Whether you've been married one year or 50, your relationship, unless well managed, is in danger of losing its closeness and intimacy. The work that is required to ensure strong communication, honest interactions, and consistent bonding is not for the light at heart. Couples entering a marriage sometimes do so thinking these key ingredients happen naturally. And, when they … [Read more...]
How To Keep The Sizzle Before You Fizzle Long After The “I Do’s”
I never used to understand what people used to say when they said things like, "It seems like just yesterday" or "I feel like we just started dating", after being married for 10, 20, 30 plus years. But now that my husband and I are quickly approaching our ten year anniversary, I get it now. I get it because I'm saying those same things. I get it because I wonder how I can … [Read more...]
Why Is My Spouse Still Salty After An Apology? 5 Reasons To Wait For Forgiveness
Disagreements happen to the best of couples. I find that love is an experience where you learn as you grow, yes grow. The same way we discover how to raise a child, or budget our finances is similar to how we learn to develop a successful relationship; basically, by trial and error. Most of what I address here on BMWK is focused on helping couples overcome the difficulties … [Read more...]
These 4 Things Are A Beast In The Bedroom And Your Husband Wants Them All
I want to begin this article of with the bible verse 1 Corinthians 7:4 to help lay a foundation. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Sex within marriage is a GIFT from God! The enemy has taken this gift and made it either gross to some and a god to others. In today’s world, ladies, there are so … [Read more...]
Singles: How Intimate Can You Really Get And Still Remain Pure?
I grew up in a semi Christian home where my mom was a strong believer, but my dad was just a really good man with no desire to go to church. As a result, I became a hypocritical Christian. I said and did one thing in church in order to keep my mom happy, but lived a completely different lifestyle outside of the church. This hypocriticial spirit followed me into my dating … [Read more...]
5 Foolish But Preventable Acts That Ruin the Mood Every. Single. Time.
Once you get married and start a family, you may find it difficult to get in the mood. Demanding careers, busy schedules, and needy children can definitely cause intimacy to be placed on the back burner. Although that may be understandable, you can’t just sit back and settle into this way of life as if it’s the norm. I mean, do you want to end up in one of those sexless … [Read more...]
Lucky 7: The Sex Secrets You Won’t Hear About in Church
Let me begin by saying that I am a full time pastor with close to 10 years in ministry; so my perspective of the things you will not hear in church comes from me spending the majority of my life listening to thousands of sermons. In any sermon on marriage, you will hear the token things when it comes to sex. Sex is important for an healthy marriage; some ministers will even … [Read more...]
Free Couples Webinar: No More Frustration and Rejection – How to Regain Intimacy and Desire in Your Relationship on Tuesday May 19th
After years of being married, it's easy to get into a routine of life. When that happens, desire and intimacy can sometimes get lost in the shuffle of children, family, bills, and career. For some, it's easy to get it back and pick up where you left off but for some - it can cause the entire relationship to shift. You may feel that there is no coming back from the loss of … [Read more...]
3 Marriage Sex Secrets to Spice Up Your Night and Day
Who says, “Romance leaves the building when you get married?” Who says, “Sexual relations are boring and dull when you get married?” Listen, you will have what you say and I say it’s time to spice up the night. Are you with me? There are many things you can do to spice up your love life. Here are 3 Marriage Secrets to Spice of the Night to help you get started. Zing, Flavor, … [Read more...]
7 Reasons Why Your Sex Life is Suffering
Physical intimacy is a critical element of any successful marriage. Even if a couple gets along well and enjoys spending time together, without that physical intimacy, the couple really just become great friends and roommates. And although I loved my college roommate with all my heart, it certainly wasn’t a marriage. So what causes a couple’s sex life to suffer? There are a … [Read more...]
Should a Married Couple Have a Vision for Their Sex Life?
In this day, having a vision and creating a vision board is a very normal practice. Writing out a vision or talking with others about your vision to help hold you accountable is encouraged. A vision for the family, a vision for your finances, and a vision for the future; couples plan for these things. Well, how about planning and having a vision for your sexual life with your … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Have Daily Foreplay
Women often share with me they need their men to be more conscious of them throughout the day, which would lead to the intimacy carrying on into the night. As men, we could do some things better that would keep her fire lit. We know that we have to deal with the kids, work, taking care of home, etc., but it’s our job as men to remind her just how beautiful and important she … [Read more...]
7 Guiding Principles for a Great Marriage in 2015!
When going into a new year, we can't help but reflect back on what we've been through. Our marriage should be our most important relationship, that we should continuously nurture day after day, and year after year. A new year is great time to evaluate the strengths & weaknesses in your marriage, in addition to discussing your vision for the relationship. Over the last … [Read more...]
3 Things Women Should Never Do to Their Men in Public
With more women becoming successful on their own terms, it’s easy to get caught up in the definition of Ne-Yo’s “Independent Woman” and forget how to be in a healthy relationship with a man. I grew up not really understanding the male ego or how to deal with it. Relationships were just not something we talked about in my home, so I had to make it up as I went. The problem … [Read more...]
5 Ways to a Have More Passion & Less Fizzle
Passion in a marriage can fizzle or even feel like it’s under attack. The attacks can come from just the every day life issues we all deal with or from intense stressors that may come your way. Because of the fizzle or the attacks, intimacy in a marriage has to be developed, nurtured, and protected. It’s not easy to keep up a great sex life that’s full of passion, but there … [Read more...]