I love to talk. I asked my husband one day what he thought one of my gifts were and do you know what his response was? The gift of gab. I laughed out loud, followed by immediate agreement because since I was a child, this mouth has been going. I can’t fault the man for stating the obvious. Indeed, I am pretty chatty. It’s not a bad thing, though. In many instances, being a … [Read more...]
Are You Teaching Your Partner How to Treat You?
If you’ve read many of my posts in the past, you know that I am big on self-care. I think we should all do things to nourish our minds, bodies and souls on a consistent basis, because without that, we begin to suffer. The suffering may not happen right away, but it comes with time. We all deserve more than that. When you hear the term self-care, you may think of things like; … [Read more...]
Why You Need A Date Night in the Next Two Weeks
One of the things a couple can do to ensure they keep their relationship fresh and exciting is to schedule a weekly date night. This should be a standing appointment that couples make a firm commitment to keep. This standing weekly appointment should be the most important, respected, and valued event on your calendar. Keeping this commitment communicates to your partner that … [Read more...]
How I Met and Married My Husband in 11 Months
He walked into the room like he owned it. “Who is THAT?” I said to myself. I had no idea someone that handsome was on campus. He was the epitome of masculinity. It wasn’t just the fact that he was wearing his naval officer’s uniform. It was the way he commanded the room, as though his presence meant we were all under his protection. The day I met my husband almost didn’t … [Read more...]
Top 4 Reasons Why He Won’t Commit and 3 Ways to Deal With It
Do you ever feel like you're dating a wishy washy man? One day you're in a relationship. The next day he isn't ready to commit. One day he loves you. The next day he wants to take it slow. Why won't he just seal the deal and commit? And what should you do when you find yourself in this situation? I want to take you into the mind of men and share how they think about … [Read more...]
How Can I Keep my Relationship Together when Our Communication is so Poor?
Hi Dr. Buckingham, I have been engaged for almost a year to a 48 year old man. I am 34. He is from Boston, MA and really does not go up there much. But as of lately, he has visited his family because his dad is ill. We have good communication but he decided to visit this past Friday and told me he was coming back Sunday. He has a child from a previous marriage and he was up … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Become a Better Friend
Friendships are one of the greatest assets in your life. If they are stewarded well, they can yield more harvest for you than anything else. The opposite is true when friendships are not taken care of. It is through your friends that you will learn the most about yourself relationally. Here are 3 ways to become a better friend: 1. Examine all your failed friendships and … [Read more...]
Why You Shouldn’t Take a Break from Dating
A common question I get from people is "Should I take a break from dating?" These people are either burned out on online dating, coming out of a long relationship or divorce, or scared to get back into the dating game and they're confused by advice like: "Don't date until you're 100% happy being single." "Enjoy your life. Focus on your career. Spend time traveling." "Spend … [Read more...]
My Wife Is Insecure: What Can I Do to Make Our Marriage Work?
Greetings Dr. Buckingham, I just read a post of yours and had to send you an email about my concerns. I am a married late 30 year old with two kids by my wife and have an older son from a previous relationship. My concern is similar to the post "my-ex does not know we are married". I want to thank you for sharing advice to our community. My concern is that--in my opinion- … [Read more...]
Love Didn’t Make You Do It, But Here is What Did
Letting that woman run all over you. Following that man to see where he has been going. Impregnating her or letting him get you pregnant even when they aren't aware of your intentions. The list goes on and on. Ask that person why they did it and many will utter the phrase "love makes you do crazy things". I'm sure you have heard it before. It doesn't matter how stupid or crazy … [Read more...]
5 Needs Your Man May Not Be Sharing with You
My husband is a pretty low-key dude, and I respect that. You will rarely see pictures of him on my social media networks, simply because he’s not really into social media. It’s just not his thing. His low-key attitude, however, is pretty consistent. He doesn’t say too much unless he really has something to say, and I suspect that sharing his feelings and emotions is not his … [Read more...]
Who’s Giving Your Spouse Advice and Why You Should Be Concerned
Communication is one of biggest challenges for most couples. Many of us struggle with understanding how our spouse receives and exchanges information. This of course leads to frustration. When a spouse feels they are unable to connect with their partner, they usually look to others in their circle to provide guidance. What they fail to realize is not all counsel is wise. … [Read more...]
4 Reasons a Divorcee Can Still Give Good Relationship Advice
I've often heard that divorced people are not qualified to give relationship advice. As a divorced mother, I disagree, and here are my reasons why: 1. I want to help someone else. As a single-again lady, I have learned immense lessons that I believe can help others. Thoughts on how to choose a spouse, what are red flags in relationships, and the topic of decision-making … [Read more...]
Forty and Freaking Out: How to Find a Husband No Matter Your Age
by Dr. Aesha "Maybe it's just not meant to be." I could hear the hopelessness in her voice, even though she tried to convince me she was happy being single. My former roommate was approaching the age of 40 and she was freaking out because she hadn't found a husband. Her biological clock was ticking and since she didn't have any prospects, she figured it'd be easier to … [Read more...]
Ask Dr. Buckingham: Is My Man Too Insecure to Marry?
Dear Dr. Buckingham I am writing because I am sick and tired of meeting and falling in love with men who are insecure when it comes to expressing emotions and entering into a relationship. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now. I am considering spending the rest of life with him, but I am not sure if he is secure enough for me. He appears to have it all together on … [Read more...]