You can't quite put your finger on it. You're not sure what it is, but something's off. For a while, things between you and your spouse have been off-kilter. There are days where you barely talk and on the days you do, your conversations are as dry as the Sahara. Yeah, something's off. Naturally, you become more observant and certain behaviors have your gut in a knot. You don't … [Read more...]
18 Telling Signs an Emotional Affair Has Your Marriage Twisted
So your spouse may not be having sex with someone else, but they're spending a whole heck of a lot of time “just” talking, emailing and texting! You may ask “does that count as an affair”? Absolutely! An emotional affair, which is a close, intimate, emotional attachment is still considered an affair—an affair of the heart. And there are telling signs that an emotional affair … [Read more...]
Cheating Spouse: 5 Signs You Could Be Cheating on Your Husband
It has become a well-known fact that women cheat in relationships as often, if not more than men. Though the stigma is more often attributed to the husband, wives shouldn't get comfortable and think they can't be found to step out on their men. A cheating spouse is a cheating spouse no matter the gender. Cheating Spouse: 5 Signs You Could Be Cheating on Your Husband You … [Read more...]
5 Signs You Are Emotionally Cheating
When two people are in love, they don't flippantly make a decision to cheat. Whether physical or emotional, stepping outside of a relationship to get your needs met is usually a gradual process. Sometimes, it catches the cheating partner unaware because it is a feeling that gradually progresses over the duration of a relationship. But, just as much as there are signs you are … [Read more...]
Spouse Cheated? 30 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Calling It Quits
After infidelity in our relationship and prior to making a decision to call it quits, I thought long and hard about what to do. Notice I did not say the “D” word! If you are like me, you have learned over the years the seeds you plant and nurture will take root and grow. Therefore, I have made it my business to intentionally not allow myself to even … [Read more...]
The Cheater’s Guide to a Lifetime of Faithfulness
If you were raised in a similar environment to me, I bet you know this two sayings, “What is done in the dark will always come to light.” Sound familiar? It's all too familiar to me as God worked it out alright. Now, I know the headline, "A Cheater's Guide to a Lifetime of Faithfulness," might throw you off. But another saying, “God works in mysterious ways,” might help you … [Read more...]
5 Lies You Tell Yourself When You Decide to Cheat
Lies...lies...lies! Your marriage heads for rough waters when you make a decision to go outside of your relationship with your spouse to get a certain need met. You make excuses that seem plausible because you are convinced that need can't be met within your marriage. But, while it's different strokes for different folks, there are five lies you tell yourself when you decide to … [Read more...]
Part 3: How Our Marriage Became Better After Two Affairs
This article is part of a three-part series to help couples overcome infidelity and experience affair recovery. In this article: The Road to Affair Recovery Stronger Than Ever Build Greater Trust Build Better Communication Build a Stronger Resolve Build a Deeper Romance Build a Sturdier Foundation Affair Recovery | Turning Marriage Around After an … [Read more...]
Adultery Doesn’t Just Happen; 10 Honest (and Some Ugly) Reasons Why Your Spouse Cheated
Why do people cheat? Chances are when you and your partner entered into your marriage, neither of you intended to break your covenants. So why then does infidelity happen? In this article: How Many Couples Go Through Affairs? Unhappiness Experience and Environment Genetics Sexually Unsatisfied Emotionally Unsatisfied Lost Connection Life Crisis … [Read more...]
Surviving Infidelity: 3 Reasons Your Spouse Can’t Move Past Your Affair
Someone was recently sharing with me that she was in a relationship where her husband cheated, and what she did to help in surviving infidelity. So, she decided to cheat as well and now, they are struggling to get past the situation. Learn more about this woman's story and what exactly happens in a marriage after a spouse cheats. Surviving Infidelity | Get Better, Not Even … [Read more...]
My Boyfriend Turned Into Secret Man: Should I Investigate or Move On?
I am writing you to see if I should continue dating my current guy. We have been together for a few years now and started talking about marriage last year. I was excited about the progress that we were making. Then, all of a sudden, this joker changed up on me. We went from sharing everything including Facebook status and money to sharing nothing. Lately, this joker has … [Read more...]
Here’s the One Thing You Must Do If Your Spouse Is Cheating
Have you reached a point in your marriage where you suspect something shady's going on but you're not sure? Now, you simply have to know what’s really going on? Like I always say, “You cannot conquer that which you will not confront.” So, in this article that is part of chapter four (Confront & Conquer) in my book entitled Love After Adultery: The Breakthrough Journey of … [Read more...]
I Am in Love With a Married Man: How Do I Let Go?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been dealing with a married man for a while and I know its wrong, but we just got caught up. I want to walk away and just let it all go, but I didn't know it would be this hard. I fell in love with him and I don't know how it happened. I don't want to do this anymore. I Am in Love with a Married Man, How Do I Let Go? Please help, Ms. … [Read more...]
Affair Triggers: 5 Tips to Help When You or Your Spouse Have a Flash Back
Remember the scene from the movie “Best Man” where Lance fights flashbacks of betrayal running through his head at the altar. Yet, somehow, he finds the strength to marry Mia despite her having slept with his best man Harper. He doesn't allow the flashbacks that could be a setback to keep him from making a decision and commitment to move forward in his relationship. While this … [Read more...]
Here’s Why You Shouldn’t Judge People Who Choose to Save Their Marriage After an Affair
Let’s keep it real. In today's society, it has become way too easy to slap judgment on someone for just about any reason. Now imagine having the label of cheater. Maybe you are like me and know all too well what that feels like so you don’t have to imagine. Well, the flip side of this is being the spouse who was cheated on. With judgments being freely handed down, there's a … [Read more...]