Where are all the good men? If you're a smart, successful, marriage-minded sista, and you've found yourself asking that question out of frustration, I have some good news. According to some experts, once a woman turns 30, there's a 70% chance she's already met the love of her life. Your future husband could be a former classmate, co-worker, or someone you bumped into on your … [Read more...]
Ladies, If You Meet This Kind of “Nice Guy,” Block Him and Run!
Have you ever dated this man? When you first met him, he seemed like the quintessential gentleman (with a touch of swag). He's sweet, showers you with compliments, and communicates with you consistently. But there's a dark side to this "nice guy," and if you stay in a relationship with him, it could lead you to pain. I call him "Mr. Angry Nice Guy," and there are 5 signs to … [Read more...]
Ladies: Two Conversation Starters that Will Get Him to Ask You Out on a Date
Do you secretly feel awkward around men you find attractive because you just don't know what to say to them when they approach you? Does online dating feel like a chore because you don't know how to respond to all those "winks" and "flirts" that men send? Let me help a sista out by giving you the top 2 conversation starters my clients have used online and offline to help … [Read more...]
3 Things Women Hear When He Says, “We’re Just Friends” that Lead to Heartbreak
You are seriously dating a man (at least you think it's serious because you are giving him all of your time), but he tells you that you are just friends. What does this mean? Most importantly, what do you hear when he says this? (READ: What a Man Really Means When He Says He Just Wants To Be “Friends”) Most communication breakdowns happen between what a person says and what … [Read more...]
5 First Date Tips That Will Leave Him Wanting More
I’ve heard so many stories lately from people who have had what they thought were good first dates... only to never be contacted again. They get so upset because they felt like they put so much effort into the date and and yet here they are again back at square one. They wonder why this dating thing has to be so hard?! Well the truth of the matter is that you have to … [Read more...]
One and Done: 4 Tips that Guarantee You More Second Dates
Do you dread dating because you can't figure out why men lose interest after the first date? Do you wonder why these guys come on strong when they first meet you and then flake when they say they'll call you again? Are you confused and wonder if you're "The First Date Queen" who can't get into a relationship because you're just not attractive enough? If you answered yes to … [Read more...]
Single and Sabotaged; How Your Friends Are Killing Your Dating Life
Are your friends keeping you single? I know that may seem like a weird question to ask, especially because as the saying goes, we choose our friends, not our family. In other words, our friends are people who get to see us in the good and the bad, and they still choose to stick around! As a result of that connection and community, our friends give us a safe place to be … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: You’re Not Really His Girlfriend Unless He Does These 5 Things
You know your Mama said, “Common sense ain’t common.” And this has never been a more accurate statement when it comes to understanding whether you’re in an exclusive relationship with a man. What I’m about to tell you will seem obvious; I know. But you wouldn't believe how many sisters have ended up in dead-end situationships, wasting months and even years of their life … [Read more...]
Miss Independent: 3 Ways to Deal with Your Fears of Marriage
"The idea of marriage terrifies me" she exclaimed. When I asked her why she said, "Because men are so dominant and condescending. It's like they strip a woman of herself for their benefit. I hear so many of my married friends complaining. None of them are happy." I was surprised at this sister's comments because most of the women I work with are concerned about finding a man … [Read more...]
Do You Want Heels or a Husband? Why You Need To Stop Hating On Short Men If You Want Love
Single ladies, I have a simple question for you: Are you hating on short men? I hear it from sisters all the time. I want a man who is 6’0" or taller, they say. I want to feel safe and protected when I'm with him. And anyway, I like wearing heels… But you don’t wear heels to bed, do you? #HollaIfYouHearMe Related: If you're single, are you the person your future spouse … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: Here’s How To Stop Attracting The Wrong Men And Sabotaging Your Life
Do you ever wonder why you only attract the wrong men in your life? Why does it seem like the only men interested in you are players, commitment-phobes, emotionally unavailable, or just not ready for anything serious? There's a surprising reason why and once you understand it, you'll change your dating experience for good. Let me begin with a little story. Imagine that there … [Read more...]
Straight Outta His Mouth: 3 Little-Known Commitment Fears Men Have And How To Handle Them
Men often share their deepest, darkest fears about love with me. I've listened to them tell me how they've cried themselves to sleep at night, why they go back to an ex (even after she's hurt them), instead of choosing the woman who loves them unconditionally, and how frustrated they are that they can't find a wife. If you're a single sister looking for a relationship, it's … [Read more...]
3 Compelling Reasons Why “Needing A Man” Ain’t So Bad
"I don't need a man. I'm fine with or without one!" If I had a nickel for each time I've heard a single sister say this, I'd have another stream of income! I get that we've been taught by our mamas, grandmamas and auntie's 'nem that we don't need a man. They were trying to ensure our survival so that if we ended up abandoned, abused or mistreated, we could still make it … [Read more...]
3 Tips To Deal With The Emotional Roller Coaster of Dating
Are you ready to take a break from dating because you're tired of the emotional roller coaster? Let's face it. Dating and relationships are filled with ups and downs and twists and turns. It's a journey that is unpredictable because you can't always know for sure how it's going to end. Will you ever meet The One? What if your dream man turns out to be a nightmare? What if … [Read more...]
5 Warning Signs that You’re Wasting Your Time with the Wrong Man
A man who can’t be upfront with you about where he stands on marriage, in general, and a relationship with you, in particular, will most likely waste your time. And the last thing a smart, successful sister needs to do is waste her time! Here are 5 warning signs you're wasting your time with the wrong man: 1. You believe him when he says he wants commitment Maybe he told … [Read more...]