Have you ever been hurt by someone you love so badly that you just didn't know what to do? The pain is excruciating and your mind can't stop replaying the harsh words unfairly leveled at you by your spouse, or your friend, or your parent. You wake up each day and a million different emotions course through your body because the struggle is almost unbearable. In this … [Read more...]
7 Ways to Strengthen Your Marriage When Painful Experiences Try to Destroy It
We all know life is about finding happiness and experiencing joy. But as much as we know that, we also know life is about managing the inevitable: pain. None of us enjoy it, and many of us aren’t sure how to deal with it, but we know that we have to face it at some point. And even though many of us know painful experiences will come and go throughout the course of … [Read more...]
Time Does Not Heal All Wounds…You Have To
“Time Heals all Wounds,” has got to be one of the most annoying sayings ever as far as I’m concerned. I’m not quite sure when it started, but it’s just not true. Although its origins are probably well intentioned, it really does set people up for a lifetime of pain and unresolved issues. If you are married or in a serious relationship, there is a chance you’ve been hurt … [Read more...]
3 Reasons Why Forgiveness in Your Marriage is a MUST
You’ve been in your relationship for years, and although you’ve made mistakes, you believe they are pretty minor compared to the devastating mistakes you’ve accepted from your spouse. Maybe she cheated on you. Maybe he squandered away a huge chunk of your savings. Or maybe, it’s a long list of smaller issues that have you realizing this relationship is not what you … [Read more...]
5 Tips for Moving Forward When You Know You Were Wrong
Even the best relationships run into problems from time to time. Maybe someone said something they should not have said. Or maybe it was something that needed to be said but it was delivered in a manner that left the receiver feeling upset or hurt. It could even be about something your partner did or failed to do. Whatever the case, feelings get hurt, people get frustrated, … [Read more...]
Being Mary Jane’s Ugly Truth Episode Challenges Us to Stop Lying About Relationships
When we meet, date and even marry, we really don’t know everything about the person next to us. We are often oblivious to the challenges they’ve faced, the hardships they’ve overcome and the difficulties they endure on a daily basis. If we were honest, we frequently ignore the outward signs of their inward pain and shame and move on with our day. Last night’s episode of … [Read more...]
FREE Couples Webinar: My Spouse Hurt Me, How to Let Go of the Pain and Move Forward with Your Marriage on Tuesday, February 17th
Life lessons teach us that eventually we must forgive and forget if we want peace. Life also teaches us that doing that is easier said than done, especially if it's a spouse. When we get married, we probably find it hard to believe that the person we vowed to spend the rest of our lives with, could cause us so much pain. But, it happens. The thing is, we still love our … [Read more...]
The Ugly Truth About Failing to Forgive
In recent years I have uncovered a great deal about who I am. Some of these discoveries came to light after getting married, while some reared their heads when I became a mom and when my own mom got sick. Life experiences, both good and bad, have a way of showing us who we really are—whether we like it or not. In managing the day-to-day struggles life offers us all, I have … [Read more...]
My Daughter is Growing Up – Dealing With My Own Painful Past
It was a warm summer evening with hints of Fall temperatures in the air as I sat on my sofa reading, I glanced outside and saw my beautiful little girl playing with her friends in the front yard. They were laughing and frolicking about and enjoying themselves as kids should. As I watched, I couldn’t help but marvel at their innocence. They are young and free, without a care … [Read more...]
What to Do When Your Own Family Does You Wrong
Everyone gets done wrong. Unfortunately, it’s a part of life. But who expects to be done wrong by your family? Maybe that’s why it stings a little more, it’s family. If a stranger did you wrong, at least you could fall back on the phrase, “they don’t know me.” I’m telling you right now, even when it’s your family, you can still say, “they don’t know me.” Now, truth be told, … [Read more...]
Don’t Let Go Without Holding On
Everyone wants to let go of their past. Especially when the past haunts you with things and ideals that nearly destroyed your life. We all have something in our life that we wished would have never happened. We all have situations that were beyond our control. Many of those things, could have been different if we had a choice in the matter. But sometimes, life just happens, and … [Read more...]