Many women credit themselves as being nurturers, which is a great quality for mothers. But what about as wives and girlfriends? Is the pronouncement "I'm a nurturer by nature" really a woman's appeal to rationalize babying adult males? I purposely cited adult "males" not adult "men." Adult men don't need to be nurtured. Here's why. Nurture Let's begin by defining the term … [Read more...]
7 Things Christian Men Say They Need from a Relationship. Are You Giving Them to Him?
In my previous article, I surveyed Christian men in order to gain clarity on why Christian men date/marry outside of the church. During that dialogue one point was consistently made. “A man needs to feel needed and valued and most women (not just Christian women) miss this point.” This very sentiment has been stated by non-Christian men as well. I believe if you surveyed … [Read more...]
Out-Dated: Dating Advice that Will Keep You Single
There is no shortage of bad advice available to hinder if not altogether ruin your relationship. Most of the time, it comes from well-meaning family and friends (who are likely passing on information that hasn't served them well if they thought about it). They mean well, but things won't end well if you heed this advice. Here's some to add to your list of "advice not to … [Read more...]
Are Nice Guys Really Boring? Or Are You Just Avoiding Your Real Issues?
I’ve heard women say time and time again that they need some adventure in their lives—a bad boy. They say nice guys just don’t cut it because they are boring. That argument has always left me feeling puzzled because I can’t understand why anyone would intentionally avoid a nice guy. Plus, what sense does it make to make such a blanket statement about all nice men as a … [Read more...]
The Single Life: 7 Things Worth Considering for Your Pre-Marriage Bucket List
I don't think my life will end when I get married. I don't think it will begin either. Perhaps the union will be the sequel, the "to be continued" or the "happily ever after" to my current single state of mind. I don't live my life hoping and waiting for a husband. Yes, it would be nice if he comes riding in on a horse or in an environmentally-friendly car, but he won't … [Read more...]
Would You Rather Be Wanted or Needed in a Relationship?
One of my followers on social media posed an interesting relationship question that she wanted me to answer along with other men who follow my posts on social media. She wanted to know what's on the minds of men. And in her inquiries, she asked a question that stood out to me: Is it better to be wanted or needed in a relationship? Although I answered the question some days … [Read more...]
10 Super Simple Ways to End Your Dating Slump
[tps_header]We all have hit a dating slump at one time or another. Where we are dateless for a long period of time or our dates seem to be a continuation of a very bad dream. Instead of moping around and feeling sorry for yourself, choose one of the following 10 ways to get back out there, shake things up and have some fun.[/tps_header] 1. Change your hangout spot Tour … [Read more...]
Ladies, 3 Character Flaws You Can’t Afford to Ignore When Choosing a Man
There is no perfect man or woman out there. If you are searching for the perfect one, go ahead and relax because you won’t ever find what you are looking for. But if you are looking for the right partner to spend a lifetime with, don’t give up. He’s out there. I am sure of it. I think we all have a match out there. Finding someone you love and are able to spend a lifetime … [Read more...]
Dating as a Christian: Biblical Lessons from Rahab, Ruth and Mary
Before my husband and I started dating, I took a three-year dating hiatus. I think the Lord was trying to heal my heart from the relationships that didn’t honor Him. I believe He was also working on some MAJOR character deficiencies: pride, selfishness and a whole bunch of things that would have been poison to a marriage. Once we started dating, I sort of had this cloud … [Read more...]
11 Questions to Ask Yourself if You Are Sick of Waiting for the Ring
Someone recently asked me how long is too long to wait for a ring. I didn’t have an answer because I think so many things can factor into how long a woman is willing to wait for a proposal. The choice to wait or not to wait is such a personal decision. I dated my husband for about six years before we got engaged (and we were friends for four years before we started dating). … [Read more...]
5 Very Vital Conversations That Couples Usually Never Have—Until It’s Too Late
This past week I came across an interview with Queen Latifah, in which she discussed her new role as a caregiver to her aging mother. Latifah shared how much her life has changed since taking on this new responsibility. It was a harsh reminder that as we mature, we will face this challenge in one way or another. Unfortunately, this reality is rarely discussed in most … [Read more...]
3 Lies the Media Tells about Black Men and How It’s Impacting Black Relationships
Have black men become obsolete? This sounds like a silly question to ask until you consider that black men seem to be almost non-existent in the lives of black women in film, television and news media. But, is this true? How does this media perception play out in real life. Let’s take a deeper look. Media “Affectations” How does the media play into this narrative? In my … [Read more...]
Women Say There Is Only One Reason Why Men Cheat. As a Man, I Completely Disagree
Probably like many of you, I consume a lot of social media content. I watch a lot of videos and listen to a lot of podcasts. Recently, a video caught my attention that promised to tell the one and only reason why men cheat as told by a woman. Did it matter that a woman was uncovering this reason? I will admit, it did make it interesting to hear how women form ideas about … [Read more...]
Ladies, You Say He’s Your Dream Guy, but Can You Accept Him for Who He Is?
Men and women alike have their metaphorical mate in mind. And when on the prowl, this fantasy mate is the standard that potential prospects are measured by. But have you ever thought about the cost of dating your “type”? Don’t misunderstand me, every relationship comes with a price. We all have to give and take. However, some relationships cost more than others. Here are … [Read more...]
Take Our Checklist to See If You’re Really Truly Over Your EX
Your period of mourning your previous relationship has passed. So you're ready to start dating again and meet the person of your dreams. But are you really? Here are 15 ways to determine if you are really over your ex. The thoughts of your ex don't dominate you mind or conversation. You are no longer on an emotional roller coaster regarding your ex. Your mood swings … [Read more...]