Marvin Gaye's smooth voice singing "How Sweet It Is to Be Loved by You" is one of the most renowned relationship songs out there. Released in 1965, it has helped couples love and last for decades. But what does it mean to be loved, especially in marriage? Of course, that's the million-dollar question that has a million different answers. I mean, in every relationship, love … [Read more...]
Trip to the Altar: 5 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Engaged
A few weeks ago I spoke on a panel addressing dating, relationships, and all of the craziness that comes along with love. I thought I was prepared to address every possible question, but when someone asked me what were the things I wish I knew before I got engaged, it took me a moment to gather my thoughts. I hadn't thought about that before, but there were a plethora of things … [Read more...]
Wake Up! 7 Signs He’s Stringing You Along
You have off-the-charts chemistry and he says he's never felt a connection like this with anyone else before. Maybe you've been dating for a while, but you don't know where you stand with him. Does he want something serious? Is he just moving slow? Or is he stringing you along? You should be excited that this super fine, successful man is pursuing you. So why do you feel uneasy … [Read more...]
SINGLES: 3 Signs You Should Call It Quits in a Relationship
I'm here to help you find and keep the love of your life. So why in the world would I share advice on how to know when to call it quits in a relationship? Because every second you spend with the wrong one is a second you're not with "The One." 3 Signs You Should Call It Quits in a Relationship In this article: You don't share core values or common goals. What's your … [Read more...]
10 Things Every Mom Should Absolutely Teach Her Son About Relationships And Other WOMEN!
When it comes to parenting, I believe that mothers know best. I have a son and a daughter. They mean the world to me, and, of course, I want what’s best for them in love and life. I didn’t grow up seeing what a healthy, loving relationship looked like, so it is important for me to show them that example through the relationship I have with my husband. As a mom, I know how big … [Read more...]
How Can I Win My Boyfriend Back?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years. He has put me first and treated me like a queen. But I took advantage of that and he is fed up with me. Now that I have realized my wrongs and my bad attitude, he wants a break from me. He says not to contact him and be strong, but I feel like my world has come to an end. I feel like … [Read more...]
How to Stay Together When Your Family and Friends Want You to Divorce
For years, my husband Don and I had an extremely rocky marriage. During those tumultuous years, I confided in a lot of girlfriends. I told them everything he did and did not do. I was painting a picture of him that had them not speaking to him or wanting to be around him. When things were at their worst, I ran my mouth. Straight up. I even convinced myself that I was going … [Read more...]
5 Lessons You Must Learn From Your Bad Relationships, If You Want to Move On
"You know, looking back, I'm so glad he broke up with me!" she exclaimed. It was our last session, and my client was reflecting over everything she'd learned in just a few weeks of working together. She'd gone from no dates in 5 years, to 3 dates in one month! The biggest secret to her dating success was that she'd discovered how to learn the lessons from her past … [Read more...]
Challenge: 30 Days of Service to Your Spouse…Can You Handle It?
Don and I decided to do a 30 Days of Service Challenge after watching the below video by Comedian Mike Goodwin. Mike decided to do something every day to serve his wife for an extended period of time - - 30 days. I thought it was going to easy to knock out. Wrong! The first few days we were enthusiastic about out-serving each other. He made me breakfast in bed on more than one … [Read more...]
5 Signs That Your New Man Doesn’t Value Your Time
When it comes to our work, we can be so protective of our time. After all, time is money and we don’t want anyone messing with our money, right? I get it. I am about my business, too, and I hate having my time wasted. But the thing is, if women can be bosses when it comes to valuing our time in business, then why do so many of us allow men to waste our time when dating? … [Read more...]
Ladies: 3 Signs You’re Being “Trumped” in Your Relationship
"He sounds just like my ex." This is what some domestic violence survivors said about then Republican presidential nominee Donald Trump in a Huffington Post article. Trump's lying, bullying and controlling behaviors during the debates were triggering bad memories of their abusive relationships and they couldn't believe he could even be considered a candidate for the highest … [Read more...]
5 Things to Consider if You Keep Going Back to Him
My friend called me just to chat. Our chat soon turned into a conversation we’ve had far too many times: Should she stay with her man despite their most recent fight? I love her, but these conversations are frustrating and exhausting. And I mean for me. I can only imagine how she must feel. Listen, I understand the complexities of it all. She loves him. They have history. … [Read more...]
4 Books to Make Your Marriage Better, Tighter and Smoother
My husband Don and I have been married for 17 years, however, the first 15 were awfully tumultuous. We argued all the time and just could not get along. I now realize that I went into marriage thinking I would be a glorified girlfriend and that my husband would love me unconditionally until “death did we part.” That lasted all of three weeks. That’s it. The honeymoon and my … [Read more...]
Out-Dated: Dating Advice that Will Keep You Single
There is no shortage of bad advice available to hinder if not altogether ruin your relationship. Most of the time, it comes from well-meaning family and friends (who are likely passing on information that hasn't served them well if they thought about it). They mean well, but things won't end well if you heed this advice. Here's some to add to your list of "advice not to … [Read more...]
3 Hard Lessons Learned When You’re Involved with an All-Talk, No-Action Mate
Relationships are hard work. This is obviously why couples seek out relationship coaches like me. And if you were to ask which particular challenge happens more than any other among my clients, I'd say it's when their partner's actions don't line up with their words. When actions don't align with words in a relationship that can be very problematic—and even toxic in some … [Read more...]