“I’d like to have four to six children; I intend to be a stay-at-home mom; I want my husband to be home every night in time for dinner; and he has to help out around the house.” That’s a sentence I was able to weave into one of the first few dates with the guy I was dating. To say that was a bad date, would be an understatement. In hindsight, I probably should have kept the … [Read more...]
Why Are so Many Good Men Single? And Why Can’t You Find One?
Here's the first thought that comes to mind when I read this question: Why are so many good men still single? Good men are like fruit cakes during the holiday season. There's always a lot of talk about them, but no one really wants one. I was asked to respond to the question above, which was posed in a relationship group that I was invited to join on Facebook. What was … [Read more...]
People Think My Fiancé is Self-Centered, But is He Bad Enough to Reconsider Marrying?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am dating this guy who appears to be wonderful. He recently proposed to me, and I accepted. We are both successful individuals and are doing well professionally. I noticed that we are somewhat different when it comes to our personalities. I am more introverted, and he is more extroverted. I prefer to take the backseat, and he prefers to be upfront. This … [Read more...]
5 Often Overlooked Places to Find Mr. Right…or for Him to Find You!
The Good Book, says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord- Proverbs 18:22.” The thing I love about this verse is that there are no qualifiers—find a wife, get favor. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. The problem is, sometimes it feels like the brothers aren’t working hard enough to do the finding. So I put my thinking cap on and asked my … [Read more...]
Single Ladies, Are You Making These 4 Mistakes In Dating?
Ladies, dating can be tough. And you’re entitled to make your mistakes in the tricky world of dating. But if you’re making these common four mistakes, it’s best you correct them now. 1. Dating Out of Desperation Desperation is never pretty. It hinders good judgment. What causes acts of desperation in dating? A prior failed relationship is among the top reasons. Also among the … [Read more...]
Dear God: Where’s My Baby?
Dek: With every pregnancy announcement—and trust me, there have been plenty—I found myself slipping further into depression and confusion…But I learned to live in the now. It’s funny. I’ve been trying to write this post for a while now. I was even disguising my feelings, by initially naming it: Dear God: Where’s My Next Blessing? However, I know God has called me to be a … [Read more...]
Avoiding Murky Situations: 5 Easy Steps that Will Keep You From Cheating on Your Girl
Here's the backstory. I just left the Kroger around the block from my apartment. It's currently 11:38pm. I went there to get some fruit and something to drink before sitting down to get some writing done tonight. As I walk into the store headed to the organic/natural section, this young lady is heading in my direction. She pauses for a moment and looks to her right at some … [Read more...]
Ladies: 6 Proven Tips to Master the Art of Flirting without Doing Too Much
I am a people person and have no problem starting a conversation with a complete stranger. It’s second nature for me. But I am often accused of flirting when I’m not. Because of this, I’ve made the connection that people are no longer used to socializing and meeting new people. Whether it’s the advent of texting, emailing or social media, real human interaction and all it … [Read more...]
9 Qualities Every Christian Should Look For in a Future Spouse
Navigating the dating pool can be difficult. When you consider of a laundry list of compatibilities from physical attraction and personality to social class, it’s hard to decide where to begin. Yet, as a single Christian, there is one consideration that far outweighs them all: Character. The Bible states in 1 Corinthians chapter 4, verse 5, “He will bring to light what is … [Read more...]
Singles: 25 Questions to Ask Before You Give Them Your Heart, Time, and Body
I recently came across 20 Questions You Should Ask Before You Get Engaged by Bishop T. D. Jakes. As I began to scan the list, in my mind some of the questions really needed to be asked when you first meet someone. In today’s society, people are having sex before they know their partner's last name. Maybe if they knew the answer to a few pre-qualifying questions, they would … [Read more...]
Ladies: 5 Useful Ways to Build Your Faith While You Wait for Mr. Right
Are you suffering from "dating depression?" Here are the symptoms: Frustration Exhaustion Disappointment Fear Anger Loneliness Hopelessness If dating is no longer fun and you're ready to just give up, let me offer you some inspiration and practical tips that will encourage you and build your faith while you wait for Mr. Right. 1. Date while you … [Read more...]
5 of the Shadiest Ways to Get a Date If You Don’t Want to Be Alone for Valentine’s Day!
Valentine’s Day is around the corner, and you need a date. I totally understand. There is nothing fun about chilling in the house alone on Valentine’s Day. It’s a day of love and romance. You need to get out and have some fun. You can judge all you want, but people trick people into doing things all the time. So what do you do if you aren’t in a serious relationship and you … [Read more...]
Singles: 5 Simple Steps to Attract Your Perfect Mate
I recently read Michael Strahan’s book, Wake Up Happy. The book was full of life applicable examples from his experiences, to help you live a blissful life. Throughout the book Strahan was very transparent and acknowledged his challenges and weaknesses, especially in the area of relationships. He recognized that he hadn’t successfully mastered relationships- twice divorced … [Read more...]
Singles: 6 Ridiculously Creative Ways to Meet “The One” in 2016
Happy New Year! Everyone is excited about the New Year. And one thing on the mind of most singles is meeting and connecting with their potential mate. Many singles are tired of going out because they run into the same people which makes the pickings very slim. However, it’s a new year and its time for a fresh start. The best way to find a fresh pool of potential candidates … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Get the “More” You Deserve and Desire from Your Relationships
By: Niki Brown Have you ever noticed that your relationships seem to keep going through the same cycles? Perhaps you meet someone and it begins well, but ends with you being hurt, frustrated, or disappointed in the outcome. Perhaps you’ve had more than your share of drama-filled, chaotic, emotionally-draining relationships. You may have even wondered, Why do I keep … [Read more...]