Have you ever been with a man for a while (let's say 6 months) and he was clearly enjoying your company, but he never defined the relationship? You wanted to know-- "where is this going?"-- but you silenced your voice because you didn't want to pressure him. You're not sure how to have "the Talk," but the question remains, you're all in, is he? Or, maybe he told you in the … [Read more...]
Fellas: 9 First Date Tips that Will Make Sure You Get a Second Date
You’re on the first date and it is going well. You know you are attracted to her and you want to impress her. But, it's hard to gauge how she is feeling about you. And so you're trying to figure out how to finesse things into a second date. Don't worry...I've got you covered. Men I am about to drop some insider dating gems on you that you should immediately add to page … [Read more...]
One and Done: 4 Tips that Guarantee You More Second Dates
Do you dread dating because you can't figure out why men lose interest after the first date? Do you wonder why these guys come on strong when they first meet you and then flake when they say they'll call you again? Are you confused and wonder if you're "The First Date Queen" who can't get into a relationship because you're just not attractive enough? If you answered yes to … [Read more...]
Am I Dating a Frog? 4 Qualities That Let You Know if Your Prince Charming is Marriage Material
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am a single woman who was ready to give up on dating and marriage. With all the game-playing going on these days, I was going to throw in the towel. I could not tell who was real and serious from who was not. Recently, I met this nice professional guy and we have been dating for 7 months. Things are getting kind of serious and I think that he might be … [Read more...]
How I Met and Married My Husband in 11 Months
He walked into the room like he owned it. “Who is THAT?” I said to myself. I had no idea someone that handsome was on campus. He was the epitome of masculinity. It wasn’t just the fact that he was wearing his naval officer’s uniform. It was the way he commanded the room, as though his presence meant we were all under his protection. The day I met my husband almost didn’t … [Read more...]
Who Recovers Faster from Heartbreak – Men or Women?
Lately I have heard a lot of women say that men struggle more with moving on. You always see situations where the man just won't let go no matter how hard the woman tries to tell him it's over. It could be years since the breakup, and that man is still trying to get her back and make something happen. Of course, we see women struggle too ...but on the surface they seem to … [Read more...]
3 Tips for Getting Back Into the Dating Scene
Are you wondering how to get back into the dating scene? Maybe you're dating after divorce or a long-term relationship. Or, you may be like the average single in the U.S. who hasn't been on a date in 2 years or more! If so, you may have questions about how the dating game has changed, what your role is in finding "The One," and why you're struggling with finding quality people … [Read more...]
Why You Shouldn’t Take a Break from Dating
A common question I get from people is "Should I take a break from dating?" These people are either burned out on online dating, coming out of a long relationship or divorce, or scared to get back into the dating game and they're confused by advice like: "Don't date until you're 100% happy being single." "Enjoy your life. Focus on your career. Spend time traveling." "Spend … [Read more...]
How Guarding My Heart Got Me a Ring
I can't believe I'll be someone's wife in 3 weeks. At times, I find myself still in shock about what's happening in my life. I stare at my ring in amazement. Sometimes, I seriously and jokingly ask my fiancé "Where did you come from?" LAST YEAR I WAS SINGLE. Let that sink in. Those close to me know my story and witnessed how fast God moved when it was time. Key words: WHEN IT … [Read more...]
8 Ways to Confirm that You are in an Exclusive Relationship
With so many people hooking up nowadays, including the "friends with benefits" scenario, many are not sure if they are in a relationship or in a "situationship", a word I saw recently on social media. Relationships are sometimes treated like clothing; some change them almost daily. Then there are others who don't mind sharing in intimate relationships with multiple partners, … [Read more...]
3 Prayers Your Future Spouse Needs You to Pray
Your future spouse is a real person. I came into the understanding of that when God began to impress upon me to pray for my future spouse, and it changed everything. Instead of me praying for specific things that I had no control over such as certain physical attributes and type of person they would be. I accepted God had someone for me that was living and breathing, so that … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: Is My Man Too Insecure to Marry?
Dear Dr. Buckingham I am writing because I am sick and tired of meeting and falling in love with men who are insecure when it comes to expressing emotions and entering into a relationship. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. I am considering spending the rest of life with him, but I am not sure if he is secure enough for me. He appears to have it all together on … [Read more...]
4 Things Single Folks Just Shouldn’t Do
Last week I wrote an article for married folks highlighting a few behaviors that were unacceptable in a marriage (5 Things Married Folks Just Shouldn’t Do.) I enjoyed the comments and understood that most of the readers felt the tips were common sense. One of the responses really stood out as this individual stated that common sense wasn’t really all that common and we … [Read more...]
Dating Again: 5 Things You Should Lookout for in Your Relationship
by Jenise La Vonne, It’s been two years from my last relationship to this one. That two year time off was some of the most well used time of my life. I focused on two things which included knowing and understanding my self-worth and developing a deeper relationship with Christ. Unwilling to give up on love, I prayed and asked God for someone to see me the way that He … [Read more...]
Are You Really Satisfied with Singleness – True or False?
Many of us who are single are quick to state that we are "not looking" or we are "happy" as singles. Is that really 100% true? Or are we sharing the strong, politically correct answer for all to hear? I currently lead my church's singles ministry. As I lead, I have made it my mantra to share with our singles how we can live productive, active lives and make progress in all … [Read more...]