Lies...lies...lies! Your marriage heads for rough waters when you make a decision to go outside of your relationship with your spouse to get a certain need met. You make excuses that seem plausible because you are convinced that need can't be met within your marriage. But, while it's different strokes for different folks, there are five lies you tell yourself when you decide to … [Read more...]
5 Lies You Tell Yourself That Can Unexpectedly Ruin Your Marriage
If we were all able to accept our realities, there is no question that we would live happier, healthier lives. No matter how painful the truth seems, people who are truly in tune with what’s going on in their lives have the best chance of living happy ones. Embrace your personal truths and your life will change for the better. When you are unable to be honest with yourself … [Read more...]
Women: The Naked Truth About Why He Won’t Commit…At Least Not to You
"Why won't he commit?" or "Why are men afraid of commitment?" There are any number of variations of the same question asked by disenfranchised women just looking for answers as to why the men that they love will not commit to them. There seem to be more excuses than there are reasons. Men have their reasons. Here, we look beyond the surface to find some answers. Man … [Read more...]
Being Mary Jane’s Ugly Truth Episode Challenges Us to Stop Lying About Relationships
When we meet, date and even marry, we really don’t know everything about the person next to us. We are often oblivious to the challenges they’ve faced, the hardships they’ve overcome and the difficulties they endure on a daily basis. If we were honest, we frequently ignore the outward signs of their inward pain and shame and move on with our day. Last night’s episode of … [Read more...]
3 LIES Men tell Themselves that Keep Them from Loving Her Better
You can’t get close to her inside of the bedroom because you aren’t close to her outside of it! Uh oh, did I just say that? Why yes I did! Fellas, I know some of you are out there right now wondering why your woman always seems to be running away from you, when you are trying to be intimate or have sex with her. You go left, she goes right; you try to touch her, she turns … [Read more...]
Three Lies Married People Tell About Forgiveness
for·give verb \f?r-?giv, fo?r-\ : to stop feeling anger toward (someone who has done something wrong) : to stop blaming (someone)- Merriam Webster At some point in your marriage your spouse will hurt you, usually unintentionally, but we are human and sometimes that humanness gets in the way and we hurt one another through words or actions. In order to move past the pain and … [Read more...]
3 Things Women Should Be Honest About When Dating
Some of us are guilty of an innocent lie or two. One that ladies are notorious for and will often admit to is the “it was on sale” lie when coming home with a shopping bag of freshly purchased items in tow. But there are some lies that can really cost you especially when it comes to your dating life. A recent article by Essence’s Kevin Carr reveals 10 things women should never … [Read more...]
7 Lies I Tell My Husband
There comes a time every marriage when it's necessary to tell a tiny little lie. Be it to safeguard your spouse's feelings, or to not "blow a big surprise," or just keeping the peace, I think we've all done it. Although my cover will be COMPLETELY blown when he reads this, I wanted to share a few of the false statements that I tell my husband, some more often than others. Here … [Read more...]
Is It Ever OK To Lie To Your Spouse About Money?
Most of us would agree that trust is the key component to any successful relationship, and few would ever condone lying to a spouse. Yet, in a recent Today.com/Self magazine financial infidelity survey, nearly half of the participants confessed to keeping money secrets from their partner. Forty-six percent of the 23,000 survey participants admitted to financial … [Read more...]
Tell the Truth, Even When It Hurts
Growing up, my dad detested lies. That was the worst thing you could do in his house. He always told me and my brothers to tell him the truth no matter what. Of course we lied, on numerous occasions. Our misbehavior displeased my father; our lies hurt him. Now that I am a wife and a mother, I understand. When we lie to our loved ones, we dishonor them. We take for granted … [Read more...]