With Valentine's Day right around the corner, many singles are bound to be looking for love. Too often, however, many end up looking for love in all the wrong places. In particular, some who wear the name "Christian" find themselves in a bind because, sadly, they believe the church is the last place they'll find a spouse who shares their values. If you're confused about how to … [Read more...]
Single Ladies, Whatever Happened to the 3-Month Rule?
I don't write very many articles for singles because it has been more than 18 years since I've been single. Therefore, I tend to keep my focus and my curiosity on all things marriage. Well, that was until this past weekend. After a recent ladies’ night out with my girlfriends, a few interesting thoughts surfaced. First, dating overall has changed. Second, the single woman has … [Read more...]
He Tried It. Another Friend Told Me I’ll Stay Single. But Here’s What I Said
God challenged me recently. One evening a male friend and I talked about being single, and he said to me that he was concerned that I would still be single at 35. (I'm 29 now, so was he able to see that far in the future, huh?) The first thing I thought was: what is wrong with being single at 35 and why was I initially so defensive about it? Secondly, what would cause someone … [Read more...]
I’m a Single Woman Who Was Duped into Dating a Married Man. Help Me Never Make That Mistake Again
Dear Dr. Buckingham, … [Read more...]
How to Prepare Your Dating Relationship for Marriage
Not all dating relationships lead to marriage. Those that do, however, need to apply the right tools early on. We don’t ever want to arrive in a marriage not ready to be successful in love. There's something like a reality check that happens when you transform your boyfriend/girlfriend status to that of husband and wife. People often say they didn't expect what usually happens … [Read more...]
Single and Confused: How Can I Determine if He is Serious about Being in a Relationship
Dear Dr. Buckingham, Hello, I need some advice. I have been married and at a really young age of 25. And we have two sons. I knew what I wanted. I knew how my man needed to be treated and he got just that and more. But our marriage did not last long (1year). I have been in and out of relationships since then. I am a very beautiful woman who knows that I need to be treated like … [Read more...]
4 Things Single Folks Just Shouldn’t Do
Last week I wrote an article for married folks highlighting a few behaviors that were unacceptable in a marriage (5 Things Married Folks Just Shouldn’t Do.) I enjoyed the comments and understood that most of the readers felt the tips were common sense. One of the responses really stood out as this individual stated that common sense wasn’t really all that common and we … [Read more...]
3 Ways to Slow Down Impulse Dating
All shopping addicts or impulsive folks can relate to the following dilemma. You're walking into your favorite department store (we won't single out just one) and you look for the items that you need and successfully approach the aisles for payment. Then, out of nowhere, something catches your eye at the end cap and it's something that you're thinking about putting in the … [Read more...]
Dating: 16 Ways to Show You Care without Selling Yourself Short
by Michelby “Coco” Whitehead When people begin dating, the possibilities, both good and bad, are endless. The early stages are usually pure bliss, and often times women struggle with figuring out what role to play and end up doing way too much, as if they were wives and not girlfriends. The female who thinks she is showing her appreciation by “being loyal” or “down” simply … [Read more...]
Singles: Do You Know the Benefits of Dating Yourself?
“Did you come here by yourself?” a girl asked me as I agreed to take their photos in front of the evening’s venue. “Yeah,” I replied, explaining in a nutshell that there were no more group tickets so I came anyway. At the moment it was hard to determine if I was questioned out of pity or out of awe. Either way I got my photo in front of the concert venue, an eager smile across … [Read more...]
4 Ways to Get to Know the Person You’re Dating
Recently, I hung out with my first true love. You know the one. The guy you would have married if only you met him in your thirties and not your teens or twenties. The one you compared other men to a decade after dating. During our conversation, I revealed that I didn’t like scary movies. As a matter of fact, I hate them. I won’t watch anything starring Michael Myers, Freddy … [Read more...]
The Secret to Attracting A Mate: Look Like You Already Have One
Back in my single days, my friends and I would joke about the single life whenever we found ourselves in between relationships. It always seemed more challenging to connect with a potential mate when we didn't have one. Whenever we were in a relationship is when we seemed to attract the most men. We often wondered what exactly it was that made us more appealing/attractive to … [Read more...]