you can to manage differences is inevitable. For things to work, there has to be a mutual decision to meet halfway at times. But for me, meeting halfway … [Read more...]
3 Things You Must Let Go of to Have a Successful Marriage
Marriage is one of the toughest yet rewarding partnerships you will ever enter. It requires change of both partners. Understand though: never let go of the characteristics that are essential to you as a person. However, there are some learned behaviors that plague marriages. To have a successful marriage, here are three things you must let go. Unforgiveness, a quick temper, … [Read more...]
Is It Your Spouse’s Fault That You Let Yourself Go?
After I had my son, I was tired. Show me a mom who doesn’t feel the same way after having a child, and I will show you a woman who is probably lying. Waking up at night to change or feed an infant, dealing with crying fits when you just can’t figure out what’s wrong—it’s all hard stuff. I’ll be honest and tell you that in those early months, looking cute and put together … [Read more...]
New Study Finds Opposites Don’t Attract, So Leave Him Alone
If you’re once again thinking you can change him, think again. According to a new study from researchers at University of Kansas and Wellesley College, individuals with opposing personalities and interests are less likely to pair and/or adapt for their partners. So if he’s not on your wavelength now, don’t bother working on him because he’ll likely never change. “Change is … [Read more...]
Stop Trying to Change Me! 3 Seasons of Life Where You May Need to Change Yourself!
NO, your mate can’t change you but that doesn’t mean that you may not need to change some things. Okay let me back up for a second because I am a huge advocate of accepting someone as they are when going into a marriage or a relationship; but the truth of the matter is that there is no way to go through every season with someone before you decide to marry them. Sometimes in … [Read more...]
Is Your Marriage Stuck in a Rut? Here Are 3 Successful Marriage Makeover Tips
Like all things in life, being married can get stale. It doesn’t mean the love has faded or the marriage is in huge trouble. It’s just a part of the normal flow of life that can happen to the best of us. When you look at all the responsibilities that come with being married, particularly if you are also raising children, the days can easily become a blur, and paying … [Read more...]
Stop Waiting on Your Spouse, 3 Ways You Can Change Your Marriage for the Better
Your marriage is meant to grow. It is meant to thrive and fulfill both husband and wife. Marriage should keep changing for the better. Nothing and no one stays the same. I know sometimes it feels like it is the other person that has some growing to do. But truth be told, we all have some changes we need to make. It may feel like if your mate would change everything would be … [Read more...]
I Want My Husband to be Happy, Even If It’s Not With Me!
By Cassandra Paul 19 years is a long time to be with someone. Change is inevitable. I was delusional to believe that the handsome young man I married long ago would remain the same. Don’t get me wrong, he is still handsome, even the more but he is definitely not the same young “whipper-snapper” I snatched up at the age of 23. He’s better in some areas. There’s always room … [Read more...]
Taking Responsibility Starts with These 3 Steps
As a coach, each client I work with at some point is going to have to take responsibility for their contribution to every situation, good or bad. We see TV shows where coaches and counselors talk about taking ownership of what we have done in our past which may cause detriment to where we are today. I think it’s important to note, especially when dealing with relationships, … [Read more...]