Divorce. It's the ugly "D" word. In fact, it causes emotions that are the direct antithesis of everything most people feel when they get married: joy, elation, excitement, hope. Rather than these, thoughts of divorce often lead to dread, embarrassment, fear, sadness. We usually don't toss that word around lightly. At least we shouldn't. I mean, not for stuff that's fixable … [Read more...]
6 Critical Questions to Ask Before You Think About Divorce
I wish we lived in a world where everyone is happily married, but in real life, I know that is far from true. Many people are unhappily married and the reasons why are plentiful. Some unhappy marriages can turn into happy ones if both parties are willing to put in the work. Others will fail even if measures are taken to save what once was. Sadly, in some cases, divorce is … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why Your Christian Wife Wants to Be Single Again
Men, what would make your Christian wife want to leave you quick fast and in a hurry? That’s the question I asked my wife. With great passion, she started breaking down the reasons why. She referenced examples from our 16 years of marriage and 14 years of mentoring couples in our business, Family Bootcamp. It got serious! 3 Reasons Why Your Christian Wife Wants to Be Single … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Couples Get Divorced in January and How You Can Avoid It
No one ever wants to imagine that the joy of saying "I do" will one day end in a trip to the courthouse with a request to call it quits. Before getting married, many couples foresee a lifetime of love peppered with challenges. In their hearts and minds, each couple is convinced there is nothing that they can't overcome. Yet statistics tell us that these days, half of all … [Read more...]
5 Things Couples Can Do to Prepare for a Major Life Transition
If there is once thing I know for sure, it’s the fact that every couple has to experience change. Even if your relationship is happy and healthy, change will occur. It’s inevitable. But change is not a bad thing. Change is a natural part of life. What determines your level of happiness and success is not your ability to avoid change, but your ability to manage it. What do … [Read more...]
3 Signs That Your Marriage is Really Worth Fighting For
Marriage isn’t a requirement in our culture. People get married because they want to. Now of course we can debate whether or not folks are getting married for the right reasons, but whatever those reasons are, it is a personal choice. And for most of us, the decision to get married is not one taken likely. Some serious thought usually takes place before people decide to say, … [Read more...]
Wake-up Call: Divorce Begins Long Before She Walks Out the Door
When she packed her bags, and walked out the door he was shocked. He didn't see it coming. What happened? What did he miss? Was there another man? No, there wasn't another man. However, there was a woman who felt alone in her own home. You see, her divorce began way before she walked out that door. Being a life partner now seemed like a life sentence for her. This had been … [Read more...]
3 Things to Consider if You Are Only Staying with Him for the Kids
I grew up without a dad. He was a part of my life when I was under the age of 10, but not a consistent part. Sometimes he was present, but most of the time he wasn’t. I’m not sure why my mom put up with his foolishness, but I suspect she did it for us. She didn’t want us growing up without a father. There wasn’t any indication that she was head over heels in love with him. … [Read more...]
4 Questions to Consider Before You Quit on Your Marriage
If you’ve ever wondered what your life would be like if you didn’t marry your spouse, you’ve probably faced some tough times in your marriage. Sometimes, those rough patches are related to major issues like infidelity, but not always. Sometimes, it can just be a compilation of unresolved issues that have taken place over the years. Whatever the case, thinking about being … [Read more...]
5 Things to Start Your New Stepfamily Off on the Right Track
I am the poster child for blended families. By the age of 13 both of my parents had remarried, causing me to go from being the only child to having three brothers and three sisters. My life dramatically changed, and it took awhile for me to catch up. I've witnessed the good, bad and ugly of blended families. In retrospect, we were all just winging it because there isn't a … [Read more...]
5 Reasons Why Your Kids Can’t Be Your Only Reason for Staying in an Unhappy Marriage
I recently had a long conversation with a friend about relationship troubles, raising kids and the decision to stay or leave. She seemed to be facing so much confusion about the choices she needed to make. I felt empathy for her because I can only imagine how hard it is to decide if you should stay with the man you have kids with or leave because you simply are not happy with … [Read more...]
10 Questions to Ask Yourself If Being Married is No Longer Working for You
When I decided to marry my husband, I had high expectations. They weren't unreasonable, but they were high. I still have high expectations, and I have no intentions of settling for anyone—not even the man I love with all my heart. Thankfully, I have no regrets about marrying him and what we have works for us. We are happy. But things don't always work out this way. Some of … [Read more...]
5 Things that Happen When Your Marriage Is in Trouble and What to Do About It.
It seems every few months we are flooded with headlines, announcing the next celebrity divorce or separation. Real Housewives of Atlanta stars Cynthia Bailey and Peter Thomas are the latest to reveal their marital woes. And according to reports, the couple have allegedly been living in separate homes for months now. This had us thinking. There is usually a point before … [Read more...]
6 Really Bad Reasons to Get Married
I’ve been in several conversations with friends and family about why some marriages end in divorce while others seem to stand the test of time. At some point, during those conversations there is always a discussion about people getting married for the wrong reasons, ultimately increasing their odds of having a failed marriage. So why did I get married? I got married … [Read more...]
8 Falsehoods That Lead to Failed Marriages and How to Flourish in Your Matrimony!
It saddens me to my heart when we look around us and see we’re surrounded by “victims” of divorce and broken families. I use the word victim loosely because as you will see from the below solutions most “victims” could have been victors. Adults and children alike carry this generational curse; it can plague us all through life without even knowing it. So much that you will … [Read more...]