You can't quite put your finger on it. You're not sure what it is, but something's off. For a while, things between you and your spouse have been off-kilter. There are days where you barely talk and on the days you do, your conversations are as dry as the Sahara. Yeah, something's off. Naturally, you become more observant and certain behaviors have your gut in a knot. You don't … [Read more...]
It’s Time You Man-Up: Here’s How to Tell Your Wife About Your Affair
So you’ve cheated? Does it mean your marriage is doomed for divorce? Absolutely not! And by the way, I'm speaking from experience! Now don’t get it twisted; it does mean it’s time to “Man-Up” meaning to “toughen up” or in my Spike Lee voice…“Do the right thing!” Tell your wife about your affair. Immediately, I’m reminded of the scripture 1 Corinthians 10:12, "If you think … [Read more...]
5 Signs You Are Emotionally Cheating
When two people are in love, they don't flippantly make a decision to cheat. Whether physical or emotional, stepping outside of a relationship to get your needs met is usually a gradual process. Sometimes, it catches the cheating partner unaware because it is a feeling that gradually progresses over the duration of a relationship. But, just as much as there are signs you are … [Read more...]
Surviving Infidelity: 3 Reasons Your Spouse Can’t Move Past Your Affair
Someone was recently sharing with me that she was in a relationship where her husband cheated, and what she did to help in surviving infidelity. So, she decided to cheat as well and now, they are struggling to get past the situation. Learn more about this woman's story and what exactly happens in a marriage after a spouse cheats. Surviving Infidelity | Get Better, Not Even … [Read more...]
Can My Cheating, Lying, and Baby-Making Husband Change?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 7 years with 2 girls. My husband cheats and has 2 boys from his affairs. Each time I forgive him and try to get past it. Once caught, he lies unless I show him the evidence; then, he admits it and blames the women for making it easy for him to cheat on me. Sometimes he blames it on his ego. Sometimes he wants favors from the women … [Read more...]
30 Serious Consequences of Infidelity…Take Heed
Infidelity is by far one of the worst things that can transpire in marriage. Trust me, I know from personal experience! It violates everything built between you and your spouse in such a personal way. Majority of us who’ve been cheated on didn’t see it coming…I know I was blindsided for sure! “I am deeply aware of the disappointment and hurt that my infidelity … [Read more...]
Infidelity in Marriage: Here’s How to Rebuild Intimacy after an Affair
If I told you that the day my husband confessed his affair, we had sex the same night. Would you believe me or think I was pulling one over on you? Do you even believe it is possible to reconnect intimately immediately or does the thought of having sex so soon sicken you? Well, we found ourselves in case number one below… Infidelity has a deep effect on a marriage's sex … [Read more...]
My Wife Cheated. Will Being Realistic About It Save or End My Marriage?
Dear Dr. Buckingham My wife and I have been married for seven years and together for 13. I found out last a few months ago that she has had multiple sex partners since we have been married and before. In all my previous relationships I was the one cheating. In this one I have not, although she has complained about me watching porn. Our families are blended. This is my … [Read more...]
A Right Way and A Wrong Way: How to Tell Your Spouse About Your Affair
There will never be a “perfect time” to confess your affair to your spouse. But there will always be a right way and wrong way in which to do it. And we're certainly not giving you these tips on how to confess so that you can go out and repeat the same mistakes again. And these tips are not going to get you off the hook either...you have some serious consequences to … [Read more...]
Should I Get Involved In My Friend’s Messy Marriage?
Hello Dr. Buckingham, I'm writing on behalf of my friend. She has been married for 8 years and her husband impregnated another woman 2 years ago. She decided to accept the situation and forgave her husband. She recently left to go on vacation only to return to find her husband and the mother of his child in their home. He claimed that they only talk because of this child. … [Read more...]
I’m Sick and Tired of My Husband’s Cheating, What Should I Do?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married since I was nineteen years old and it has been a very rocky path. During these years of marriage, my husband has had multiple affairs. These infidelities were only admitted to me after he had a near death experience, in which his present lover at the time showed up to be by his side. I never met this lady before and immediately sensed … [Read more...]
Help Please! Should I Stay with My Confused and Cheating Partner?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I’ve been with my partner for 8 years. He asked me to marry him 2 years ago. Shortly after, he began to cheat. We broke up and he moved out. He continued to see the person he cheated on me with, but within a week he said he wanted to get back together. I agreed, even though he got the other person pregnant. When he came back he claimed he was confused … [Read more...]
My Husband Impregnated a Hood Rat: Can Our Marriage Survive His Deception?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 20 years. We have two daughters. My husband cheated on me with someone that I believe has low standards (Hood Rat). I found out 4 years ago because she sent me a nasty letter giving me details of their sexual encounters. I was crushed! (The man) who I thought was my best friend had become my enemy, not my husband. He … [Read more...]
Does a Side Chick Really Make it Possible For a Man to Stay Married?
I found this statement left on an article I had posted on BMWK just recently. I thought it was interesting and wondered if the idea had any truth to it. Of course it is a very powerful statement, one a lot of wives don't necessarily want to hear or think about. However, could it be true? Are there really men who are able to maintain a marriage because they have a side … [Read more...]
My Spouse is A Chronic Cheater: What Should I Do?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, My husband and I have been married for 3 years now but he has been cheating on me even before we got married. When I was pregnant with our daughter , his ex was also pregnant from him as well. Our babies would have been a few weeks apart but she had a miscarriage. After our daughter was born, he promised that he would stop cheating and I forgave him and … [Read more...]